Why are people so discouraging

Jealousy?

I find that those people think they are being helpful in saying things like that. Boosting your self-esteem, while, at the same time, trying to sabotage you with a chocolate cake. Ignore them. This is not for them. It is not about them. It is obviously not being done by them. This is all about you and it is all for you. Keep doing what you're doing.

America is fat...America has nary an idea of what a healthy BF% looks like for the most part. if you're not overweight, you're too skinny.

To throw another possibility out there, maybe they're just concerned? I had a (work) friend once who was pretty thin already, to the point of almost unhealthy. I almost never saw her eat anything. She came in one day with a cup of celery and two grape tomatoes. Apparently this one cup was serving as her food for the day. I asked if she was on a diet. "Yeah, I have to lose another 15 pounds". From what? I don't know where the weight she was trying to lose was hiding. By the time the season was over (winter job), she looked like a poster for an eating disorder. I know that was an extreme example, but since then I've been reluctant to encourage weight loss in folks who already look pretty healthy or thin. It may be people who aren't as encouraging are just worried because they think you already look good and don't want you going too far. Oooor like many have said, they're jealous or just mean etc. The jealousy one is obviously the more likely scenario, but I was just throwing that out there

I've seen this before with other people and every time I think its an issue of jealousy and their own guilt. I think what happens is people see your dedication and it plants this seed of guilt in them that they should be more healthier. Instead of giving you the praise you desrve they go on the defensive and attack. Just ignore them, deep down inside they wish they could do what your doing. You rock, keep it up and don't be discouraged by anyone else.

Here recently this has been happening to me.

At first I was hurt pretty deeply, well really deeply to be honest...... then eventually I got mad !
Now, I just don't care because I know it is their problem not mine. They are not happy with themselves..... it wasn't about me at all.

I am doing this the safe way, counting calories and netting a certain amount.
I have a family that I cook for and they see me eat, and they know I am doing this safely. If I get hungry I EAT !!!
SO to those haters and jealous people I say.... Screw them !

As long as you are doing this for the right reasons and in a safe way then honey I am all for it and cheering you on !!!

For one reason or another one day I found myself at 5ft 3.5inches (the half inch matters) and 184 lbs, since which time I’ve lost 30lbs. I’m still overweight according to every chart and calculation and I’m 20lbs heavier than I’ve been most of my life. I’ve done this slowly over a year. Still my friends and family chastise me for watching my diet and regularly exercising implying that I’m wasting away. I really don’t understand this as they were fine with me being a healthy weight 3 years ago so why all the complaining and the discouragement now? Has anyone else experienced this? It's so demoralizing.

I used to be in the overweight range BMI wise. I have lost 43 lbs & am now in the healthy range. I get people saying I have lost too much weight even though I would have to lose quite a bit more to be underweight BMI wise. When I was younger, I was about this weight, and no one ever said I looked too thin...In fact, I think that I was skinnier then, but a lot less defined. I am more muscular now. Yet, I get that I am too thin...I think that people's perceptions of a healthy weight have changed. I watched the original footloose movie recently and thought to myself that the actors look way too thin that it made them appear sickly. But, then I realized that back when the movie came out in 1984, they weren't considered unusually thin....Our perceptions have changed!!

I'm just trying to lose a few lbs--I just turned 40, and I'm trying get down to the weight I typically was in my 30s--and just become more fit. I'm discovering that I can't talk about my goals because everyone says I don't need to lose weight, I'm already skinny, etc.

Then the truth came out at a recent gathering: "I don't know why you're trying to lose weight; you're the smallest person here." Ah ha! Attempting to become healthier, particularly when you're already seem healthy in comparison to those around you makes those people uncomfortable, maybe because it makes them think about themselves critically, something they'd prefer not to do?

I'm still living with my parents (college student money saving mode) so I get to hear my dad talking about how I need to eat more all the time. I'm trying to control my diet because my metabolism is slowing down tremendously comparing to high school. I put on weights more easily but my parents refuse to understand it. Everyday I come home from late night class (~9:30 ish) they would left an Asian-size rice bowl with various food on the table and say "we left it for you since you will be tired, etc". That just makes me feel so bad not eating it. But... that totally ruins my diet I know they mean well, but ...

I have come to learn that usually these kind of comments come from people who are overweight and not at a healthy weight who want to bring everyone else down. Usually they are extremely jealous and don't want anyone to have any sort of success. These are the kind of people who can give you backhanded compliments. It's at the point, where I have said Gee I guess you would rather me be 200 lbs. and on lots of different medications and miserable, and they shut up, or then they think about it and apologize. It's like your not a doctor or a nurse or someone in the health field, be quiet! What's worse are the food pushers who you should be able to say no thank you to once. It's like they want to see you unable to move much and to be overweight, unhealthy, and very unhappy. It's so sad, and strange. It's like eat til your satisfied and do your moderation thing, and try and eat a nutritionally balanced diet.

For me I have seen this mostly with guys/dating. They seem to like the "extra" chub, and will tell me to put the salad down and eat a real meal. It really gets under my skin, because in my opinon.. a well balanced salad with lean meats IS a real meal... Not the smothered cheddar fries and cheesesteak they are having across from me.

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