It's a bad night. Need someone to talk to.

TattednPierced
TattednPierced Posts: 358
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I'm young and dumb. I make mistakes and I cause problems sometimes. I'm human.
I'm going to vent for a minute.
I'm 22 now. I met this girl when I was 16. We dated for quite a while. She was my first love and we were each others first everything. We ended up going our separate ways, though.
I recently got in contact with her and we were talking again. Tried it all out again. Things were going great, but then she becomes distant.
Today, she told me she doesn't know if it's going to work out.
I'm not complaining, arguing with her about it, or anything. I'm actually hurting. That's a really tough thing for me to say. It's not easy for me to swallow my pride, but being as it's 2:35 AM and I really don't have anyone to talk to about it, I come to the forums.
Troll me if you must, flame me if you must, poke fun if you must. Won't bother me. Just needed to let SOMETHING out.
I feel as if it's 2008 all over again and we broke up for the very first time. Not a fun feeling.
I don't normally talk about my problems like this, especially to strangers. However, I can't help but do it right now.

Anyways, I'm getting out of the forums now. If you want, you're more than welcome to message me, or add me. Whatever. I'm a pretty good motivator and/or conversationalist. Let's beat the weight shall we?

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  • Leonardo_Gosh
    Leonardo_Gosh Posts: 84
    Wasap ??
  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    Wasap ??

    Not much, man. Nice guitar by the way.
    I'm just trying to get this night at work over with.
    Yourself?
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
    Been there man, and it is very easy to tell you to move on but it is not that easy. I guess the best thing to do is talk to her and find out what happend? then move on and never look back. you have been down this same road before do not make it three times.
  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    Been there man, and it is very easy to tell you to move on but it is not that easy. I guess the best thing to do is talk to her and find out what happend? then move on and never look back. you have been down this same road before do not make it three times.

    Yeah, I know what you mean.. The only thing is she has 2 little girls. Whom of which I've grown very attached to. They won't leave me alone when I'm around and I feel as if they are my own.

    Lol, I said I was leaving the forums but here I am.
  • clarkeje1
    clarkeje1 Posts: 1,641 Member
    Sounds like if it didn't work out twice then it wasn't right in the first place. Feeling kind of cliquey tonight so: time heals all wounds, it wasn't meant to be, there are plenty of fish in the sea? But for real though, it hurts now but with time it will get better and you can meet someone else who is better for you. Try to find something to distract yourself.
  • SecondChances1980
    SecondChances1980 Posts: 2
    Awww. hunny. Heartache sucks. Tell me about it..

    It will take time. Try to think of other things. Channel your energy into something else. For now, clear your mind and go to sleep. Maybe you can find comfort that with you many are going through heartache too. It fades, I promise.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Keep your head up.

    Women come and go.

    Just work on yourself and the right one will come along eventually and you'll forget all about this one.
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
    Been there man, and it is very easy to tell you to move on but it is not that easy. I guess the best thing to do is talk to her and find out what happend? then move on and never look back. you have been down this same road before do not make it three times.

    Yeah, I know what you mean.. The only thing is she has 2 little girls. Whom of which I've grown very attached to. They won't leave me alone when I'm around and I feel as if they are my own.

    Lol, I said I was leaving the forums but here I am.

    Always sucks when kids are involved.
  • BlueJayLaw
    BlueJayLaw Posts: 51 Member
    It's going to be okay!

    I met my first love when I was 14/15 and we were together for nearly 10 years. We got married in 2010, when we were both 23. .
    Sadly, I ended up breaking his heart last year and asked for a divorce knowing that we were on two completely separate paths.

    Things happen for a reason!

    It's okay to be sad - just don't be sad for too long.
    It's okay to be angry - just don't be destructive.

    You will get through this :)
  • witchy_wife
    witchy_wife Posts: 792 Member
    Been there man, and it is very easy to tell you to move on but it is not that easy. I guess the best thing to do is talk to her and find out what happend? then move on and never look back. you have been down this same road before do not make it three times.

    Yeah, I know what you mean.. The only thing is she has 2 little girls. Whom of which I've grown very attached to. They won't leave me alone when I'm around and I feel as if they are my own.

    Lol, I said I was leaving the forums but here I am.

    Ah that's tough, its like losing a whole family not just the woman :( That sucks :(

    Really sorry she feels it isn't working. Don't really have any advise or anything, just didn't want to read and run. xxx
  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    I appreciate all of your responses.
    I see how it might seem that I'm searching for pity.. but it's like I said it's taking a lot out of me to be able to come out with this. Especially to people I don't know.
    You're all being very awesome, though. I really do thank you.
  • GiddyNZ
    GiddyNZ Posts: 136 Member
    Keep your head up.

    Women come and go.

    Just work on yourself and the right one will come along eventually and you'll forget all about this one.

    This ^^

    It might seem an awful thought just now.. but yes you need to take some time for you, get in shape both physically (if that's your thing) and mentally and the right person will come along when the time is right.. you are still very young :)
  • skinnytayy
    skinnytayy Posts: 459
    I consider myself to be a fantastic listener but not so much of a great talker. I end up sticking my foot in my mouth. So I really don't have any advice nor do I have a clue of what to say ... I do know that when you're dealing with heartache there really isn't anything anyone can say that takes the pain away. I feel like if it were me, I'd talk to her & see why she doesn't think it will work just so I'd have closure. I had a BF leave me once and I never got a reason. For the longest time he'd pop up in my mind, even though i was 100% over him, and I always wondered why. Granted it wasn't really a serious relationship (I was in 8th grade so.) but it still would have been a lot easier had I of known WHY. Anyway, this will get better with time .. doesn't seem like it now but it always does. Some things just aren't meant to be .. but there is someone out there for you & they will cross paths with you when the time is right. For now, focus on you. & like I tell everyone but it especially is true for guys, its ok to be upset, mad, whatever. A lot of guys don't like to show emotion but its ok. Its better to let it all out. Just make sure you aren't self-destructing in the process. Take care of yourself. =)
  • BlueJayLaw
    BlueJayLaw Posts: 51 Member
    I appreciate all of your responses.
    I see how it might seem that I'm searching for pity.. but it's like I said it's taking a lot out of me to be able to come out with this. Especially to people I don't know.
    You're all being very awesome, though. I really do thank you.

    But sometimes you find that the people you don't know have the most nonjudgmental view of the situation :) and it's usually the most helpful
  • RoseDarrett
    RoseDarrett Posts: 355 Member
    Kids always get your heart don't they?It's hard when you end up falling in love with them and it doesn't quite work out with their parent.

    You don't know what's around the corner,maybe you and her can make it work,maybe not.Or it may not be meant to be right now.You just don't know.Whatever the case maybe,I hope it all works out for you.You're still young.If friendship is all you can have with her,a relationship or nothing at all only time will tell.
    I wish you well.Good luck and hang in there.
  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    Kids always get your heart don't they?It's hard when you end up falling in love with them and it doesn't quite work out with their parent.

    You don't know what's around the corner,maybe you and her can make it work,maybe not.Or it may not be meant to be right now.You just don't know.Whatever the case maybe,I hope it all works out for you.You're still young.If friendship is all you can have with her,a relationship or nothing at all only time will tell.
    I wish you well.Good luck and hang in there.

    I would love for it to be a friendship and I'm hoping that it comes to that if it really doesn't work out.. I promised her daughters a trip to the Zoo because they've never been. I'm getting them to that zoo before anything happens. haha
  • CherishQuick
    CherishQuick Posts: 145
    Hang in there. Focus on your goals for now.
  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    Of course.

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