No I'm not expecting- I'm just fat! New here! Need friends!

I hear ya!

Hi, I will be your friend! We need all the support we can get!

hey, at least you called him out on it, without trying to tread lightly around the situation. Feel free to add me! Weight loss can be fun when you have the right support and motivation

Welcome all things are possible i started my weight lost about a month ago and i have already did a big jump on my weight loss ... i have made several good changes in my life to help along the way ..

If u need a friend anyone can add me :drinker:

You can add me too, and I feel the same way about chocolate, I love it too much, and wish I could be skinny and eat it all the time, but I can't that is how I became fat.

I know what you mean. I have been through the ups and downs many times - working harder this time.
Feel free to add me. Love the MFP support and boost !!

And best of luck for your journey :flowerforyou:
If you work hard enough - you can enjoy that chocolate

Hello, I will be here to support and encourage you along your weight loss journey. I am on here faithfully every day. Don't be so hard on yourself, you will get their. You made the first step, and you will get lots of friends who will support you and encourage you along your journey this is an awesome website. You will have good days and bad, but we will get through them together. You can definitely add me as a friend. Have a blessed week, and you will conquer this. Your Fiance' will love watching your transformation.

Debra :happy:

I just don't understand how people can be so blunt about that. I never tread on those waters, if I don't know for a fact someone is pregnant I don't mention a thing. It's beyond embarrassing & uncomfortable!

Some people are just jerks. If they aren't making dumb comments like your coworker they are saying things like "When are you having another?" and then argue if they say you don't want more. I had one person suggest I just didn't want to gain weight and I barely gain anything with my daughter because I sick constantly (which is why I am done).

I do hope he felt a good measure of embarrassment and apologized to you. I am not the most supportive friend out there (in terms of making blanket "way to go" comments) but I do log everyday and try to comment on forum posts and status updates if I have anything of value to add. You can add me if you'd like.

. Anyway, I was told today at work 'You're starting to show" and it didn't hit me at first, and then it clicked. I replied "Oh, well I'm not expecting I'm just fat"

I love this response. I wish I had the guts to respond to people like that when they are rude. But, I haven't had anyone say anything mean to me about my weight in a long long long time. Not since High School. Well except for maybe two rude responses from strangers and one was a kid who was just well rude for no reason. Anyway, I don't have much experience dealing with that kind of thing maybe cuz I scare the crap out of people. I dunno. Oh yeah one guy at work said something rude but he was like 2x my size and I did some quick take downs, he never said anything mean to me again.

So anyway love your philosophy and it is a lot like that. We have to take one day at a time and if we mess up once we have to move on and not just keep doing it. And if someone does say something rude we are allowed to not care about their feelings when we respond. And it really is more about them than us.

I've been asked if I was pregnant before too, so I COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from and how you're feeling.

I was even standing next to a woman who was 8 months pregnant and someone asked ME how the baby was coming a long. I will never EVER forget that.

If you'd like, we could be friends on here. Like others have said, we could use all the support we can get. xx

Lol, I love the response. Just remember that you can do it and that slow and steady wins the race ( I know that we all want the weight to come off yesterday, but it takes time). Good Luck!!