Love life before and after losing weight?

I haven't had luck with relationships before losing weight (seriously I have dated 2 guys, each for about 2 months, then I broke it off, and I am 26! haha), currently I am about 28 pounds into my 40 pound weight loss and nothing has changed but I haven't really had the opportunities to meet new people so... Not sure if anything will change once I am at my goal weight.

My love life got worse after losing 9 pounds. I was 107 when i met my husband and he loved me that way and now im 98 and he hates to see my bones and he admitted that he is less attracted to me now and that he doesnt even wanna have sex with me anymore. Well..i guess i will have to make a choice pretty soon

no love before, no love after.

I'm a serial monogamist...I've always been in a relationship, pretty much since I was 17 (I'm 37). I've been married for 10 years now, but I've had relationships fat and thin and everywhere in between. It's nice to be cute to get attention but to KEEP someone's attention cute just isn't going to cut it. The size of my body hasn't really controlled how I was loved, except by me.

I couldn't bring myself to have relationships. I would sleep with guys, sure, in a very "I just used you now go away' kind of way, but I couldn't accept their romantic advances.

This. I seem to have become much more scandalous since my weight loss...
As for the unwillingness to try relationships with them, I think that has more to do with daddy issues than weight loss for me. But I guess the sleeping around does also, it's just now there are really attractive men coming on to me, so they're harder to resist than the not-so-attractive ones from before.

I just go on a lot more dates now than I did when I was heavy.

But then again I wasn't single at the time.

Ahem.

Just so everyone is clear on this, he isn't single now, either.

I've always been pretty confident, and never had a problem in my dating/love life: whether I was 130lbs or 190lbs.

Hubby and I met when I was 130lbs. He really likes the way I look now @149lbs. He likes "the way things jiggle . . . the way a woman should." Seriously. He said that to me.

He understand that his feelings, while important to me, aren't going to change my goals. I've got too much riding on getting my weight down.

From what I've seen with friends, there's someone for everyone. You just have to keep it in your head that you deserve the best and not put up with bs from anyone who wants to drag you down or put you in a box, no matter what your size.

I have several friends who are morbidly obese and they are happily married, and they got married while in that shape. (They are trying to diet and exercise together now). They saw the light in each other and fell in love with it.

I have been large (up and down somewhere between 30-100+ lbs over goal) all my life, and have dieted for most of it. I never had a lot of men ask me out so I asked out the ones I thought were worthy. I think I got turned down only once, if that. Most of my relationships have developed out of friendship, not out of blind dates or one-offs, and ended as friends, not destructively. I now have a husband I wouldn't trade for anything. Quality over quantity.

On the other hand, I have a relative who is gorgeous - model level - and seems to have had bad relationships sequentially. She gets a lot of superficial attention but the men she winds up with are *kitten*. I don't know whether it is that they start off that way or turn that way or if that is what she's willing to put up with, but there it is. Quantity over quality.

If you are in a relationship strictly due to physical attraction (big or small) it won't last. Looks change and fade with time. Don't settle for flattery and fake promises; take charge, have a good attitude and you will draw good things to you.

Just my observations.