NSV - Felt embarrassed and didn't know what to say

Jocosase · April 2013

On Saturday, I was at church talking to a friend of mine. He told me, "Hey are you loosing weight? You look like you are?" Believe it or not, but I did not know what to say. I felt embarrassed. I am loosing weight. I have lost a total of 20 lbs so far.

In the past, I would brush off the questions and just answer no. Or I would try and play it off and not answer the question. I am not sure why though. The best I can come up with is perhaps I don't want people to know that I am loosing weight. Because if I am, they will also be the first to notice if I gain the weight again. I don't know.

I know this sounds weird and crazy. You would think I woud answer right away, "YES!". The last time I was at my current weight was in 2002. So, I am happy that I am loosing, but just don't know why I get ashamed and embarrassed when people ask me this question.

I know I am weird, but has this happened to anyone else?

juliabrown1982 · April 2013

I don't like to talk about it with other people because I have to try very hard not to get overly compulsive about weight loss. If I get too compulsive I get stressed out and then I am working against myself, so I'd rather not discuss my loss or gain with anyone. This way I only answer to myself. I know if I have been good or bad in my eating/exercising choices. I understand how you feel, sometimes it is just less stressful to keep it ourselves.

Good luck on your journey!!!!

montana_girl · April 2013

I was fine when friends noticed my weight loss, but always got flustered and/or embarrassed when other people noticed. Not sure why... I was proud of my progress.

Took me a long time to learn to just say, "Yes, I am. Thank you." And then change the subject.

And congrats on your weight loss - That's awesome! :flowerforyou:

LittleDoodlePoodle · April 2013

I totally understand where you are coming from OP!

Once people know, it makes it that much more upsetting to fail, because then you are failing for an audience. As someone with a lack of self confidence and not great at putting myself out there, the idea of people talking about me the way I have heard them talking about others who have done the same, is very embarrassing and scary.

But maybe we need to push past that, because this time we are not going to fail? We are not going to put the weight back on. Because this is a lifestyle change, not a loss?

x

bigvinney333 · April 2013

I totally have done the same thing! The problem with me is that I have been at a lower weight before so I do not feel comfortable saying I am losing weight until I get below where I should be. If I am dieting every few months I am just taking off the same weight. So I feel uncomfortable talking about, kinda like hey just don't look it's all good. I agree with Montana girl, say thank you and move on. Victor:)

sabolfitwife · April 2013

I shout it to the roof tops and tell complete strangers about my progress. I am so proud of myself, why not?!

Jocosase · April 2013

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Very interesting thoughts. I can relate to all of them.

I think I am going to just say thanks and move on.

I am determined not to go back.

Kiwi_09 · April 2013

I don't like telling people because then I get the "oh, you shouldn't eat that aren't you on a diet?"
I count my calories, and I try to eat healthy but I also treat myself once in awhile.
Plus I'm training to run a half marathon, meaning some days I need to really eat after running for two hours, so yes, I'm on a diet and yes I will eat this cheeseburger!

magpie0 · April 2013

I don't like it either. It makes me feel like they're thinking, "hah she's trying so hard but she still looks like ****!"

I'm working on that mindset lol.

NSV - Felt embarrassed and didn't know what to say

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