18lbs down BUT people are lying!
emleecharles13
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So I when I first weighed myself I was 14 stone 1lbs with this I felt huge anyway but knowing how much I actually weighed made me feel sick, so I did something about it. In 5 weeks I have lost 18lbs which isn't a huge amount but all of a sudden because I am on a diet every one around me is telling me how stunning and beautiful I am, I don't need false comments, when I get to my goal weight I want people to notice then not when I haven't even lost half the weight I want to lose. Basically I feel fed up and demotivated! Has anyone else had these types of problems? HELP!:grumble:
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So encouraging comments are demotivating you? I'd say you're losing weight too fast and it's messing with your head.0
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No, they notice I am on a diet and because they think they are helping they try and say how beautiful I am and that I don't need to lose weight. Then they make constant comments on what I am eating and how silly I am.0
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Oh sorry, i miss understood.
It comes with the territory. People feel guilty that they aren't bettering themselves etc.......
Just set yourself realistic goals and achieve them in a sensible way. Ignore everyone else.0 -
So encouraging comments are demotivating you? I'd say you're losing weight too fast and it's messing with your head.
Believe it or not.. False complements are very demeaning!!
I have the same problum OP. I lost about 20 lbs and got some honest complements. The next week I accidently went off track and gained about 10 lbs back (man that really sucked). And everyone kept commenting on how muh weight I had lost since the week before. I wanted to blow up!! But I bit my tongue and said thanks. (and no it wasnt muscle.. I couldnt really fit in my pants anymore.... ) it is really hard to accept any complements.. Especially when you feel so low.0 -
lol thats okay!
I have set the goals and have them laid out in my room, family have gone in my room being nosey and start commenting that I wil look horrible skinny etc just puts me in a bad frame of mind if that makes sense!0 -
Believe it or not.. False complements are very demeaning!!
I have the same problum OP. I lost about 20 lbs and got some honest complements. The next week I accidently went off track and gained about 10 lbs back (man that really sucked). And everyone kept commenting on how muh weight I had lost since the week before. I wanted to blow up!! But I bit my tongue and said thanks. (and no it wasnt muscle.. I couldnt really fit in my pants anymore.... ) it is really hard to accept any complements.. Especially when you feel so low.
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Thanks! I just felt like I was being over dramatic I don't want to lose my way!! :frown:0 -
People just get all weird over it. People always make annoying comments if i scan a barcode to log my food, even though i do it very subtly.
It's pure jealousy0 -
This is why I didn't tell people... I wanted people to notice when they really noticed not just because they thought they should say something. Well done on your loss.
By the way you probably do look a lot better than you think you do. Healthy eating leads to better looking skin, more confidence, etc, Well done
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Believe it or not.. False complements are very demeaning!!
I have the same problum OP. I lost about 20 lbs and got some honest complements. The next week I accidently went off track and gained about 10 lbs back (man that really sucked). And everyone kept commenting on how muh weight I had lost since the week before. I wanted to blow up!! But I bit my tongue and said thanks. (and no it wasnt muscle.. I couldnt really fit in my pants anymore.... ) it is really hard to accept any complements.. Especially when you feel so low.
Thanks! I just felt like I was being over dramatic I don't want to lose my way!! :frown:
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You are not being over dramatic lol. Just honest. 0 -
My family do the same. They've just found out I've lost weight and they won't leave me alone about it. Its all "I can't believe how much you have lost" and "you look ao skinny". Its annoying because I don't think I look any different and I feel ao much fatter than when I started dieting in the first place.
Just ignore the comments like I do and focus more on your goals 0 -
I know exactly what you mean! That's why I've told no-one but my boyfriend that I am trying to lose weight! Don't want people saying i've lost weight for the sake of it and then when they actually mean it you are paranoid and think they don't!0
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This is why I didn't tell people... I wanted people to notice when they really noticed not just because they thought they should say something. Well done on your loss.
By the way you probably do look a lot better than you think you do. Healthy eating leads to better looking skin, more confidence, etc, Well done x
Thank you!0 -
I know exactly what you mean! That's why I've told no-one but my boyfriend that I am trying to lose weight! Don't want people saying i've lost weight for the sake of it and then when they actually mean it you are paranoid and think they don't!
Well telling my boyfriend was probs the worst thing to do, he gets all angry when he doesn't think i have eaten enough. And when im at the gym he goes all crazy telling me what i need to do, little annoying lol! (hes a personal trainer)0 -
18lb is a great achievement - just put your head down and try not to take too much notice of the comments. Keep working away!0
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Bear in mind that 18lb is nearly 10% of your total body weight. This is a very noticeable difference! People may be exaggerating but it is probably only because they have noticed how much better you look. Try taking the compliments in the spirit in which they are intended and don't worry about them being exaggerated!
Stick to your goals, but don't be afraid to re-evaluate them as you get closer to them. Being underweight is just as unhealthy as being overweight!0 -
I know exactly what you mean! That's why I've told no-one but my boyfriend that I am trying to lose weight! Don't want people saying i've lost weight for the sake of it and then when they actually mean it you are paranoid and think they don't!
Well telling my boyfriend was probs the worst thing to do, he gets all angry when he doesn't think i have eaten enough. And when im at the gym he goes all crazy telling me what i need to do, little annoying lol! (hes a personal trainer)
Oh man!! That really has to suck. Having a Personal Trainer for a boyfriend has got to have some perks though. Better than a video gaming, eat anything, unsupportive one.0 -
Only you know how you truly feel! Stay the course and use MFP to trant and rave. I've given up talking to family and friends about my lifestyle change and post on here how i'm feeling or how well i am doing.
I like to support those on here who support me we are like a family if you let people be.
Just keep doing what you're doing and be happy that you're changing your life and those negative comments are peoples own insecurities and disappointment with themselves that they cant be as motivated and determined as you!0 -
Only you know how you truly feel! Stay the course and use MFP to trant and rave. I've given up talking to family and friends about my lifestyle change and post on here how i'm feeling or how well i am doing.
I like to support those on here who support me we are like a family if you let people be.
Just keep doing what you're doing and be happy that you're changing your life and those negative comments are peoples own insecurities and disappointment with themselves that they cant be as motivated and determined as you!
Thank you! Sounds like a great plan to me!0 -
I get loads of lovley genuinely nice comments from people about my loss and how different i look. I understand i should be thrilled and these comments should make me feel good, but honestly they have the opposite effect because it forces me to remind myself of how i used to look and feel. Some of the feelings of misery and unhappy come back when i even think about how i was. I am sure in time this will go away but i kinda feel like i wish people would just not comment at me right now till i deal with my demons. I still find myself going into shops and picking up size 20 clothes even tho i am a 12 now. Has anyone else had this?0
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I know exactly what you mean! That's why I've told no-one but my boyfriend that I am trying to lose weight! Don't want people saying i've lost weight for the sake of it and then when they actually mean it you are paranoid and think they don't!
Well telling my boyfriend was probs the worst thing to do, he gets all angry when he doesn't think i have eaten enough. And when im at the gym he goes all crazy telling me what i need to do, little annoying lol! (hes a personal trainer)
Oh man!! That really has to suck. Having a Personal Trainer for a boyfriend has got to have some perks though. Better than a video gaming, eat anything, unsupportive one.
Can be but I am never allowed days off so i suppose it does work to my favour in that sense 0 -
I get loads of lovley genuinely nice comments from people about my loss and how different i look. I understand i should be thrilled and these comments should make me feel good, but honestly they have the opposite effect because it forces me to remind myself of how i used to look and feel. Some of the feelings of misery and unhappy come back when i even think about how i was. I am sure in time this will go away but i kinda feel like i wish people would just not comment at me right now till i deal with my demons. I still find myself going into shops and picking up size 20 clothes even tho i am a 12 now. Has anyone else had this?
Yes! Totally what is happening with me, even though you put hard work in and you are losing for some reason in my mind im still that same unhappy person eating away her feelings. Im hoping it will go away too, sooner rather than later would be brilliant!0 -
I can totally relate!
I too, started at 14st (and 3 lbs) and I was getting told how skinny I was at 12 STONE (168) and i assure you i did not look remotely slim! I looked slimmER, but people shrieking how skinny i was was simply a LIE.
And when I did get skinny at 113lbs i had everyone on my back saying i was looking haggard and too skinny etc
people can really get in the way when you are trying to do something for yourself. I find that they are full of false compliments when your on the way but when you get there they are jealous and try to put you down.
(some people are wonderful tho! im not tarring everyone, just a few people in my experience)0 -
1. 18 lbs in 5 weeks actually is a huge amount. It's hardly surprising that people have noticed.
2. People around you are telling you you look beautiful, and you're upset? Maybe you need to learn to take compliments graciously. You can't control whether people notice now, or whether they don't notice until you suddenly reach your goal. That's silly. You're making changes to your life, you've lost 18lbs, and people have noticed and are being nice about it. You feeling fed-up and de-motivated about their comments is down to you - YOU can choose how to feel about it. Losing weight can mess with your head, but the people around you aren't in your head. They're just seeing you getting slimmer and saying something nice about it. They don't know your rule about not noticing until you've reached your goal. Take it for what it is.
3. If the people around you are genuinely fake and making these comments to somehow be nasty (which I can't really see from the little info you've given) then either ignore them, or consider surrounding yourself with more supportive people.0 -
I can totally relate!
I too, started at 14st (and 3 lbs) and I was getting told how skinny I was at 12 STONE (168) and i assure you i did not look remotely slim! I looked slimmER, but people shrieking how skinny i was was simply a LIE.
And when I did get skinny at 113lbs i had everyone on my back saying i was looking haggard and too skinny etc
people can really get in the way when you are trying to do something for yourself. I find that they are full of false compliments when your on the way but when you get there they are jealous and try to put you down.
(some people are wonderful tho! im not tarring everyone, just a few people in my experience)
So glad im not the only one! Well done on the loss too! Thats amazing!0 -
They are all sorts of people and all sorts of reason when they compliment - some are genuine and happy with your progress, some are there to make you feel inadequate, some will remind you of how you were, some are uncomfortable to see your changes and feels envious, some wants to sabotage you to go back how you were and some compliments but the words always come out wrong!
Take it all in your stride - don't let the negative ones bring you down and the only one person you need to impress is yourself ! If you are happy with your progress, so be it, and if you are not, you know what to do...that is all that matters.0 -
18 pounds is something people are going to notice. If people's comments are encouraging that's great! If they're not, brush them off and don't let them sink your motivation. Keep up the hard work and you'll get to where you want to go regardless of what anyone does to try to stop you.0
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PI know what you mean. This is why, I haven't told anyone that I am doing this. (Except my husband). I want people to honestly notice a difference and not constantly be judging what I eat or do.0
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Bottom line - you are doing this for you. People think they are helping by telling you you are fine just the way you are, etc, but in the end, it's you who has to be happy with and love yourself. My husband likes it when I'm a little heavier...bet you can't guess why, but ultimately, I like it when I'm leaner, so we're both happier when I'm more comfortable with myself.
This is all about you and there is nothing wrong with that.0 -
First off, from your profile pic you look like a beautiful young lady and in a world of people with eating disorders and some women wanting to get dangerously slim people make comments like that. you must remember that this is something you must want to do for yourself, not everyone else. Don't tell people it is a diet but simply say I am choosing to cut things that are not good for me out of my food choices as I want to be a healthier me. This should not alarm people that you are on some fad diet, or so concerned about your weight.
But for your main concern, if people find you beautiful, (and it is possible even when you do not feel you are where you want to be), they may just be letting you know how they feel about you and not giving false information. Lots of luck.0 -
Dieting is definitely something that you have to do for yourself. Your just going to have to ignore the people that are getting on your nerves. My mom does that. I lose a pound and then she won't let up on the advice for weeks. My husband is the quiet motivator. For instance if he is watching something in the bedroom and I go in to workout and need the TV for a tape or something he will just go to another room once he figures out what I am in there for. No questions asked. He will even leave me "I am proud of you notes" BUT I get what you are saying. It depends on the sincerity and type of encouragement that you receive as to how much it really will work.
Good luck. As the old saying goes "Opinions are like A**holes everyone has one" Your losing weight is for you! 0
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