18lbs down BUT people are lying!

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  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    I somewhat know what you mean - I have people telling me how slim I look now, and I still weigh just over 17 stone - by no means of the imagination is that 'slim'. I'm not as fat as I was, but ultimately, I'm still fat.

    However I don't take it to heart because people are generally just trying to be supportive, and I honestly think that I am a little over-sensitive about my weight anyway, and I can take things the wrong way. I think you are doing the same, by the sounds of it. People are calling you beautiful and you are taking that badly? I'm sure you'd be just as quick to moan if no-one noticed at all!
  • slamina
    slamina Posts: 26 Member
    I never tell anyone when I'm trying to lose weight. I also hate the fake, oh you've lost so much weight, bullsh** comments. Also for me, in case I fall on my face and put weight on don't want to have made a huge thing about losing and then knowing that everyone knows I've failed!

    So just keep my gob shut and if a proper friend tells me I look good, I can say "Thanks"
  • mollyhediger
    mollyhediger Posts: 8
    Honestly I think your friends are starting to notice and the really think you are looking good.. that much weight will change how you look even if its not your goal weight yet. Be happy that people are noticing.. that means you are on your way and your doing a great job! Dont take it as people are lying.. take it as they are noticing your accomplishments!!:wink:
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    So I when I first weighed myself I was 14 stone 1lbs with this I felt huge anyway but knowing how much I actually weighed made me feel sick, so I did something about it. In 5 weeks I have lost 18lbs which isn't a huge amount but all of a sudden because I am on a diet every one around me is telling me how stunning and beautiful I am, I don't need false comments, when I get to my goal weight I want people to notice then not when I haven't even lost half the weight I want to lose. Basically I feel fed up and demotivated! Has anyone else had these types of problems? HELP!:grumble:

    Just because you have a poor self-image doesn't make others liars. You are beautiful. If you can't see that, then maybe you should seek counseling or something. This post makes me sad.
  • StrawberryThief
    StrawberryThief Posts: 115
    I kind of think you need to work on yourself esteem, and maybe give your friends a bit more credit.

    I was looking at photos of myself from a few months ago and at the time I thought I hadn't lost anything, but looking back on them I looked a lot slimmer. also, if you're eating better, even if you haven't lost weight your probably DO look better.
  • toomuchbootyindapants
    toomuchbootyindapants Posts: 811 Member
    Just from your one picture - you don't look like you have a lot to lose. So 18 lbs is probably pretty noticeable on you.
  • bricktowngal
    bricktowngal Posts: 206
    Just take the compliment! From your photo you do look beautiful.
  • retiree2006
    retiree2006 Posts: 951 Member
    Only one comment...I only see one complete day of food since you recently joined but, if in fact you're only eating around 638 calories a day they are correct about your not eating enough. You'll possibly lose muscle and even take a chance on damaging other organs. Please reconsider and go slower but in a healthier manner.
  • annadavidson1984
    annadavidson1984 Posts: 22 Member
    About 5 years I ago I got down to a weight where most people had never seen me before. I was far from being too skinny, but everybody kept telling me I was too thin. They would get mad when we would go out to eat and I'd order a salad. (I actually love salads). I finally quit going anywhere with them!

    Hang in there! Some people are false, others may truly feel you look great, and others want to be helpful.
  • EmilyOfTheSun
    EmilyOfTheSun Posts: 1,548 Member
    How rude of people to compliment you! The nerve of some people, I swear......
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Um... no.

    Why would people noticing your weight loss be discouraging?

    Fishing for compliments, perhaps?
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
    Just from your one picture - you don't look like you have a lot to lose. So 18 lbs is probably pretty noticeable on you.

    Exactly.

    Many of you need to put your insecurity aside and simply say,

    Thank you.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    say thank you and move on. You are gorgeous and they aren't trying to "demotivate" you at all.

    Sometimes, people are just kind.
  • FireEngineRedHead
    FireEngineRedHead Posts: 281 Member
    I know what you mean. After hearing about how "great" you look for so long, you lose motivation to look better, even though you still aren't happy with yourself. Weird phenomenon.
  • AbigailClarke48
    AbigailClarke48 Posts: 35
    So I when I first weighed myself I was 14 stone 1lbs with this I felt huge anyway but knowing how much I actually weighed made me feel sick, so I did something about it. In 5 weeks I have lost 18lbs which isn't a huge amount but all of a sudden because I am on a diet every one around me is telling me how stunning and beautiful I am, I don't need false comments, when I get to my goal weight I want people to notice then not when I haven't even lost half the weight I want to lose. Basically I feel fed up and demotivated! Has anyone else had these types of problems? HELP!:grumble:

    How do you know for sure their compliments are false?
  • amandapye78
    amandapye78 Posts: 820 Member
    it could be worse, I had to lose 36 lbs before anyone else commented. lol. I would have love any kind of compliment even lies.
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    Just from your one picture - you don't look like you have a lot to lose. So 18 lbs is probably pretty noticeable on you.

    Especially if most of it is fat rather than muscle.
  • KimberlyDCZ
    KimberlyDCZ Posts: 525 Member
    I'm still 195 lbs and people are telling me I don't need to lose more. WHAT?! REALLY?! Especially my mom who said it specifically bc she didn't want me to weigh less than her... ugh!
  • NutellaAddict
    NutellaAddict Posts: 1,258 Member
    Nice Rack. Hope that doesn't discourage you.
  • Lifting_Knitter
    Lifting_Knitter Posts: 1,025
    Even though your pants may not fit correctly, it doesn't mean that people haven't noticed a change in your face or arms or anything 10 lbs is a big accomplishment. Good job.
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    Maybe they just genuinely think you're beautiful?
  • cliocat267
    cliocat267 Posts: 11
    I've lost a few pounds and i do get comments about how well I look but people can reali tell when you do lose weight and when people do it movtivates me even more so don't look at it negative coz it will put you off and down just think yeah I do look good can keep with that frame of mind and you should be fine.

    Good Luck!!!



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  • mdorsett221
    mdorsett221 Posts: 29 Member
    It sounds like people are just trying to be positive/nice. I would just say thank you and brush it off. You know where you want to be and what you have to do to get there. Who cares what they have to say...
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    And just looking at your diary... there is probably a reason they think what you are doing is silly. You aren't eating nearly enough.
  • zampi03
    zampi03 Posts: 8 Member
    I hate false praise. I mean, if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything, but don't fake having something nice to say, because I can tell insincerity right off the bat.

    However, you can't control others, and I say you should just ignore it. They want to be supportive and helpful, so just take it that way.

    However, my weight loss efforts are steeped in BEING HEALTHY rather than IM TOO FAT. The weightloss is a side effect of eating healthy meals and exercising. My goals are to run a 5k, be able to go rock climbing without my forearms going numb from overuse, and overall being awesomely fit. I'm measuring weightloss goals as part of a quest to be healthy.

    So, when these people say "you don't need to lose weight" or offer you some unhealthy food, just thank them and say "I'd rather not eat that because it's not very good for you and I want to live healthier"
  • lell22
    lell22 Posts: 13
    I started at 14st (196lbs) on the 2nd Jan and i have lost 21lbs to date ... Was 23lbs but i had a big weekend with lots of booze and naughty food!! :)

    I have been aiming for 7lbs a month on 1200 cals and gym 3-4times a week ... And you know what the worst thing is hardly anyone has noticed!!! A few people but where i have quite an even shaped body its come off from all over so its not as if i only had a belly and thats gone down loads as it was never that big in the first place, i am 5'7'' so fairly tallish.

    I'm hoping when i hit 12st (168lbs) at the end of April, that people might actually start to notice - 2 friends have both said that i wasnt big to begin with so thats why they havent really noticed, thanks girls but the scales tell another story.

    Anyway - congrats on your loss and keep going and make use of that personal trainer boyf, he will have you looking great in no time.

    Lell x
  • marzoh
    marzoh Posts: 9
    Guys i have 1 stone (14lbs) to lose in 1 month, do you think it is possible? i currently work out for 1 hour 3 times a week and try to eat 1200, do i need to work out more? i'm really upset, all help appreciated x
  • Khamerta
    Khamerta Posts: 23
    This is why I didn't tell people... I wanted people to notice when they really noticed not just because they thought they should say something. Well done on your loss.

    I did this too, but then its very disapointing when no one seems to notice at all. I've gone down 2 dress sizes and no one has said a thing.... :cry: :sad: :mad:
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    You're insecure,
    Don't know what for,
    You're turning heads when you walk through the door,
    Don't need make-up,
    To cover up,
    Being the way that you are is enough,

    Everyone else in the room can see it,
    Everyone else but you....

    Don't hate me. I'm in rehab for my 1D addiction...
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    I guess I'm wondering how much you are talking about it. If you talk about it a lot, many people get uncomfortable about agreeing that someone needs to lose weight. Or, as someone else said, they may be worried you aren't doing it in a healthy way.

    You are beautiful. Accept that as a part of yourself and move on from the focus on it.

    Consider these compliments good training for when you hit GW. People will either tell you that you shouldn't be at GW (maybe you shouldn't, not sure on stats) or will remind you quite often of how much better you look now than before.

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