Why we shouldn't be so hard on ourselves...
coe28
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I know it was a great commercial for "DOVE", but the message in the commercial is SO TRUE. The way we view ourselves, compared to how others see us is eye opening. Here it showed the good.
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Blocked here at my office. But still, I don't think anything could make me be less hard on myself. The very few people that saw my progress pic from last night seemed to think it was great, but I can't see past the fact that I don't have defined abs lol. It's just our nature to want to be better, I guess.0
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Blocked here at my office. But still, I don't think anything could make me be less hard on myself. The very few people that saw my progress pic from last night seemed to think it was great, but I can't see past the fact that I don't have defined abs lol. It's just our nature to want to be better, I guess.
Basically...the video is about a forensic artist that had women he couldn't see describe themselves for him to draw. He then had other people describe the same women and drew them according to their discription as well. The drawings of how the women described themselves were much uglier than what other people described and the women were all shocked at how much more appealing other people saw them, when they didn't see it in themselves. It just shows that we don't give ourselves enough credit even though other people do...0 -
It sounds wonderful. I am guilty of this too. I can't stream video at work without network security coming into call center but will check it out when I get home. Thanks for the mental motivation coe28!
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Saw this at home last night. It was an eye opener. Most women do underestimate their beauty. However, I'm pretty pragmatic about my appearance. I'm ugly and I know it. A guy in high school once told me "trade your face for my *kitten*". Not fishing for assurance - just saying that some people know they won't win any beauty contests while others don't know...0
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That was awesome. Thank you for sharing.0
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You're very welcome. It was an eye-opener for me as well, kind of a "wow" moment. I'm definitely guilty of this too...0
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This is a wonderful video. Thank you for this, my day just got brighter.0
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Lovely video. Thanks for sharing.0
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Bump. that is absolutely great0
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Bump because I can't view it here at work and because I don't want to get emotional while sitting at my desk. This sounds guaranteed to make me misty-eyed like a dang baby.0
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bump for a later watch, because I can't at work
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Wow. Watched it and I have tears.0
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That was eye opening. I could feel the emotion from the women at how shocked they were at the results. Thanks for sharing.0
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Can not wait to watch this later! I know I am harder on myself than I should be, I have actually asked people if I really look like my pictures, how much worse I look in person because I just KNOW I must... It is unreal how much confidence I LOST when I lost my weight, and you think it would be the opposite. That is what I am working on now, not judging myself so much.0
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A very inspiring and eye-opening video. I actually saw this on youtube yesterday, and I scrolled down to the comments section, expecting to see reactions much like those seen here. It really saddened me -it was mostly filled with lots of arguments about how we shouldn't care about beauty anyway, claims that the forensic artist intentionally made the second image look better, how they should have taken legitimately "ugly" people to do this, and a bunch of other excuses to explain what happened other than the simple fact that we should feel more positively about ourselves. It's sad that we see ourselves this way - and even sadder that some people feel the need to go to every extreme to deny that it is a problem that impacts our lives. Should beauty and appearances be as important as they are? No, and almost anyone will tell you in abstract terms that "personality is more important than beauty." But there really is no denying that beauty is important to us - we all are judgmental people. We make conclusions and come to decisions often based on what our eyes see. Our own confidence is based on how we feel others perceive us to be, from the outside in. We're human and that's how we are. But thanks to all you lovely MFP people who can appreciate this video - it really is a refreshing contrast to the comments I saw yesterday.0
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This was closer to my reaction. Thank you.0 -
Saw this at home last night. It was an eye opener. Most women do underestimate their beauty. However, I'm pretty pragmatic about my appearance. I'm ugly and I know it. A guy in high school once told me "trade your face for my *kitten*". Not fishing for assurance - just saying that some people know they won't win any beauty contests while others don't know...
Don't be so hard on yourself. Your blue fur is very fetching.
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I watched this last night...and it made me cry. We are so hard on ourselves. We see flaws no one else does, see our differences as bad rather than special and beautiful. We've been lied to all our lives...we don't need to look like a supermodel or a Hollywood star to be beautiful. We already are. And we are sometimes the last ones to know it.0
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WOW! So thankful you shared this video. I'll be passing it on to some of my family and friends. Very eye opening. Thank You :flowerforyou:0
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For what it's worth, I'm less attracted to magazine models than I am to many of the "normal" ladies who come in to my store every day. I love women who do not want to mimic the supermodels, but are confident and happy with who they are.0
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That is beautiful. it sure does give you a reality check. thankyou for sharing 0
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I saw that on Facebook tonight. Cried a little. 0
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This was moving.. Thank you for sharing...0
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I'm just going to ahead and post my exact response that I gave the last time I saw this video. Don't get me wrong. It's touching and yes, we do tend to view ourselves harshly. And I appreciate the fact that the OP didn't single out women in this thread. However, I still feel that the overall tone of Dove did. I think it's a marketing ploy to play on the self esteem of women and I think it's offensive that it's directed towards women as if men don't have negative opinions on their body as well. I think it feeds into the stereotype that women are these completely insecure people that need reassurance that they look good. Furthermore I think it's laughable that they have some white night forensic artist to come in and give them a pat on the shoulder and tell them their pretty.
My 2 cents anyways.0 -
Saw this at home last night. It was an eye opener. Most women do underestimate their beauty. However, I'm pretty pragmatic about my appearance. I'm ugly and I know it. A guy in high school once told me "trade your face for my *kitten*". Not fishing for assurance - just saying that some people know they won't win any beauty contests while others don't know...
a guy in high school told me I looked like a potato on stilts. I'll never forget that.
funny how high school schit stays with you, even years and years later.0 -
bump for later!0
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Thank you! Tears sniff, sniff.0
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