Tired of being unhappy...

yuko120
yuko120 Posts: 36
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I gotta be honest. This is not the first time I tried this. I created an account on MFP like an year ago, and I lost like 30lb, but I stopped tracking and eventually quit. I hate myself for giving-up. I had so many supportive friends on here, and I let them and myself down. Yes, I gained back that 30lb I lost...and more.

I'm back, because I'm just so tired of being unhappy. Everyone I know would tell you I'm always smiling and I'm a happy person. I'm very friendly, and I love to talk. I have a very out-going personality, and people rarely see me angry or sad...but inside, I'm crying & screaming for help. I'm constantly depressed about not only my weight, but about personal stuff, and use food to comfort me.

I'm married to a bodybuilder. He's 6ft 1in, and between 220~240lb of pure muscle with less than 5% body fat. I'm 5ft 1in, and currently 220lb with 47% body fat (that means almost half of my body is all FAT!!). I was smaller when he met me...but I've never been skinny. I think I was between 140~160lb (which is still technically overweight, but I still felt comfortable).

Everybody thinks losing weight should be easy if my husband practically lives in a gym. Not true. It's actually harder for me. He works-out a lot, but he eats whatever he wants (unless he's dieting for one of his competitions). He loves to eat, so I cook for him all the time, and I can't help but eat what I make. Since he does his strict diet before competitions, when he doesn't compete, he doesn't want to eat all the healthy stuff (because he's so sick of it). Which messes me up, because he wants to eat all the food I shouldn't eat. How can I eat salad when I'm cooking Chicken Alfredo pasta for him?

Anyway....I made a decision to do it for real this time. No more quitting. No more feeling sorry for myself and making excuses not to get healthy. I'm tired of being out of breath just to climb up to my 3rd floor apartment. I'm tired of having to hold my breath and suck my stomach in, just to tie my shoes. I'm tired of not fitting into any of my nice clothes and always feeling ugly and fat. Though I want my husband to think I'm sexy again...I'm not doing it only for him. I'm doing this for myself...because I'm just tired of being unhappy. I'm a good person, and I deserve to be happy. There's so much I want to do in life, and my weight is holding me back from it all. I can be so much more than I am now. I decided to get healthy the right way....but I need MFP friends back for support.

Thanks for listening, and hope to start this journey with some amazing people. Feel free to add me as your friend if you want to do this together. :-)

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  • shrinkingvoilet
    shrinkingvoilet Posts: 1
    I have a similar story Yuko, but I this is my first time here. I hope that we can support each-other! I need to lose 30 lbs!
  • OMGeeeHorses
    OMGeeeHorses Posts: 732 Member
    my ticker doesn't lie, feel free to add me :) I am trying to push forward past the need to over eat and just be HAPPY AND HEALTHY :)
  • jmsharp1
    jmsharp1 Posts: 29
    I'm 28, 5'3 and have dieted my whole life. I'm now a mother of 3 and after 3 pregnancies in 5 years, I;ve got to do something! I get motivated and do good but see no results = quiting and still being miserable.. Maybe this will work this time! Happy to support and help and listen for anyone whos ready too!!
  • gigi_RN2013
    gigi_RN2013 Posts: 141 Member
    I think everyone feels the same as you. You're not alone. Don't give up! Just keep going even though it's hard. You can add me if you want :)
  • yuko120
    yuko120 Posts: 36
    Everyone, thank you for all the support. I'm feeling positive about everything already. What a difference it makes when you don't feel like you're all alone in what seems to feel like a long journey.
  • Sunshine2plus2
    Sunshine2plus2 Posts: 1,492 Member
    You can do it!!
  • Qtmommy3
    Qtmommy3 Posts: 7 Member
    I know exactly how you feel! Fist time here... I'm hoping this time I can lose..and keep 30lbs off for good...letsvdonthis together add me If u want :D
  • JenevaMarie
    JenevaMarie Posts: 35 Member
    Your not alone. We are all in the same boat, don't give up. Sent you a request. Good luck to you :)
  • abheshek
    abheshek Posts: 525 Member
    work is worship.....do your work and forget about the result
  • SteelySunshine
    SteelySunshine Posts: 1,092 Member
    You cook for your husband?
  • royvor
    royvor Posts: 271
    I am with you. I just sent you a friend request. I feel the same way you do about happiness and how this is a state of mind we all deserve to have and feel. Lets fight for it and the only way is by changing our mind to change our body and through hard work and in this weight loss journey/lifestyle change we will accomplish it.
  • Bcmay13
    Bcmay13 Posts: 11
    I know exactly how you feel. I'm new here and I'm so glad. Could use the motivation as well as a few friends.
  • 55559191na
    55559191na Posts: 2
    Hi Yuko
    Thank you for sharing your story.
    I am new and I really have hope that this program it is for me. I am open to any suggestions since I am learning from all of you.
    I need to loose at least15 pounce but it is harder to loose because of my age (59). I am determine to continue to this program and I like it.
    I know that you are going to do very well and reclaim your happy spirit back soon. Be gentle with your self.
    With loving
    Nico
  • OMGeeeHorses
    OMGeeeHorses Posts: 732 Member
    work is worship.....do your work and forget about the result

    this is a good one :), I try to stay away from my scale and measuring tape and I notice I am a lot happier and work out a lot more!
  • AshleyChanel88
    AshleyChanel88 Posts: 8 Member
    You're definitely not alone. It's not easy to log every single thing that you eat. Our lives are super busy as it is, but with the right motivation you can do it! Feel free to add me. Good luck to you dear. :-)
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    Good luck! Welcome back. I also found it hard not to eat what I cooked but I did it or at least sometimes had smaller portions of it.
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
    Yeah just because your significant other is in really good shape, it certainly doesn't make it any easier to get in shape yourself! I definitely understand that one from experience

    Just stay consistent you got it!
  • sjoaquin
    sjoaquin Posts: 63
    I feel the same way, I dont even want to go out or do dinner or anything like that because of the dressing up part. i hate not fitting into anything or buying anything that i feel looks right on me. This used to be my fun was to dress up and go to dinner or out, since i work 60 hrs a week. With 5 kids this is rare to do, im new to mfp and today i weight in after a week :) trying really hard but its really hard to keep up with especially since i LOVE FOOD!
  • Darmonatrix
    Darmonatrix Posts: 35
    add me chick - ill whinge when your naughty and cheer when you do good :)
  • super_J73
    super_J73 Posts: 257 Member
    You can do this. I felt the exact same way. I was so unhappy and stayed home because I was so embarrassed of how I let myself go. It takes hard work, and determination. I can tell you that my life has changed for the better. I'm a happy. I feel like I'm a better Mother as well.
    Also, I'm a huge emotional eater. When I get the urge (which is a lot) I make sure I have healthy choices in the house, and brisk walking with my ipod has helped so much, nothing like music to get you in a good mood!

    You've got this!!! :smile:
  • mamamiller46
    mamamiller46 Posts: 1
    I can SO relate to what you are saying, this is so me it seems like you was writing about me.
    Last weekend my daughter told me about MFP and so I am VERY new at this but oh my gosh I SO love it ! I must say though I think loosing weight has got to be one of the hardest things to do in life. But I really have a positive attitude that I am going to do it this time - I SO need to! Please feel free to add me if you like - I think (know) having those to talk to is one very important tool to help us along our journey of loosing weight. Thanks for your message & GOOD LUCK !!!
  • katper15
    katper15 Posts: 21
    I just started again yesterday too and am so ready for a do over. I'll send you a request. Keep tracking!!
  • michelefrench
    michelefrench Posts: 814 Member
    welcome back, and good luck!! I cook for my husband too...sometimes I "healthy it up" and we both eat it, sometimes we have the same side dish but seperate proteins, sometimes its 2 totally different meals...I cook a lot of my stuff ahead of time so its ready to go and I can cook his dinner while mine is more just reheating...is it more work, yeah...is it worth it to me, yes!!
  • jmsharp1
    jmsharp1 Posts: 29
    Girl my husband is in excellent shape and it comes so easy for him to lose any extra weight he might want! I'm a stay at home mom and with my husbands schedule there is weeks I'm cooking 3 meals a day! Of course you have to taste it. Even being from the south I cook very healthy, and not to toot my own horn but I'm a pretty awesome cook! However all the healthy cooking in the world won't help if I can't control how much of it I stuff in my mouth!!! Haha I find it much easier to stay on top of my diet when he's at work! I also find if I basically eat the same things daily its easier not to stray. I'm wishing us all luck! Loosing weight used to come relatively easy for me pre kids, I could skip a meal or 2 and feel better, now I can look at food and gain 5lbs! So together with help and motivation we can do it!
  • emilykins13
    emilykins13 Posts: 21
    let me tell you i feel the same way but im 14 and 189 i did have a lot of encouragement but i just got those depressed days and let myself down so i quit and now im back and hopefully here to encourage people like they did me its okay to have those depressed days you just have to fight back and say im not a quiter

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