Assumptions about motivations (Rant)

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Does anyone else ever get annoyed at the way that some people here and IRL, make assumptions about the motivations behind other people's behaviors? I see it a lot around here. It is mostly in the "Why are people so mean" threads and sidebars, but it's not exclusively there. I occasionally get flme PMs about my posts and they show up a lot in there as well. Point is, unless you talk with the individual involved, you don't know why they are doing what they are doing. Just dont' tell me why I am doing something. Here are some of the more common assumptions that get to me:

"Aren't we all here for the same thing: to support each other an motivate each other?" - Uh. No. I am here to log my calories and get myself fitter. The social aspect is a nice side feature. I do support my friends, and try to offer advice on the forums, but that is not my primary purpose in being here.

"You bullies are only mean like this because you are on the internet. You wouldn't say that to someone's face." - Uh. yeah I would. I am probably a little nicer here than I am IRL, because this lacks tone of voice and other non-verbals that would help convey my tone.

"You are only being a bully to make yourself feel better about yourself" or "You are a bully because you.." were never hugged, are sexually frustrated, have no other life, etc. - Uh. Once again - No. I get and give plenty of hugs. I have a sex life. I am well adjusted in society, I am if anything overloaded with work, running my kids around, volunteerism. I have plenty of other life. If anything I need to cut back. Maybe I just talk that way because I don't like to be indirect. Why *****foot around a subject. If someone needs to hear something, let them say it.

"You just are..", sarcastic, or not taking it seriously, "...because you want to...", be mean, bully, be rude, etc. Uh. - no..well sometimes. Usually, I just joke. I was the fat jolly guy. I always use humour in many situations. If it is in a serious thread, it may be an attempt to defuse things. Sometimes because y'all leave a perfect setup that can not be resisted. Sometimes humour is not necessarily a bad thing, especially in a potentially divisive or inflammatory subject. Why can't we have fun while trying to lose weight, get fitter, maintain, or whyever we are here?

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