Question about dieting for MEN...

My husband is ready to lose some weight. He is 225, 5'11. He has mostly belly fat. He doesn't know where to start. Any guys/gals out there care to weigh in on this. Of course we know to start with his eating habits. He eats a lot of fried food, candy,chips and sugary drinks. He is not used to eating breakfast as he is a teacher and gets up really early. He wants to add in weights again, but I think he needs to lose some weight first. Idk. Suggestions would be wonderful!

Thank you,

Jessica

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  • manderson27
    manderson27 Posts: 3,510 Member
    Diet is really important of course but I would say start the weights right away. No need to wait until he has lost some weight. Lifting stuff up and down will help maintain his muscle mass as he loses weight, also muscle helps burn calories so it is important to keep as much of it as possible while dieting.

    If it is something that he wants to do and enjoys doing then encourage him to get stuck in right away.

    Best of luck :flowerforyou:
  • croooz
    croooz Posts: 48 Member
    First of all do not buy into the myth that he needs to eat breakfast. If he wants to start with weights then by all means encourage him to do so. A good routine is Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe or google StrongLifts. The diet is very important but I would recommend that he not change his diet at this point but merely track his food here at MFP. Tracking seems, for most at least, to help us self-regulate. There's a good program that combines diet and exercise for an ideal waist-to-shoulder ratio called the Adonis Golden Ratio. If he googles that it might put everything into perspective and give the info on diet he will need.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,030 Member
    A weight lifting regimen can be added on the bat, but of course it would have to be very basic. Breakfast is a personal thing (I don't eat it), but what's more important is getting the right macro/micro nutrients daily and within a calorie restriction.
    Do you belong to a gym? If so get a GOOD trainer to help him get started. If not, he can just start with bodyweight exercises (although form is important to pay attention to since doing it by oneself won't give one feedback on it) and walking.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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  • Mock_Turtle
    Mock_Turtle Posts: 354 Member
    The very first thing you should do is have him eat the way he normally does but log everything for say 3-4 days. Get a good handle on how many calories he is consuming.

    Then when you tell him what he should be consuming based on his BMR and activity level, he will get the message. Once he realizes how much less food he has to eat, then it's time to start deciding what how to do it.

    There are 2 ways:

    1. Eat everythig/drink everything that he normally does, but just eat less of it

    2. Start ditching any sugar drinks, processed cakes, chips, fried chicken aka junk


    There's no reason he "has to" do #2. If he just cuts calories he'd be fine. But #2 will probably leave him feeling more hungry durng the day.
  • cpudoc64
    cpudoc64 Posts: 135
    You said it right here...cut all this stuff out plus no more HFCS(high frutose corn syrup)..."He eats a lot of fried food, candy,chips and sugary drinks". He needs to learn to read labels and talk to his doctor first before starting a cardio and weight training program.
    He does all that, he'll do fine. It worked for me.
  • Flowers4Julia
    Flowers4Julia Posts: 521 Member
    Here would be a new twist for him (and you) read up on Primal Eating (not as strict as paleo). MarksDailyApple.com. go to "start here page. It is a great education about how our bodies were designed to eat from way back. It really turned the tide for me. It may be interesting for you guys too. :)
  • Railr0aderTony
    Railr0aderTony Posts: 6,803 Member
    Please do not take this wrong but why isnt he asking? You can not lose the weight for him nor can you force him to do it. He needs to eat at a sensible calorie deficit. I would agree with Mock_Turtle to have him log everything for a few days without changing a thing , Knowledge is power and just the logging alone could be enough to have him change a few things. If he wants to lift then by all means go lift, there is no reason for him to lose weight first. Best of luck to him and you.
  • twinsmom7602
    twinsmom7602 Posts: 55 Member
    Please do not take this wrong but why isnt he asking? You can not lose the weight for him nor can you force him to do it. He needs to eat at a sensible calorie deficit. I would agree with Mock_Turtle to have him log everything for a few days without changing a thing , Knowledge is power and just the logging alone could be enough to have him change a few things. If he wants to lift then by all means go lift, there is no reason for him to lose weight first. Best of luck to him and you.

    Not taking anything the wrong way, lol. He is a big computer dummy. :) He doesn't even do FACEBOOK, lol. He has access to a gym where he works, he said that is going to be his first plan of action. As with a lot of guys he has the Belly Fat problem. I looked up a few things, and the food choices are what makes him shy away from wanting to diet. My man is a meat potato and bread man. He doesn't do anything FANCY, per say, which a lot of these diet plans I've looked into. Damn, if they made a meat, tater and bread diet, he'd be one happy camper.

    Thank you for all the idea's, I think I am going to make him a MFP account. :)
  • Skrib69
    Skrib69 Posts: 687 Member
    If that's what he likes to eat, then try this.....

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p00vq8c6

    It's a TV program over here in the UK, and they started off called The Hairy Bikers, focussing on all the foods you have mentioned - meat, pies, bread..... Then they realised they were putting on weight and named themselves The Hairy Dieters and reworked all their recipes to be more diet friendly without sacrificing flavour and, most importantly, menu.

    As with all these TV things, they brought a book out which you can buy on-line. I would hope you can get it where you are, if not then shipping to the States shouldn't be a fortune.

    I don't have the book myself, and I can't promise that it will solve all his issues, but it could well be a good place to start!

    Good luck!
  • Focus on eating better then, if he isn't confident to start weights right now. Men generally have 'belly fat'. It's where the majority of men naturally store it. It'll decrease as he loses weight.
  • sijomial
    sijomial Posts: 19,809 Member
    1/ Tracking - will reveal where his excess calories are coming from.

    2/ Diet - don't exclude anything to avoid that "I'm on a diet feeling". No fad diets. No "diet" foods. No excluded food groups. Hopefully eating habits will change and improve in response to tracking. Portion size is very important. Don't worry about breakfast - eat it if you want to, don't if you don't want to.

    3/ Deficit. A small deficit over a long period through lifestyle changes is perfect.

    4/ Exercise. Strength and cardio - both, it shouldn't be one or the other. Start now, absolutely no reason to wait and a very good reason is to maintain muscle mass while dieting. At target weight he will then be closer to his ideal body rather than just a smaller version of a fat and unfit person. Exercise that you enjoy is the key to keeping going.

    5/ Take measurements and don't just relate success to a number on the scales. Most men like targets so make some fitness/strength targets as well as pounds lost.
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  • twinsmom7602
    twinsmom7602 Posts: 55 Member
    1/ Tracking - will reveal where his excess calories are coming from.

    2/ Diet - don't exclude anything to avoid that "I'm on a diet feeling". No fad diets. No "diet" foods. No excluded food groups. Hopefully eating habits will change and improve in response to tracking. Portion size is very important. Don't worry about breakfast - eat it if you want to, don't if you don't want to.

    3/ Deficit. A small deficit over a long period through lifestyle changes is perfect.

    4/ Exercise. Strength and cardio - both, it shouldn't be one or the other. Start now, absolutely no reason to wait and a very good reason is to maintain muscle mass while dieting. At target weight he will then be closer to his ideal body rather than just a smaller version of a fat and unfit person. Exercise that you enjoy is the key to keeping going.

    5/ Take measurements and don't just relate success to a number on the scales. Most men like targets so make some fitness/strength targets as well as pounds lost.

    OP, have him read all of this. It's pretty much spot on.


    Thank you to everyone who took the time to reply... :) I am definetly going to show him this thread. Knew I could get the right answers from this forum. Ya'll rock!
  • FlaxMilk
    FlaxMilk Posts: 3,452 Member
    If he wants meat, potatoes, and bread, he can eat them every day. He just has to budget them in like anything else. I would never give up potatoes for any diet.

    And darn. Now i want potatoes and I don't have any.
  • ParkerH47
    ParkerH47 Posts: 463 Member
    i think a lot of the posters have covered most of the key parts.

    just a couple things to add - I agree that breakfast is not necessary. Its true that many studies suggest it is good for you, but that is from people who ignore their hunger signals and skip breakfast - forcing them to over eat at lunch or even dinner. The key is to re-learn the true hunger signals. Eat when you are hungry not because its lunch time or breakfast time and you think you should eat. Stop eating when you are 80% full - not stuffed. This helps to eat less of what ever food he chooses to eat.. be it veggies or meat and potatoes. also if he is resistant to changing his meat and potato ways just change slowly - make managable changes that are easy to keep for life. Use a lower fat coffee cream, choose leaner cuts of beef, try sweet potato fries, and a couple more veggies, try using olive oil instead of butter, whole wheat bread instead of white. Then transition into what ever healthy choices he is comfortable with :)

    edit: where ever i use "you" i meant "he" lol!
  • twinsmom7602
    twinsmom7602 Posts: 55 Member
    Thanks again everyone. We, or should I say he, is on his way. We (he) shall see what happens. :)