sick of the short jibes

Really? I'm not sure there's much people on here can do to help you? It may be time to go and see a doctor if you really genuinely feel this bad?

Really? I'm not sure there's much people on here can do to help you? It may be time to go and see a doctor if you really genuinely feel this bad?

I think that's the whole point. Some people are just looking for some sort of support.

But anyway, I'm sorry if that's the card that you've been dealt but you should make the most of your situation. I know a lot of short girls and I'm guilty of poking fun of their height, but it's how you respond that makes the difference.

Keep a good attitude and you'll find that with a good personality, height means nothing.

I get it sometimes but really just shrug it off or just try to laugh about it. From your pics you're not fat!

I'm short and I think being short is great. I wouldn't want to be taller, in fact I think I'd get vertigo. Comments about my height don't really bother me, I tend to reply with a joke or tell them how great short people are. If they're trying to take the mick in a nice way then I'll point out that I'm stronger than most people who are taller than me, although if anyone is actually being unkind about it, then I'll stop spending time with them.

You may see the comments as jibes... but they could be compliments. When I lived in Saudi I had a friend who was very tall. I didn't actually notice how tall she was, because everyone's taller than me and how much taller doesn't really register with me. However, she was very paranoid about being tall, and wished she was short. So coming from her, or someone with a similar attitude, comments on how short you are would be compliments. Just about every woman on the planet has her insecurities about appearance, because we tend to view our perceived imperfections through a magnifying glass, while others don't see them at all, or they see things we don't like about ourselves as something they wished they had.

Since I moved to the middle east, I have found that where I hated my pasty-white glow in the dark skin and wished I had olive skin.... olive skinned Arab women are jealous of my pasty-white glow in the dark skin. They even sell skin lightening creams over here, just like in the west you get fake tan and sunbeds; and where I didn't much like straight hair and wished it was curly.... Arab women with beautiful curly hair wish they had straight hair like mine and go to beauty salons to get it straightened.

I now like my very pale skin and straight hair. And I still like olive skin and curly hair just as much, in fact all skin types and hair types are beautiful, just like women of any height and frame size are beautiful. I've widened my definition of beautiful to include myself, and learned that just because the cosmetics industry is out to make women paranoid (selling skin lightening creams to dark skinned women and fake tan to pale skinned women and all the rest) there is someone, somewhere that is totally jealous of whatever it is about you that you think you don't like in yourself. So learn to appreciate it. :flowerforyou:

Shortness isn't a bad thing

Next time someone makes a comment about your height, you may have to remind them that the best things come in small packages.

As for your boyfriend, do you think he is smart? If so, why would he be with you if your so terrible? He must see something in you that your not.

I do think you might want to go talk to a professional in addition to getting support here. They have lots of ways to help you build your confidence and help you see your inner beauty.

As a guy, I'm just short of 5'7", which is, well, short!

But, so what? These things can't be judged by external, objective factors. I am that tall, I have blue eyes, etc. These things are the way I was born. I am in a healthy relationship with the way I am: I honestly wouldn't want to change a thing ascetically. People occasionally give me a hard time for being short (if they don't know me), but that's THEIR issue, not mine.

I think you need to talk to someone about how you are relating to your perception of yourself. I've checked out your photos, and honestly you look to be in great shape. There's a lot of people on this site who would kill to look like you do. It's not your external appearance that needs to change, you just need to get into the right relationship towards it. You may get there by yourself, but a third party could probably make sure you get there.....

Good luck!

Ignore them! It may be hard at first but try your best to ignore everyone who says mean things. Don't dwell on negative comments, but dwell on compliments. Even if they're from teachers or a family member.

Get it in writing! Make a list of AT LEAST 5 things you love about yourself. Consult your list every time you're feeling down. Also, every time you receive a compliment about something, then write it down. Just watch as your compliment list gets longer and longer, and you'll realize what an amazing person you are.


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Give back! How do you expect people to give you compliments if you don't give any? Have a goal that you will compliment at least one person every day. Not only will you make someone's day, but you'll feel better about yourself too.

There isn't anything wrong with being short! x

You have to find things you like... I kinda like being short! Like some posters above I am often mistaken for being younger than I am and I like that too You can always put on some tall shoes but can tall girls get shorter? No! So that is a plus.

As a time traveller, I like being short. It's a lot easier fitting through medieval doorways and getting into space capsules.

I also feel disgusting fat and ugly and an embarrasment to my boyfriend. [. . .] I feel that Im repulsive stoo d next to my boyfriend.

It's not the short comments affecting your self-esteem. Your poor self-esteem is coming from inside your head. These are really strong comments to make about yourself. I second the suggestion that you try some therapy. There is nothing anyone will say here to convince you out of this kind of self-talk.

It's up to you how short jokes affect you. No I've can make you feel anything (except physical pain of course). I love being short (am 5'1) and absolutely take no offense to short jokes. I like to say " I'm not short, I'm fun sized! Woot!" If you let other people get you down and feeling negative about yourself...that's really all on you.