Help! Out of control again...

awwww...take a breath....you're ok. When you eat those calories, make them worth it & enjoy it....don't deprive yourself....this is a lifestyle change...not a "diet". figure out what made you go back for the 2nd & 3rd cupcake.....long day? reward? band aid? crave? don't be hard on yourself....you're only human.....you didn't gain the 40lbs overnight & it won't be lost in the first few weeks....enjoy your daughters bday party...and a cupcake

You're going to hear this over and over again on MFP - because it's true. The key to success is to treat this as a lifestyle change - not a diet. IMHO, the mistake you made was denying yourself the cake in the first place. Your daughter will have a birthday next year, and the next, and the next... and you will want to celebrate that. So plan ahead next year; eat a light breakfast and maybe do a little extra exercise that day/week.

So you ate too much cake 2 days in a row - how many of us here haven't? You can overcome this and create new habits for yourself that include celebrating the good things in life. For the next 2 days eat light, exercise more, and learn from this experience.

Good luck to you, and happy birthday to your daughter! :flowerforyou:

Take a big breath and slow down. You don't have to be perfect!

Yes, it was an over the limit day yesterday and today might be one as well, but stop beating yourself up. You can do this and it isn't going to be a light switch change but a general (read slow) and steady change in behavior if you want to make this a permanent difference.

I would suggest go for a 30 minute walk or do something around the house (cleaning, dancing to silly music, or anything that gets you moving). This will give you a little wiggle room in your calorie allowance for the day and then eat a reasonable dinner. A grilled chicken breast, 1 cup of fresh strawberries, and 1 cup of microwave steamed green beans or broccoli is a reasonable dinner with a lot of volume for less than 400 calories. That shouldn't put you over your calorie goal too much for the day.

Then start fresh tomorrow and let this go.

My favorite motto for losing weight is "out of sight, out of mind." I do the same exact thing whenever something like that happens to me. It could be cake from a birthday, or even just a bag of chips my boyfriend just bought. Before I know it he's saying "where did all my chips go?!" oops...haha. You did the right thing by throwing it all away! Now just make sure there aren't any other temptations in the house, and if you feel the urge to eat again either occupy yourself, write a pro and con list, or even just think about how fantastic you have felt for the past two weeks!!! You don't need to undo what you just did, just keep going and try not to look back. I know it's hard, but usually what works for me is pausing and thinking about what I'm about to do.

Good luck, you can do this!!!

I too have the same problem, for me total abstinince is the only way, I do nothing and can do nothing, like eat sweet things in moderation.

It happens with me from time to time. The best thing to do is not to beat youyrself up, your human. Chalk it down to experience. Start afresh tomorrow, it is a new day.

Best Wishes From Ireland!
Gail

i do not sit around craving cake, but if there is a huge colorful silky creamy cake sitting there calling my name, im going to dive into it... so, i rather have my piece, throw away left overs, and be done with it... im not deprived, but im also not tempted for 2 days while it sits within my reach!

There would be no way I could have that type of food in my house without eating it all in a day or two. Maybe someday I'll be able to limit myself to one serving, but I know right now that's not going to happen - so it just doesn't come home with me in the first place. Sometimes we can only acknowledge our weaknesses and plan ahead.

Now that it's in the trash (although the garbage disposal would be a better place), consider it a lesson learned and move forward.

Cake happens! For me, when I slip up a little, I think about how I can make my next meal better, that way you don't throw away the rest of your day with indulgences or guilt trips, and think to start fresh tomorrow.. There's still a lot of damage that could be done between the slip up and tomorrow. Having a treat now and then is totally normal and acceptable, and use your next meal as a way to stay motivated!

And I ate 4 smores, and a large piece of pie with ice cream on Saturday.
We're human We're all going to indulge once in a while, next time I suggest letting yourself have the first piece of cake. You should find that it fed your craving, and you won't be tempted the next day.

Well, you can't really "undo" what you did. What you can do is recognize it happened, realize it didn't make you feel any better and pick yourself back up and continue on.
For me, this was the hard part. Feeling guilty over it never helped and I ended up feeling worse than before and thinking "well, f it. I might as well not bother". I had a hard time with not seeing results immediately and feeling like I couldn't do "normal" things while trying to lose weight. Turns out that I needed to learn patience, be honest with myself and ask for help when i needed it. I'm still working on the first two and found out I had a medical issue with the third, and I'm moving in the right direction with all 3 now.
I decided that I wouldn't deny myself any particular food group from the beginning. That helped me with the binge issues, so that if I knew that I could have *some, I wouldn't want *all. If you think you're not the type that gets triggered by something that leads to a binge, then maybe you are the type that can have a little and move on? Do you think you wouldn't have eaten all of that later, if you'd had a small piece during the party?

Don't discount the success of two awesome weeks!

Great that you felt comfortable posting about it.

One of the things I've found most helpful is to MAKE myself enter the stuff I ate so I can appreciate how many calories, etc. it was. Usually it's not as bad as I imagine, although sometimes it's worse. But putting it in there gives me a feeling, however small, of control. I'm not just a victim (self-victim) - I can own it. Maybe I didn't this time....but I can.

I agree with Salcha76! ( " awwww...take a breath....you're ok. When you eat those calories, make them worth it & enjoy it....don't deprive yourself....this is a lifestyle change...not a "diet". figure out what made you go back for the 2nd & 3rd cupcake.....long day? reward? band aid? crave? don't be hard on yourself....you're only human.....you didn't gain the 40lbs overnight & it won't be lost in the first few weeks....enjoy your daughters bday party...and a cupcake " )


It took me 2 years to get 40 pounds off, I joined MFP a month ago to help me stay on track to get the rest of my weight off. I found the best thing to do is keep supportive people close to you and never allow yourself or anyone else to kick your touche. I have found when you have a "bad day" to log it, every bit of it. Don't turn a celebration into a torment! You will never step off that road once you start. It is important to find why you kept going back (I have done that many times) and when I dug deeper I realized that if I could make my physical self hurt (by overeating), my mental would seem to have a break. I am really big on digging into the past to understand reasons, reactions and habits. Its quite a freeing experience.

You're ok, we are not born running and baby steps don't happen all in one day. They happen one at a time, little by little. Beating yourself up or worrying over it will only make you feel worse.

Keep up the good work!

Something that might help you in the future is a tip I got from a friend who's had success in losing a substantial amount of weight and keeping it off: the "not yet" trick.

She says: I never tell myself "no". "No" makes me feel deprived. It turns it into a battle of wills within myself.

Instead, I often tell myself "not yet". "Not yet" is a much easier response to live with. Can I have a cupcake? Yes! Can I have another one? Sure, but not yet. In a little bit. And when "later" arrives, the craving has passed.

It seems like a dumb little piece of self deception, but it has helped me tremendously.

I know what you're talking about. I have sporadic days like this and I used to freak the heck out. But now, I just keep going though my routine knowing I'm going to hit a speed bump every so often. For example last night I had like 900 calories left after being meticulous all day and having exercised. Then my buddy called me to play cards. So, 8 beers, some chips and dip and 100 bucks later... I was feeling pretty guilty. I just woke up today and it was business as usual. It happens, if you deprive yourself of these days, you'll be miserable. What good is living life if you're in shape but can't enjoy yourself every once in a while?