Inner beauty vs. outward appearances

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Mustang_Susie
Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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What's more important to you?
How you look or your character?

What's more important to you in another person?

I would like to say that I'm more concerned about my character than my looks but I cannot tell a lie.

I do notice how other people look, but I know it's their character that will determine the depth of relationship I can/will have with them.

So, knowing that about myself, I would assume it would be the same for others.

I need to be beautiful on the inside :smile:
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  • diolpah
    diolpah Posts: 134 Member
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    Interesting question. For me, at this point in my life, my appearance is more important than my intelligence, career, or character.

    Bear with me.

    I *already* have pretty ridiculous confidence in my professional and intellectual life, bordering on unbridled arrogance. It's a part of my life that I have already handled a long while ago.

    However, I still harbor absurd levels of self-image issues related to growing up as a fatty fat fat computer nerd. So getting to a point at which I am happy with myself physically would be a good balance to the crazy ego I have about the rest of myself. It is therefore more important at this point.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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    Interesting question. For me, at this point in my life, my appearance is more important than my intelligence, career, or character.

    Bear with me.

    I *already* have pretty ridiculous confidence in my professional and intellectual life, bordering on unbridled arrogance. It's a part of my life that I have already handled a long while ago.

    However, I still harbor absurd levels of self-image issues related to growing up as a fatty fat fat computer nerd. So getting to a point at which I am happy with myself physically would be a good balance to the crazy ego I have about the rest of myself. It is therefore more important at this point.

    Interesting perspective.

    I sometimes wonder how much peoples' insecurities (both about character and looks) play into their efforts to improve their outward appearances...
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,443 Member
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    Definitely character... but you can't motorboat personality.
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
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    I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is.
  • _DaniD_
    _DaniD_ Posts: 2,186 Member
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    Serious answer.. I want to be a happy person all around. Outward appearance only plays a small role in this.

    I want to be the best Mom in the history of Moms.
  • 2stepscloser
    2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
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    What's more important to you?
    How you look or your character?

    What's more important to you in another person?

    I would like to say that I'm more concerned about my character than my looks but I cannot tell a lie.

    I do notice how other people look, but I know it's their character that will determine the depth of relationship I can/will have with them.

    So, knowing that about myself, I would assume it would be the same for others.

    I need to be beautiful on the inside :smile:

    Definitely an interesting question! For me it comes down to self doubt. I have no doubt that my inner beauty is what makes me attractive; however, I have lots of doubts about my appearance. Therefore, at the current time, I am more concerned about my outward appearance. In regards to what I want in the other person, it depends on the type/length of relationship. I would definitely want a combination of both, with more emphasis on the inner beauty.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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    Serious answer.. I want to be a happy person all around. Outward appearance only plays a small role in this.

    I want to be the best Mom in the history of Moms.

    :flowerforyou:

    Me too!
  • VeganSurfer
    VeganSurfer Posts: 383 Member
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    Character is most important to me.
  • Hepburn43
    Hepburn43 Posts: 24 Member
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    It's hard to fight evolution! Humans are designed to be attracted to the biggest, the prettiest etc. It's in our nature. That being said, inner beauty plays a lot into how long we decide to hang around. I find confidence (not arrogance) to be a great aphrodisiac. If you can make me laugh so hard I weep. We're going to be friends :wink:
  • M______
    M______ Posts: 288 Member
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    Definitely my character. I go out of my way to treat people how I wish to be treated, never judge a book by it's cover and will make time and help anyone. Really thats what I care about in life. Having a positive influence on those around me is important, as I get those qualities back from friends and family. That is what makes me feel good and keeps me going, I think thats the substance of life.

    My health is so much more important to me than how I look. I'm a little self conscious but I think most people are. Health is the thing for me tho, the more healthy the greater I feel, and thats what I tend to show anyone from strangers to people I'm close to on a daily basis. I care a lot about making the effort, the better I feel the more effort I make. :)

    In another person, say a potential girlfriend. If I don't know you but there is 1 thing I find attractive about you - that is enough for me to explore my interest. Everything hinges on the personality. You can accept and love the flaws of a beautiful personality. You can work hard for a beautiful personality and you can work through things with a beautiful personality. And you know you cant buy that, or wear that or have plastic surgery for that. You cant put a price on those kind of qualities in a relationship.
  • IamSheaMc
    IamSheaMc Posts: 1,310 Member
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    I am already a nice person so now I just need the outside to match. :blushing:
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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    It's hard to fight evolution! Humans are designed to be attracted to the biggest, the prettiest etc. It's in our nature. That being said, inner beauty plays a lot into how long we decide to hang around. I find confidence (not arrogance) to be a great aphrodisiac. If you can make me laugh so hard I weep. We're going to be friends :wink:

    True about our human nature.
    I also believe that inner beauty radiates outward and can make a person incredibly attactive.

    A guy can be tall, dark and handsome but it he's a knob, forget it!
    I'm sure guys could say the same about beautiful women who are big "Bs"...
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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    Definitely my character. I go out of my way to treat people how I wish to be treated, never judge a book by it's cover and will make time and help anyone. Really thats what I care about in life. Having a positive influence on those around me is important, as I get those qualities back from friends and family. That is what makes me feel good and keeps me going, I think thats the substance of life.

    My health is so much more important to me than how I look. I'm a little self conscious but I think most people are. Health is the thing for me tho, the more healthy the greater I feel, and thats what I tend to show anyone from strangers to people I'm close to on a daily basis. I care a lot about making the effort, the better I feel the more effort I make. :)

    In another person, say a potential girlfriend. If I don't know you but there is 1 thing I find attractive about you - that is enough for me to explore my interest. Everything hinges on the personality. You can accept and love the flaws of a beautiful personality. You can work hard for a beautiful personality and you can work through things with a beautiful personality. And you know you cant buy that, or wear that or have plastic surgery for that. You cant put a price on those kind of qualities in a relationship.

    You're going to make a great husband someday :flowerforyou:
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
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    Inner beauty. I feel like if I had a better character, I wouldn't care so much about outward appearances. And I wouldn't be interested in guys who put a priority on that. Plus, looks fade with age anyway.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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    Inner beauty. I feel like if I had a better character, I wouldn't care so much about outward appearances. And I wouldn't be interested in guys who put a priority on that. Plus, looks fade with age anyway.

    Agree. Good insight :smile:
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,487 Member
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    Character is 100% the most important. This is what will carry you thru life. Beauty if fading and anyone who only likes you for that can suck it.

    Sometimes the most beautiful people are the most disgusting human beings. I would take someone with character over a ripped body all day every day.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
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    Character is 100% the most important. This is what will carry you thru life. Beauty if fading and anyone who only likes you for that can suck it.

    Sometimes the most beautiful people are the most disgusting human beings. I would take someone with character over a ripped body all day every day.


    :bigsmile:
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    You become friends with somebody who's inner beauty you appreciate
    You lust after somebody who's outward appearances you like
    You love somebody who you appreciate inside and out.
  • meredith1123
    meredith1123 Posts: 843 Member
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    It depends on my day! haha...

    It all boils down to first physical impression and attraction but sometimes you run across someone who isnt all that physically attractive but super smart, funny, charismatic, attentive, sweet and loyal who can become super attractive as time passes.
    It's all in the eye of the beholder.
  • iBreatheMusic88
    iBreatheMusic88 Posts: 115
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    You become friends with somebody who's inner beauty you appreciate
    You lust after somebody who's outward appearances you like
    You love somebody who you appreciate inside and out.


    COULDNT HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF! SOOOO GOING ON FACEBOOK. LMAO:drinker:

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