Toning up, only loosing a bit of weight.

If you are not interested in using it for weight loss just use it as a nutrution tracker. You can set your caloric goal to maintenance/TDEE (or a tad below if you want) and add your weigh ins if you feel like it but you dont have to. I think it's great just to know what you are putting in your body and MACROS will be important for what you are trying to do.

Though it is good for weight loss, the statements above are correct take advantage of all of its features and you'll be good to go. I find that eating grapefruit after cardio and greek yogurt helps with toning/fatloss

I don't even know where to begin picking this apart.

1) You can't loose weight. You can lose it but loosening it won't improve your health and I'm not sure how to go about doing it.
2) You can't spot reduce
3) MFP is not specifically for weight loss.
4) Toning is a myth
5) You're not going to bulk up doing pilates
6) You're not going to bulk up on a deficit

Sigh. ^^ This.

I don't even know where to begin picking this apart.

1) You can't loose weight. You can lose it but loosening it won't improve your health and I'm not sure how to go about doing it.
2) You can't spot reduce
3) MFP is not specifically for weight loss.
4) Toning is a myth
5) You're not going to bulk up doing pilates
6) You're not going to bulk up on a deficit

How about trying to point her in the right direction instead of "picking her apart"?

I don't even know where to begin picking this apart.

1) You can't loose weight. You can lose it but loosening it won't improve your health and I'm not sure how to go about doing it.
2) You can't spot reduce
3) MFP is not specifically for weight loss.
4) Toning is a myth
5) You're not going to bulk up doing pilates
6) You're not going to bulk up on a deficit

How about trying to point her in the right direction instead of "picking her apart"?

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/forums/show/7-fitness-and-exercise

Gosh, I am new to this so I can't be expected to know everything.

And i'm not only doing pilates, I have an ab routine which I do every other day, and I use the cross trainer every other day and run 5k on a sunday, I'm not trying to spot reduce, but i'm also aware that my abs will not show with this current layer of fat so I'm hoping better nutrition and loosing a few pounds will make it easier to see the work i will have put in.

I'll break it down a but simpler.

you can do 3 things with your muscles. grow them, keep them the same size, shrink them.

you will notice the lack of 'tone' them because no such thing exists. Just like there is no such thing as a 'toning' exercise. Tone is nothing more than low bodyfat allowing existing muscle to show through.

So now that you know this, you can get a better handle on your goals. Are you currently happy with your level of muscle mass? then do any sort of resistance training template combined with a calorie deficit diet and you can maintain your existing mass while losing fat. Want to grow your muscles a bit? Well then you must up your calories combined with heavy lifting to grow for a while. Then you can drop the fat after. Want to lose muscle mass? then eat at a deficit and do boatloads of cardio and no resistance training and the muscle mass along with fat will drop off.

So thats why it's a touchy wording. Because the fitness industry hammers that word out there while knowing that it's a 100% BS word but women will swallow it because it's easier to sell them a quick fix with it. (use this dumb looking machine, proven to increase toning by a billionty %) Reality is, you want to look athletic, you have to train how athletic people train. Which means learning to go all out.

Just FYI- you can't build muscle on a deficit. You'd have to be eating at a calorie surplus. You can strengthen the area though. Honestly, you should look into lifting. Check out NROLFW, Starting Strength and Stronglifts

I hate it when my keyboard keys stick too.

For future reference, how would I get the calories up but still eat healthy? It's not something i'd perceive to go hand in hand haha

Your diary is locked- if you unlock it we could probably help. How much are you eating now?