When you've already messed up by 11 am...

DopeItUp · April 2013

To avoid "messing up" by lunch I just plan out all of my meals for the day in the morning or the day before. I already know what I'm going to eat, long before the food is ever even made. Hard to make a mistake that way.

If I have a really heavy day because I felt like eating something really terrible, I try to eat at maintenance instead of still pursuing my goal deficit.

Even rarer still, if I have the opportunity to hit up a place I don't often get to visit I'll just eat whatever I want and enjoy it. Might be a couple times a year.

All depends on the situation.

Lovely_at_any_size · April 2013

I plan my days worth of eating first thing in the morning. I know what snacks I will eat, my lunch, and my dinner. I find this to be very helpful. This way I stay at my calories. If I do have a bad day I try to make sure I workout extra hard that night!

meredith1123 · April 2013

NO, not this! EVery one in this dang place deserves a night out with friends. I sure as HECK DO! I am not about to ruin my one night a month or whenever to enjoy my life (as we all should) just because people are brainwashed to think we should be perfect.
Go enjoy your night girl. BALANCE IT OUT TOMORROW! LIfe is about balance, proper balance of all things... good and bad, fun and not so fun. walk more, run more, exercise more for a few days. Youll bang it out in no time.
GEt on it tomorrow and THursday, eat less and average out your calories for the week - youll BE FINE!

meredith1123 · April 2013

I concur with this last statement. IT FIRES ME UP to hear that people think she shouldnt have a good time with friends on occasion. I am a FIRM Believer in enjoying life. I am also a firm believer in paying the price so get your bootay out there, enjoy your night and then bust your B's to make up for it for a couple of days.
People are ridiculous. vanity is a B***CH.

elyelyse · April 2013

oh i want to add this very important note:
Do not think you have to starve yourself for the rest of the day. What happens when we try to severely restrict? Well, most of us lose our minds a little and end up way eating too much once we finally eat because we are SO HUNGRY. So yes, lots of veggies and water today, but don't neglect the protein just because it has a few more calories, and don't completely avoid fats, fats help us to feel satiated. You are better off eating right but light and not starving yourself for the rest of the day and going over a little, than trying to eat as little as possible and then breaking down at 10pm and eating all the things you can get your hands on or having double breakfast tomorrow morning because you wake up famished.

JJordon · April 2013

...then mitigate and exercise before midnight...

mztea11 · April 2013

So 1 lb of Salad is 100 calories.... use a vinegar dressing and you can stuff yourself on greens.

Also, you can always add another workout, like a 30 minute viggerous walk to bank more calories so you can eat a little more later. also Why sit around and drink with friends, why not go dancing instead? that way you get active social time

LoosingMyLast15 · April 2013

how about showing up a bit late for drinks and getting in a quick 20 minute workout (whatever you typically do).

are you trying to "save" calories for your drinks later on? i would focus on eating healthy the rest of the day - drink lots of water, don't drink too much tonight and just log everything and be done with it. we all have these days. you can't beat yourself up over it or starve yourself just because you're not going to hit that magic calorie number.

Willowana · April 2013

Eat more than 1200 calories a day.

More fruits and veggies.

juliana813 · April 2013

If my BMR is 1850 calories but i'm eating 1300 calories a day and i spent 1000 on breakfast, i would just eat up until about 1800 calories. Then you're not going to gain weight by over eating and you still get to eat! x

majope · April 2013

Here's what I would do: when you go out with your friends, make up for your big breakfast by drinking Bud Light. No, do it. I mean it. Really, do it. I guarantee, you'll never overeat on a drinking-with-friends day again.

BajaDreamin333 · April 2013

I'm a big fan of "You can only control the NOW". Forgive yourself, and don't just give up for the rest of the day. Eat like you would if you had done well, so you don't punish yourself and get even more hungry later. Be careful with drinks - alcohol can bring your ability to say no to it's knees. Nothing like a beer and fries, or nachos with tequilla!

conniemaxwell5 · April 2013

This.

People (I think mostly ladies), we have to stop beating ourselves up and thinking we've failed just because we backslid a little! Think about it as correction - we are correcting behaviors that we've had for years. When your kids or pet gets out of line, what do you do? You correct them and get them back on track as quickly as possible. Do the same for yourself. You are worth the effort!!!!!!!

kevinjb1 · April 2013

Drinking on an empty stomach is a really bad idea. One bad meal won't ruin your goals, and being over your calorie goal for today won't ruin it either.

But getting sick off drinking on an empty stomach or making a bad food choice after you've had a couple will make you feel even worse tomorrow.

Better to get a 30 minute exercise in and be a little late for drinks than to beat yourself up about your calorie goals. Your friends will understand.

amandamotley · April 2013

If you can't reschedule drinks with your friend, I would definitely recommend sticking to water or club soda with lime (my personal favorite). I agree with previous posters that you still have to be able to live your life, but also think life is about choices - and you have to limit the indulgences to be successful at losing weight, as sad as it is. (I'm not being sarcastic, it IS SAD!) The idea isn't "punishment", it's learning self control and making up for an indulgence later in the day.

Separately, I don't let myself indulge in the morning unless I have the entire rest of my day planned around it, because it's so hard to stay on track the rest of the day. But that doesn't work for everyone. Each person has his/her own way of doing this healthy living thing, just find what works for YOU!

Fit_Mama99 · April 2013

I like most of the advice offered above, minus the inevitable rude comment tossed in. I am a breakfast person, so I can relate to this! Especially if I've already eaten breakfast & then someone in the office brings donuts! What I've learned along the way is that this is a lifestyle for me, so I allow myself to live and enjoy foods I like (and yes, also drinks with friends for sure!) :drinker: . I strive to do this in moderation, but sometimes I go overboard, just like everyone else! A couple tricks I've figured out that work for me:

In your settings, you can name meals...I have five, sometimes six meals a day (breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack, dinner, and evening snack. Sometimes a morning snack even!) This helps keep me from getting too hungry and I feel better if I keep my body fueled this way throughout the day. I take my calorie goal and divide, and know how many cals I can have for each meal, and how much I should have around a certain time...it helps me to "budget" my cals throughout the day. So let's say I had breakfast and then donuts and consumed a ton of cals for breakfast. I would look at my numbers and adjust my goals for my other meals (I've been pre-logging more and more these days, however, I'll sometimes deviate from my plan, but I think it's still good to help plan). Like the others above me said, I'd make sure to drink enough water and would eat a lot of fruit and veggies for the rest of the day, since they're the lowest in calories and will still fill you up. I'd also concentrate on eating lean protein.

I have a standby meal that I'll have for supper when I've screwed up for the day because it's low in calories and filling...I make an omelet with 10 T egg whites, 1 c chopped spinach, 1/3 c 2 % sharp cheddar, and salsa.

Other filling and low calorie meal/snack ideas-100 cal bags of popcorn, vegetable soup (I like Progresso Minestrone), and oatmeal. Hope this helps. Just move on and don't beat yourself up!

elyelyse · April 2013

I do hope you mean your TDEE is 1850, and not your BMR.
Eating 500+ calories under your BMR every day is unhealthy
however eating 500+ under your TDEE is ok, as long as its OVER your BMR.

with this correction though, you are right, eating up to your TDEE is like eating at maintenance, no deficit, but no surplus either.

dazygrl02 · April 2013

If I mess up, I move calories to the next few days so that I still get to eat (or I become hellishly grouchy) and basically work with a weekly deficit rather than a daily one. It makes me less frustrated and it helps me not give up.

steampunk68 · April 2013

It's 4:20 EST...

I'm dying to find out how this turned out! Did she walk to the bar??? Did she eat a bag of lettuce??? Did she drink club soda and have dinner??? Or did she get the pheuckeets and get loaded???

Can't wait... coming back after 9pm to get the update!!!

Take the walk!!! If you get loaded just keep coming back!!!

CandyMouse · May 2013

Here is what I TRY to do.. I do not always succeed. After really messing up...I look nat the hours remaining in the day till bed time annd allow myself about 100 calories or 2 points per hour divided thru the day. Yes, I am still 'over' at the end of the day..but I took control..for the remainder of the day

Francl27 · May 2013

Go for a walk or do a big workout.

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JDBLY11 · May 2013

If I do that I try to have fruits and veggies the rest of the day or I will take a little off of my calorie alottment for the next few days and eat up to that amount.

melindasuefritz · May 2013

u exercise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ndj1979 · May 2013

I was going to say the same time ...if going out drinking with friends is more important to you then more power to you, but IMO you have your priorities backwards...good luck though ...

I look forward to your motivational thread "help, I am gaining!"

melindasuefritz · May 2013

grabbing drinks is more caleries.......................
exercise......................

siqiniq · May 2013

When you meet your friends, instead of alcoholic drinks, drink mineral water or diet soda. Is it about the friends or the alcohol?

brower47 · May 2013

Just take the next day as it is, a new day. I did the same thing yesterday, finding that once again, I should not bake despite my love for it. You can see it in my diary that I ate five of the brownies I made... the rest of them. It destroyed my day. But that day ended and today I've been great. Good luck getting to that next great day and not letting the 'bad' ones get you down.

cmcollins001 · May 2013

Interesting that you took text that has zero emotion and added your own. One little sentence and now there's a soapbox?

No where in that statement was there judging or lectures or anything of that nature...as long as the OP knows what's important, that's what counts. Maybe the statement meant that meeting with friends is important or that living life is important. Of course, if one were to add more to that statement that happened to be judgmental, it would be along the lines of, fine, don't work out and go see your friends, but it would probably be best if you didn't have drinks and just ordered water. But, the fact of the matter is, none of that was said or even implied.

Ironically, I find your comment rude and judgmental.

cmcollins001 · May 2013

Ironically enough, I'm the type of person who enjoys living life and NOT paying any price for enjoying myself the next day, because I know one night or even one week isn't going to matter in the long run. So you go ahead and bust that bootay the next day while I kick back and go on about my normal routine...which includes not getting fired up from what I read on the internet. :flowerforyou:

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