i just can't stop eating :( :( feeling so down

I had to put my diary open and post my actual weight in my ticker. Just having strangers on the internet know how I was doing was a form of accountability to me.

Also if you are binging, maybe you need to eat more every other day to help try to binge less.

I think it's important to remember that it's one meal, one day. Tomorrow you eat well, just don't allow the negative thoughts to let you snowball one slip-up. I'm an emotional eater and binge from time to time. But I don't let a emotional binge on Wednesday turn into Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat and on and on. That's what you have to (must) keep in mind!

I'm sorry you feel that way especially about yourself. First of all you need to tell yourself that your a good person, you love yourself no matter what and you do have the ability to change. I don't have energy, I really don't like to exercise so I didn't know how MFP would work for me. But within 4 months I lost almost 25 pounds by just watching what I ate. If i was hungry i either had a spoon of peanut butter, or hard boiled egg or I just stayed hungry. Eventually my stomach shrunk and everynight i was hungy less. Its all about self control. You have to find it within yourself!! You have it. I know you do. Add me if you want as a friend. I'll send you personal messages and we can talk if that helps. sometimes just to talk about it helps.

I would recommend you get some professional counseling.

I agree. I think that if this is something you're doing a lot, and you don't feel that you can control it at all, it might be time to get some professional help. No shame in that. :flowerforyou:

No, you cant stay overweight forever, and you wont. This was one day. Next time, binge on the healthier stuff in your cupboard and set a calorie limit to your binge - for example 800 calories. The next binge - 750 calories and so you go until 400. Dont tell yourself you will never do it again.... see it as part of the eating 'reframing' you have to do. And always allow a binge of 400 calories a week on any day you choose. You may take a little longer but at least enjoy the excesses in life and give in to the 'f-u' we all feel.

And I don't buy that stuff about sabotaging yourself and not loving yourself. Binge eating is experienced by every single person who has ever restricted their eating. It's human nature, we all do it. So allow yourself to stumble and start practicing stumbling with a little more grace.

Log EVERYTHING. Including all the "go crazy" stuff you binged on. Consider opening your diary - if not to all of MFP, then at least your MFP friends. It helps to be accountable to at least one other person if being accountable to yourself is difficult.

It is frustrating. I've done it - had a great day, then just EATS ALL THE FOODS at night. It happens. I've learned here that it's not a serious problem unless it happens regularly and I can't control it. Try to look at your calories and macro intake as a weekly goal. Shoot for amounts over the course of a week. One day may be a spike, but overall, how does your week look?

Some people find that having a "cheat" day/meal helps with binging - one day or one meal a week where you can eat anything you want. That way, when the urge to raid the cupboard comes up, you can tell yourself "I'll wait till Saturday" or similar.

Most important, though, is the logging. If you do nothing else, commit to logging everything you consume. Try that for a week or two. Make logging your food a habit. Even if you binge, log it.

Take everything that' s bad for you in your cabinets/fridge and THROW THEM AWAY! Don't buy it, if it's not in the house you can't eat it.

And you should allow yourself a cheat day...figure out what thing satiates you when get your cravings and have that. It's work to change your eating habits, so log EVERYTHING you eat, no matter what!

Getting some counseling can't hurt either...the chronic fatigue could have you down and depressed and you're turning to food.

Unlike you, I feel awesome when I eat. Wait, are we talking about food or something else? Nevermind, carry on.

The great thing about MFP is that you can vent, you can let out your frustrations and be given thoughtful advice. It must have taken a lot to admit your faults and insecurities. You are brave for doing that!

Secondly, if you are having trouble with Food Control at the moment, try eliminating the culprit; Junk food. If it's not there, you can't eat it, right? Think, and I mean really think to yourself what is it that makes you binge and lose control. Is it Boredom? Problems at home? Emotional eating? Is it because food is the only thing you HAVE control of? Once you figure that out and can work on the issue, you can start allowing yourself to appreciate moderation. Instead of 4 chocolate bars, you can allow yourself to have a piece or 2 after dinner.

When you start to feel yourself losing control, take a deep breath. Hey, hop on MFP if it works and take part in some of the forums. Giving advice to others, might speak something to you, too. Or go for a quick walk. Do something to keep you busy to help take your mind of things. Eventually, you will feel yourself regaining control and no longer want to binge.

Good luck and all the best to you!!

Dear NC1994,

You've done the first step, you've registered on this page and made a choice to change your mind, lose weight and lifestyle, for your own good! That makes me think that you're intelligent girl that made the right choice and is motivated to achieve her goal.
I've began to count my calories from yesterday and doing exercise on top of that, I've still have cravings for food, but today I already cut down my calories and resisted anything sugarry, wanted bar of chocolate but ate an apple instead, maybe you should try something similar, substitute unhealthy with healthy, and please keep the positive attitude as it is key to success. I'll be honest enough, before I've registered here, I've already started to change my lifestyle, I cut off sugar, I stop having food after 7, the odd times when i get late home from college I'd eat something because otherwise I wouldn't be able to sleep. Now I've made a new rule, if I ate and I still have a feeling that I'd eat more later and I know i won't be able to say no to myself, I go to sleep, and sleep til the morning, it helps alot as i don't eat during sleep and I get beauty sleep which is good for my skin:)

anyway i went of the point, please don't feel low, talk to people, read the success stories as those are very inspirational and in alot of cases show that we all in the same boat, and that losing weight is not easy, we all give up and feel low but then get up and continue because thats what we want, push yourself more, as well as that keep yourself as busy as possible, go for a walk with friends, its very refreshing and helps you sleep like a baby. Join some club, i.e aerobics, zumba etc

and more important never hesitate to ask for help, if you struggle to fight this battle by yourself find someone that will help you to stay motivate, you may ask for proffessional help, or simply talk to your close friends and always share how you feel. there's always someone who will pick the right words for you and help you to get out of depression and look forward to feeling great.

Best of luck for you:)

I took a nutrition class a year ago, and it really helped me realize that sometimes my problems with cravings are physical - and that really has helped me lose most of my 'out of control' eating. Granted, there are times I still eat things I shouldn't because I'm having a bad day, or just because it's there - and then I get frustrated too. But I don't have the after work - I've just got to have something to eat or I will die - cravings like I used to.

This is where I took my nutrition classes - I think they are only in Minnesota - but their website has good articles and podcasts from their radio show and some recipe and other information, you can also buy vitamins and other stuff from the website with free shipping. http://www.weightandwellness.com/ , I think you can even do a phone consulation with them if you were interested.

What I learned that really helped me was to try to keep my blood sugar more constant throughout the day by eating 'in balance -(protein, healthy fat, healthy carb)' and making sure I eat every 2-3 hours, then instead of being starving so I eat too much and then shoot my blood sugar up too high and then having big cravings when it comes crashing down - I'm able to stick with my planned meals and snacks more easily. If you have any interest in more detail about the plan I learned - I'd be happy to send it to you in a MFP message - I typed it up for another friend on MFP before and have it saved. Just let me know.

IF chocolate is often a problem for you - supposedly that may mean you are lacking in magnesium. I take a magnesium supplement every night before bed (because it also helps me fall sleep) - it's called Natural Calm and you can find it on a lot of places on the internet - including that weightandwellness website
p.s. having 1oz of really dark chocolate every day is ok on their plan too, and takes care of the chocolate cravings when I have them

Lately I've been stuck myself (lost 30 pounds after taking that nutrition class ... but have been pretty much maintaining the last year or so - and I have another 70 pounds to lose), but I feel a lot better than I ever used to, and I know eventually I will get off this plateau and will be able to lose more weight.
So I'm just saying - hang in there ... there are lots of people on MFP that have felt the same things you are ... don't beat yourself up about it, just try to figure out what might be going on physically or emotionally that is sabotaging your healthy eating.

I guess you have a few problems that well distanced from simply over-eating, have you treat CB therapy good luck

Ugh, ME TOO. All the time!

I can totally relate to this! For years I suffered (still working on it) from binge eating disorder.
My body would go through the motions of preparing tons of food - like enough to feed a small town - and eating it. ALL of it.
My mind would be screaming "What the F are you doing?! You are not even hungry!" But my body just did its own thing.
There were times that I thought I was going to die, suffocate from the food I consumed. Many tears, many fears, many pounds.. many regrets.
I ended up in cognitive therapy (am still in it) and it really has helped me.
I hope that you can do the same. Please friend me, I would love to be a real support for you!