New girl at a gym full of Men...

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  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member

    Admit it, you're just thinking of Oleg from Two Broke Girls.

    Oleg is my hero!! :laugh: :laugh:


    Yeah, wait until he's hitting on you and then tell me he's your hero. Once you get the gaffer tape off your mouth.
  • tnq1019
    tnq1019 Posts: 65
    the gym iused to go to was all bodybuilders and buff guys late at night meandmy femalefriendwere teh only chicks inthere it was intimidating and i thought they were all staring or judging us..as it turnedout they kinda respected us andwe gym friended a bunch ofthemcause we were always in backwiththe weights trying andnot goofing around and they actualyl would gives us tips and help us out and correct us when we werent using good form andit was cool.I would rather have them than thegirlsthat sit around adn donothing on the machines dont even break a sweat and just stare at the guys when they go in full on makeup and skimpy outfits just to look at them...and they always take the good machines...ANNOYING
  • erinsueburns
    erinsueburns Posts: 865 Member
    It can be difficult and awkward. Go in there with a plan written out (or in your phone or whatever). And also have a plan for what you will do when/if someone is using the piece of equipment you want to use.

    It just takes time. At first I was so panicked the least little thing would make me freak, now I have guys who have seen me around pop in for a spot when they see I'm pushing my limits, who wave and say "Hey" and it is all much more relaxed.
  • Arkhos
    Arkhos Posts: 290 Member
    As a guy when I see girls in the gym I think, 'Damn, they are kicking butt, I better work harder like them." or "Wow, she's pretty and she's kicking butt, I better work harder to get a girl like that."

    Most people lifting weights on their own are not sure about what they are doing, and like to look at other people (guys and girls) to see what they're doing so they can imitate. Show everyone how it's done and be proud of what you are doing!
  • starbucksbuzz
    starbucksbuzz Posts: 466 Member
    I had problems with this at first, now it really doesn't bother me. I got over it in stages, first I started doing some work with dumbbells right near the door, then I started getting used to using the barbell.... Once I got used to the squat rack I started feeling a lot more comfortable with everything, my routines, the exercises, etc. If you step out of your comfort zone you will eventually extend it, it just takes time.
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    Also, I think it's fantastic when a female/girl/woman gets off the machines and picks up the free weights especially if they're pushing the limits of their ability (safely!).

    Mind you, maybe we're all wrong and machines is where it's at. It's a massive plot by the long term gym goers to get us off their machines. :huh:
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    I just started using free weights this Monday and I was just as scared as you. Once I got over myself though, the only problem I had was that most guys hog the bench press benches. Seriously, there's at least 15 of them and I had to walk around like a creeper until one opened up. Some guy kinda snickered when I benched only the bar but who cares?? He had spaghetti legs anyways lol. I know guys were staring at me because I was one of only three girls there but it didn't bother me as much as I thought it would. I got in and got out (Stronglifts 5x5) and it's the best workout I've had in weeks. Go for it!
  • mountaingirl2207
    mountaingirl2207 Posts: 181
    I think its an awesome way to get started. The first month is not too intimidating, you'll get your bearings and go from there. I love it so far and am already seeing results.

    Admit it, you're just thinking of Oleg from Two Broke Girls.

    Oleg is my hero!! :laugh: :laugh:

    I was scared to death to go into the testosterone zone, but wanted to start lifting heavy. I started NROLFW and now its been 3 weeks and I'm doing fine. The guys either don't care or look at me like they're impressed. Just do what you need to do and you'll do great!

    I've got NROLFW at home, never got round to reading (or starting) it!! WOuld you suggest this to be a good way to start weights in a gym??
    At first I was a little intimidated, but then I realized that I had to do it if I wanted to get the results that I desire. I finally realized that they are in there for the same reason as I am, and they really don't pay close attention. So here I am, a short, 5'1" lady grunting and sweating right along with them. Believe me, YES I have gotten sideways glances, and stares, and grins, even the occasional guy ask me if he can "work in". It takes a lot of guts to be among all of those hot sweaty, beefy men! :blushing: But hey, I enjoy heavy lifting as much as any other. So why not take advantage of what your gym has to offer. I love my new muscles!

    I'm glad I'm not the only shortie wanting to build muscle!! I'm 5'1" also, so I think this doesn't really help with my confidence!! BUT!!! Everyones positive responses are helping in a BIG way!!



    Thank you all again :smile: :smile: :smile:
  • vickymessmann
    vickymessmann Posts: 8 Member
    I workout at home now but when I went to the YMCA I didn't care who was in the gym! Go lift those weights girl! I use to stand in the room along with the men (sometimes girls would be there too, but not that often). I was 200 lbs. and stood in front of the mirrors and did my thing. I didn't care who was in there. One time I was doing leg presses. I have strong legs and could lift a good amount of weight. When I got done I went over and talked to a trainer about something and out of the blue this guy came up and started bowing down to me. It was so funny! He then told me how impressed he was watching me do my leg presses. He said I was his idol :) We talked for a few minutes and then I went and got on a treadmill. He followed me over and walked on the treadmill beside of me and we carried on a conversation about working out. It made me feel like a million bucks when he did this!
  • clownfear_7
    clownfear_7 Posts: 59
    Few guys would try to intimidate anyone in the gym...they're trying to impress you. But don't necessarily think their hitting on you, their also trying to impress the other guys there.
    I don't know if this helps or hinders, but as a guy who works out at 5:30 in the morning, the chicks who stand in the thick of it with the guys in the free weight section and act like they belong there are hot. Not hot like physically hot, but their confidence and motivation is attractive and impressive.
  • willdob3
    willdob3 Posts: 640 Member
    the boys wont care they will be to busy with their own stuff! They might even be able to help you out some :)

    This is my experience. I'm often the only woman in the weight room. I'm fine with this because, in my experience, men tend to be more serious about their weights than women are. I go in & do my planned workout. None of us talk much. Once in a while a guy will offer to spot me when needed, sometimes I ask. Sometimes they just do it without saying anything.

    People don't really pay much attention to other people at the gym. Going to the gym is a "me" thing. most peeople are only paying attention to what they are doing. I am always very involved in my workout. Someone once asked me what music they play at my gym & I did not even know if they played music. Next time I went I checked. Yep, there was music. Who knew? lol...
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    (Edit because my pictures aren't cooperating. Links instead.)

    http://i.imgur.com/Ss4eQnX.jpg?1


    Hey look at me.

    You can only see a few of them here, but that place was full of dudes yesterday.


    http://i.imgur.com/bubeneY.jpg

    See that guy behind me without sleeves?

    He's probably checking out his arms in the mirrors.

    But if he's looking at me, it's because I'm a badarse.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Adding in a guys perspective, it was intimidating for me at first as well. I am not a fan of exercising in front of other people to begin with, but I also get a lot of stares as one of the bigger guys in the gym. There is a lot of pressure to put up big numbers that I am not necessarily ready for. But once I started going, I realized that most of it was in my head and I barely notice others while I am working out anyway.
  • splucy
    splucy Posts: 353
    I find it more challenging when there are heaps of guys in the weight section and I strutt my stuff in there and show them that I too can bench press and do weighted squats! It actually pushes me to take on more weight than I'd usually do... just to show them that I too am strong :) Guys like that!
  • charliehefferon
    charliehefferon Posts: 223 Member
    (Edit because my pictures aren't cooperating. Links instead.)

    http://i.imgur.com/Ss4eQnX.jpg?1


    Hey look at me.

    You can only see a few of them here, but that place was full of dudes yesterday.


    http://i.imgur.com/bubeneY.jpg

    See that guy behind me without sleeves?

    He's probably checking out his arms in the mirrors.

    But if he's looking at me, it's because I'm a badarse.


    I love this!! Thank you so much!! I'm going to sit down this weekend and start writing out a plan...! Any tips or starting points would be much appreciated!!! :wink:
  • IronSmasher
    IronSmasher Posts: 3,908 Member
    Get a plan that's already been written, and that thousands before you have already tested and found success with.
  • LJSmith1989
    LJSmith1989 Posts: 650
    That was me last night!

    I shouldn't have wasted anytime worrying. I did my first stronglift workout. If you worried why not book a PT to talk you through it?

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