Dating in your 40's?

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  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    You mean someone will date us ?

    According to the other gentleman, BANG

    you know because wanting to be BANGed makes us jaded women swoon

    oh hell I've been single so long I'd settle for Bang. :blushing:
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    Well, it's different than it was. That's for sure. From a guys point of view, 40+ women are so jaded that its ridiculous. The nice ones are probably there somewhere. On the good side, everyone knows what they want and they don't fukc around. So, in a way, it's easier. But, the problem is, I've lost faith in love, so mainly, I just want to bang. I don't care about he relationship BS. most women want to bang too, but want to be respectful of it, and are hopeful that in turns into something more. No change on that front.

    Basically, dating is stupid and it sucks. I quit. I just focus on my kids. Try to bang here and there. Maybe one day, it will all come together. It doesn't matter either way. It's a lot cheaper not having a woman around, so I'm good.

    I've dated a lot. I've come to the conclusion that it's better not to date and just maybe someone will walk in. When you're out looking, you might miss what's right in front of you. Just live and don't worry about it.

    What have 40+ women done or said that makes you think they are jaded?
    I'm not arguing, just curious as to your perspective.
    You know me, always picking someone's brain...
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    Well, it's different than it was. That's for sure. From a guys point of view, 40+ women are so jaded that its ridiculous. The nice ones are probably there somewhere. On the good side, everyone knows what they want and they don't fukc around. So, in a way, it's easier. But, the problem is, I've lost faith in love, so mainly, I just want to bang. I don't care about he relationship BS. most women want to bang too, but want to be respectful of it, and are hopeful that in turns into something more. No change on that front.

    Basically, dating is stupid and it sucks. I quit. I just focus on my kids. Try to bang here and there. Maybe one day, it will all come together. It doesn't matter either way. It's a lot cheaper not having a woman around, so I'm good.

    I've dated a lot. I've come to the conclusion that it's better not to date and just maybe someone will walk in. When you're out looking, you might miss what's right in front of you. Just live and don't worry about it.

    Ladies, I can only offer one word of advice.

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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,613 Member
    I was divorced at 44. did some dating with work colleagues, then through newspaper sites. A couple lasted a while.
    Then after a break up I felt really low and had to have a hysterectomy so I didn't date for 31/2 years. Put on weight, then managed to get a bit of it off. Went back on to on line dating and after one false start I met my husband who I have now been happy with for nearly 10 years. I was 53 when I met him and he was 57. We are so happy together. Don't give up hope.
    PS I am now lighter than when I met him.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    I was divorced at 44. did some dating with work colleagues, then through newspaper sites. A couple lasted a while.
    Then after a break up I felt really low and had to have a hysterectomy so I didn't date for 31/2 years. Put on weight, then managed to get a bit of it off. Went back on to on line dating and after one false start I met my husband who I have now been happy with for nearly 10 years. I was 53 when I met him and he was 57. We are so happy together. Don't give up hope.
    PS I am now lighter than when I met him.


    :flowerforyou:
  • lilunsure
    lilunsure Posts: 120 Member
    My experience has not been the best. I find that I know what I want and what I can and can't live with in someone and once I see something I can't live with in a person I have no further interest. I'm okay on my own but I miss the companionship of a mate.

    I have plenty of friends both male and female and get out and socialize in both one on one and group settings. I was on a volleyball team and I'm active in a divorce/separation group.

    Right now I am concentrating on me. I hope that one day I find the right person but for now I'm not out looking for someone.
  • Shoppingkay
    Shoppingkay Posts: 15
    * Lilunsure * You sound a lot like me! ; ) The problem is, that even though I'm a decent looking lady and go out with friends often, men rarely approach me. I don't know if they are just afraid or since I'm 5'2 with brown hair and don't look like a barbie doll they simply aren't interested. I'm working to slim down though and will just let God do the rest! 2013 is a year for working on ME. I have a daughter graduating in 3 weeks and am buying a home this summer.... time for a new chapter!

    Thanks to you all for your input. It's been fun, funny and interesting! : )
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    Dye your hair
    jk :wink:

    You're a lovely lady and some smart, handsome guy will see that :heart:
  • bluefish49
    bluefish49 Posts: 102 Member
    Interesting thread. I am a bit older, 54, but many people guess that I'm in my 40's. I was married 30 years and never cheated. Divorced two years, I have tried online dating twice - two different sites. Injecting a bit of humor here, but there's always a bit of truth in humor, otherwise it wouldn't be funny. Its interesting that women think the only thing I am looking for is a Barbie or sex.

    Most women are looking one of several types:

    1. Athletic and toned, makes $100,000+, lives within walking distance of the beach for long nightly walks there.

    2. Puts the ring on his finger, has a stable, good-paying job, does all the housework and yardwork, must like dogs (or cats), NEVER pesters her for sex.

    3. A Cowboy.

    I did find one person who I clicked with very well. Unfortunately, her son was living with her, and he had such a personality/attitude difference when she wasn't present that it made staying un-tolerable.

    So I know they are out there. Patience. I need to remember patience.
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    Interesting thread. I am a bit older, 54, but many people guess that I'm in my 40's. I was married 30 years and never cheated. Divorced two years, I have tried online dating twice - two different sites. Injecting a bit of humor here, but there's always a bit of truth in humor, otherwise it wouldn't be funny. Its interesting that women think the only thing I am looking for is a Barbie or sex.

    Most women are looking one of several types:

    1. Athletic and toned, makes $100,000+, lives within walking distance of the beach for long nightly walks there.

    2. Puts the ring on his finger, has a stable, good-paying job, does all the housework and yardwork, must like dogs (or cats), NEVER pesters her for sex.

    3. A Cowboy.

    I did find one person who I clicked with very well. Unfortunately, her son was living with her, and he had such a personality/attitude difference when she wasn't present that it made staying un-tolerable.

    So I know they are out there. Patience. I need to remember patience.

    There's a #2? :wink:
  • abheshek
    abheshek Posts: 525 Member
    i don't know why threads like this is making me depressed! hehe
  • bluefish49
    bluefish49 Posts: 102 Member

    There's a #2? :wink:

    I rest my case.:laugh:
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    i don't know why threads like this is making me depressed! hehe

    It might be the cynicism of some people. Pay it no mind. There are wonderful people out there in every age group.

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