WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY

I have been catching up on the posts. I rarely get to a computer on the weekends.
Those of you chatting about the in-laws~my MIL didn't want her son to marry me because she thought I was going to take him away from her. She had not had a good experience with his first wife. My philosophy when I married him was that his sons and parents were part of the deal. She and pop (fil) moved in with us in 1993. Not saying we didn't have difficult times and hurtful times, but before she unexpectedly died this past January, she was bragging about what a good dil I had been to her. Some times I had to bite my tongue at times thru the years~she obviously loved us. I pray that the inlaw situation for many of you eases both up a generation or down a generation. Blending personalities can be so hard sometimes and sometimes impossible. You have to stay true to yourself and sometimes ~ others just have to deal with it.
Bless you all.

Happy Monday to all and welcome to all the newcomers.

Just got an offer to go for a walk with a co-worker, so this will be my shortest post ever.

Later,

Jeannie

I have been trying to get in a zumba class also. Hope to start the new class in September the class was too full when i wanted to join. I want to loose my weight so bad.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I would have posted sooner but I had to laugh all day at the vision of Barb belting me into my chair at Starbucks on Friday.

:flowerforyou: this is day 2 of sitting still and I've done well.....I took the dogs out a few times and went to the grocery store but otherwise stayed put.......my knee is feeling better as a result of my good behavior

:flowerforyou: tomorrow we're going to visit our friends who have more than a dozen poodles----something like the VW filled with little furry dogs that Barb encountered at the grocery store----we're bringing popcorn and our air popper----we know how much our dogs like popcorn so this should be a real party....

Barbie,
Until I read your "belting in" statement, I didn't flash on the idea of a belt securing you in the chair, the same as Jackie's mum. Guess I am a little slow.:ohwell: In my mind, I was thinking more of a ball and chain :noway: :noway: so you couldn't leave to go walking!!!:bigsmile:

Dreyfus, my late ever great Shih tzu LOVED popcorn. Since it turned out he was allergic to corn, this posed a problem--so I had to be careful not to leave any available for him to sneak, or I ended up with an itchy, scratchy little boy. Have fun with your canine popcorn party.

Today when I came home from being out, I didn't get the usually noisy three ring circus-type welcome when I opened the door. Knew immediately that Bradley was missing!! Not to worry, as he wasn't very far away. He likes to sit on the patio and soak up the sun, and that is where I found him--thanks to the doggie door, he can go out whenever he pleases and there he was--taking a sunbath. As soon as he realized "momma" was home, he flew through the door and I got just as noisy and enthusiastic a greeting as I would have at the door. Got a few bonus "kisses" as well, when I sat down!!

I am trying to decide what to have for dinner. It is such a nice evening, I think I am going to grill myself a hamburger on the patio.

Welcome to any newbie that I haven't already addressed. I know there is more than one, but Nancyggg is the only one I can think of right now.

Everyone have a good night.

Barb

:flowerforyou: Hi. I have read ALL the posts and am proud of me for doing so. Welcome to anyone new or barely new! This is a great forum. :flowerforyou: I was just explaining to DH how wonderful the support is on this message board. He appreciates YOU ladies. So there. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: His skinny little body never needs any tweaking in the weightloss department, but he recognizes how difficult it can be for me. He's a good man (mostly) :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

:drinker: Don't know if you are tired of hearing this, but I biked back and forth to work today (20K each way) and I can tell you that it is tough. I want to do it again tomorrow. But not Wednesday, because I have Toastmasters and want to look presentable. I feel I still have a lot of strength to build.

:grumble: My grrrr right now is that the scale is not budging. Is it my age? Do I just need patience? Is my fat converting to muscle? Right now these are just rhetorical questions. Since - in fact - I am feeling quite excellent in any other way thank you very much. I also don't want to stress myself out, because I find that is so counter intuitive.

:drinker: Despite the aches and pains DH and I are grateful for the stage of our lives that we are in.

:drinker: This is it for me tonight :drinker:

(((hugs to all))) and tomorrow is a new day!

Rebel

Rebel,
Sorry your scale is being uncooperative. Maybe you are close enough to your ideal weight that you should just concentrate on eating right and exercising to build strength and endurance and let your weight take care of itself? I mean change your emphasis, not ignore your weight, but not have that be the primary focus. Just a thought.

Chiclet,
It took courage to share your story about your son and how he came to be a father. I have a friend who is going through some of the same issues with her son. I can't share the details, but she is not having a very good summer, and there isn't anything I can do to help.:sad:

I guess posting time is over, as Mr. Pepper has decided my lap is the place to be, so the laptop is going to have to move. Gotta get up anyway, since Mai Li is pitching a fit about something--I think it involves food!!!:bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

Good night.:yawn:

Barb

good morning ladies :flowerforyou: this is a very important day for me i go back to gyne when i had my opp to remove my large cyst and ovaries they could not do it because it as attatched itself to my bowels and bladder:noway: well i still am in lots pain and need to tell them i need this sorting . :grumble:

the thing is i dont know how long i can put up with the pain and misery:sad: so i am hoping that they get me in very fast :bigsmile:
you all keep me smiling and do take my mind off lots things thankyou all will post with the out come later xxxx

Hello ladies.

I'm feeling a little 'out of sorts' today. I keep going dizzy and think I need to get my blood pressure meds sorted out. I've made an appointment with the doctor for Thursday morning, so I'll hopefully get something done then. To think that I was on five different lots of bp medication in February and my bp was still sky high. I'm now on two lots of meds for it, but would like to think that I'll be off it completely very soon. After over eight years of ridiculously high bp, it would be nice to think that I'm now healthy enough for it to be normal!

Today will be mainly filled with 'parent parenting' - if you know what I mean (my dad and my mum-in-law both need time spent with them). DH also reminded me to water our gardens too, which I must do before it gets too warm. From where I'm sat at the moment, I have a good view of our back gardens and I have to say that they are looking good! We have some gorgeous fuchsia just outside the window and just a little further down there is a stunning white hebe which looks like a bridal bouquet at present. Just past the hebe is the huge bronze Armillary sphere that I had made for DH's fortieth birthday. As you go further down the first garden, there seems to be something gorgeous going on every few yards. I can't actually see the second garden to clearly from here as there is a natural arbour that separates the two gardens, but I know that the grape vines and the fig trees are doing well. We are also seeing a lot of cherries on the trees but not really that much in the way of other fruit just yet. For a long time, I would buy DH a tree for each birthday - we have a twenty year old oak which started off as a stick, that was the first tree I bought him. It's his birthday next month and I'm going to buy him an olive tree as we don't have one of those at the moment. I know they can be tricky to grow in our climate, but it should do ok providing it doesn't get overwatered in the winter months.

After reading some of the posts from you ladies, I really appreciate the fact that I no longer have teenagers! Wow, they were difficult years. I'm also lucky that all three of my children have wonderful partners who make them happy and who are happy to be part of our (slightly crazy) family. My DD#2's husband has said on numerous occasions that he feels much more a part of our family than his own. He did not have a particularly loving childhood and yet he is the sweetest, most thoughtful guy you could ever meet. I absolutely think of him as one of my own. My other son-in-law is great too, although I haven't known him nearly as long, but we get on really well and he sometimes calls me just for a chat. As for my future daughter-in-law, she is a poppet! Which is probably the wrong word to use for her as she is not wishy-washy at all. She is an only child and comes from Sri Lanka, so doesn't see her parents very often. My father completely adores her too!

Ok ladies, a quick and personal question. What do you all do about unwanted facial hair? My upper lip and chin are getting hairier and hairier as the years roll by. I tried electrolysis some years ago, but it didn't really work - despite visiting the salon twice a week for nine months! All it did was get rid of money! I also enquired about laser treatment, but it doesn't work if your hair is really fair like mine. I've tried threading and waxing, but it grows back so quickly! I'm lucky that the hair is not that visible because it is virtually colourless (one of the benefits of being a redhead!), but I still like to get rid of it. Any suggestions?

Time to get moving I suppose. Have a good day and don't forget to drink your water please!

Amanda x

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If at first you don't succeed, try ,try and try again!
:explode: My computer has it's own mind today so I'll keep this simple!!

:ohwell: The scales were a tiny bit better today ...nothing to crow about though!

I'm dodging the showers ...rather down pours! ...and will probably need to use the tumble drier today.

:ohwell: Nothing planned other than trying to keep my cool with you know who ...how many time can a body wish to go to the loo???

Amanda ...LOL ..:bigsmile: :bigsmile: .I thought I'd read at the end of your post ..." Time to get ....mowing!!!" I thought you'd said the facial hair wasn't too much of a problem!! ......I'm not laughing at you ...just with you!! I too have a problem ...kept at bay with cream and the trusty ladyshave. What we have to do to be beautiful eh??? I had a good school friend who had a leg problem ...many moons ago you understand! ...her cruel brother gave her a toy lawn mower for a present to "Mow" the fuzz!!

So ... I do hope everyone is enjoying your day

BFN
Jackie

Reading about the son's who have absconded to their partner's families reminds me of an old quote my mother used to say:

"My son is my son till he gets him a wife, but my daughter's my daughter all the days of her life."

Seems men have always been like this!

Mookie--I sure hope they will do that procedure soon. It sounds like you feel just awful. Prayers for you.

Amanda--I have the fuzz, too. Mine has some dark hairs mixed in so I pluck them. I used to wax but the hair has to be 1/4 inch long and the dark ones were just too visible to let get that long!

Well, need to get a workout in before work. Have a good day everyone and welcome to any newbies!

Good Morning Ladies,

it is cool and cloudy today, Very typical.

Renny - when we push ourselves really hard on strength training (ie riding 20k each way) Our mucsles retain water until they are a little more used to it and stronger. Don't worry about it and just keep going.

amanda - I love the pix. you look great too!

mookie - I hope things go well.

Erica - congrats on losing. Way to go.

Jeannie - sorry it is so hot. sure sounds like you are busy.

Barb - isn't amazing that fleeting instant of panic when our "kids" aren't where we expect them to be when we get home?

Barbie - I am sure the sitting still is driving you crazy. but I am also sure your body is thanking you.

Cindy - I am glad your daughters trip was successful, and I am sure you will be happy when things get back to "normal"

Robstells - welcome. Zumba is great, I just don't really like classes for some reason. I hope you enjoy it.

Jackie - glad your shoulder and arm are improving. Keep it up.

Elizabeth - it is so good to see you posting. I love your name ( it is my daughters middle name) You are doing awesome with your food and exercise. Keep it up girl.

Wishful - weekends are hard. I work extra hard during the week so I don't beat myself up so much when I relax on the weekends.

Cathy (camino) Welcome back. Wow what a whirlwind holiday.

Okay to everyone else, I read all the posts and you are all in my thoughts.


so my news. DD called after getting back from a trip to San Diego to celebrate her long time boyfriends birthday. After a day at the zoo, and a lovely dinner they went to stroll the beach to watch the sunset. they were picking up shells. Brian was handing Brie some of the shells he had found. The last one he handed her wasn't a shell at all but a princess cut diamond engagement ring. He then got down on one knee and proposed. Then got hit by a wave. Brie was completely taken by surprise because this trip was supposed to be about him. He apparently had the ring for over a month and was just waiting for the right moment. She is giddy happy because they have been together for 6 years but he was the consumate bachelor. Never wanting marriage or kids. (I knew he woudl change with age) He is 32 Brie is 26 so I am very happy for them. No date set yet.

:flowerforyou: Tuesday and I'm so busy I can't see straight:noway: but since I haven't been able to pop in since Friday I knew I had to do this today.

Robin _:drinker: Yeah you on the loss! How romantic (wave and all) congrats on your DD proposal.

Barbie - I think I may have to head to Wal Mart and check out their scales... Sounds interesting. Glad you are taking it easier today, overdoing will slow down that healing of your knee and you are so active I know that will be hard for you, but necessary.

Jeannie - glad you were able to crack the whip and get your house clean for the weekend.

Amanda - shoes? I missed a picture of shoes? Where do I go to see them, I checked your profile and didn't see them there. I just love shoes What a frustrating (in a good way) problem that the dress you had planned to wear to the wedding doesn't fit. When that happens I'm always hoping it's not a dress that I love, just one I tolerate About facial hair, I use Nair every six weeks or so and then check it daily with tweezers in hand, just a necessary evil I guess:grumble:

Terri - those four cookies :grumble: what were they thinking jumping into your mouth.

Jackie - I know we would all love to see that black evening dress , having to take it in to make it look right WOW that's a good feeling. That cruise is right around the corner and it sure sounds fun. #2 Son & DIL are going on a cruise in two weeks and I've loaned her a few of my dresses that I had bought in Dec 2008...I think that they would fit again...if I had a place to wear them. Glad you Dad is out of the hospital.

BirdieM- enjoy that vacation.:drinker:

Linda- one day at a time, hey you have lost #10 so you know it can be done.

SuzyQ- {{hugs}} to you, I know that our kids have no idea how they can hurt us we can only continue to love them. My heart goes out to you about your son. I can't imagine what I'd do if my sons were treating me that way, one thing I'm sure of my hubby would have been on the phone in a flash chewing them out for hurting their Mother.

Mimi - enjoy your time away at the Bay, it's so pretty there. So Mimi did you remember to drink a glass of water after each "colored" M & M?:ohwell: Sorry you missed the wedding, but hoping that the renewal of vows/reception comes off without a hitch.

Denise - glad your vacation to Canada was a success, will look forward to when you are home and able to jump back in on a regular basis.

Elizabeth - you have such a wonderful "traveling" family. and your 2yr old grandson sounds like a cutie:flowerforyou:

BarbieCat1- how good of you not to chastise your daughter for weight gain. My Mom is always quick to tell me and my husband when we have gained, it's always hard to see her when my weight is up, now that it's down a bit I won't be seeing her for several months...oh well:ohwell:

Kathy (plantlady) will be praying for her and her mom/family

Cathy - that sounds like a very busy vacation, glad you are back.:drinker:

Chiclet - wow, what a saga about your son & girlfriend, her mother sounds like she needs her head examined, I did everything I could to keep my sons & their female friends out of rooms with doors closed, as I didn't want their mother's calling me telling me "my son" was responsible for a "surprise baby on the way". I'm just glad those years are behind me

:flowerforyou: Welcome to the new ones, jump right in and let us get to know you and we will encourage you as you post.
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Finally finished catching up.

Last weekend was an eating frenzy, out for lunch and dinner on Friday, out for dinner on Saturday and a BBQ at our house Sunday night with way too much food. But am getting back into the real world and watching what I'm eating.

The boss is gone until tomorrow and I have more work than money to do with and would love to take a fun vacation anywhere that I can sit on a beach with a fruity drink and an umbrella in it with no thoughts of work, responsiblilites or caring what I know I have to do...but don't see that happening anytime soon.

I will continue to watch what I eat and drink plenty of water.

Have a good day All:drinker:

Laura

Hello. I'm enjoying reading all your posts.

I had a nice walk this morning with my mom, her new little dog (new to her), and her friend. It was foggy in Lafayette. Wonderful for walking. She and her friend usually walk a mile and a half. I liked that I wanted to (and did) keep going at their usual end. I took the little dog and walked another half mile. I wouldn't have done that in the old days! :laugh:

Renny, I've heard many times of people who've lost inches while gaining pounds because the muscle that's replacing the fat is heavier and takes up less space than the fat. This is a good thing! The best part is that you'll burn more calories even when you're sitting still!

Erica, congrats on getting closer to 199. What a good feeling!

Robin, congratulations on your son's engagement. That's exciting news. I'll bet he'll invite *you* to the wedding! :laugh:

Elizabeth, Barbie, and others, thanks for your kindness about my son's elopement. I'm having a hard time with it. It seems like such an uncaring thing to do. Telling me about it in an email that went out to 40 or so people (because he wanted it to be a "level" playing field) was the icing on the cake.

I have to think it was unthinking thoughtlessness (actually, I think it was a dumb *kitten* thing to do) rather than deliberate as he's usually more considerate and caring. This is the first time I've felt down enough that eating well and exercising just don't feel very exciting.

My best friend of many years tells me "it is what it is" (basically, to get over it!) That's what I want. That's what I'll do. Eventually.

It's hard to know what to say to him, if anything. I like his wife (still weird to say "wife") and want to be supportive. I WILL be supportive, doggone it.

The hardest things are 1) it's embarrassing - my "loving" son wasn't, and 2) wondering whether his more usual caring behavior is more duty than caring. That's a horrible thought .

Urgh. I'd rather be my more cheerful and optimistic self. Maybe more veggies will do it! :ohwell: :laugh: