psych ward after a suicide attempt.what do I tell work?

MeowMeowMeow92
MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
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I won't be able to go into work for in between 1-4 weeks... Do I tell them the truth and risk being judged or do I lie?

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  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    You get a doctor's note and take a medical leave of absence. They don't need to know the reason.
  • kms1320
    kms1320 Posts: 599 Member
    If you've been there long enough, take FMLA, by law they have to take you back.
  • creature275
    creature275 Posts: 348 Member
    is this not a fitness and health site...why do you people do this, do you seriously take heavy subject advice from people you dont know...seriously people
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    is this not a fitness and health site...why do you people do this, do you seriously take heavy subject advice from people you dont know...seriously people

    actually it's a dating site
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    is this not a fitness and health site...why do you people do this, do you seriously take heavy subject advice from people you dont know...seriously people

    actually it's a dating site

    Actually its a place to go for free porn....and a dating site... get it right.
  • erinxo13
    erinxo13 Posts: 892 Member
    is this not a fitness and health site...why do you people do this, do you seriously take heavy subject advice from people you dont know...seriously people

    maybe they have no one else to confide in.
  • laurynwithawhy
    laurynwithawhy Posts: 385 Member
    Tell them you were sick. Don't explain. If anyone really presses you, lie and make up an illness. Don't even tell the coworkers you "trust". They may not judge you directly, but word travels fast and that isn't information you want people knowing, you never know when it could come back to bite you in the butt.

    Also, good luck with your recovery.
  • Ramberta
    Ramberta Posts: 1,312 Member
    My question is, how do you have online access right now if you're in a "psych ward", to use your terminology? If you're in a mental hospital they generally don't allow PCs and don't have public computers. They don't even let you have a cell phone.

    If they let you go home and you are simply doing a PHP program, why are you not allowed to return to work?

    Either way, you need to explain to them what happened. You're getting help, and that's good, but don't lie. That just leads to more lies down the road if complications arise.
  • erinxo13
    erinxo13 Posts: 892 Member
    Glad to hear you are still around. I would ask your doctor or the hospital for a note saying that you need time off for a medical reason. They most likely won't have to go into detail. Good luck with your recovery, again glad to hear you're still around. <3
  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
    My question is, how do you have online access right now if you're in a "psych ward", to use your terminology? If you're in a mental hospital they generally don't allow PCs and don't have public computers. They don't even let you have a cell phone.

    If they let you go home and you are simply doing a PHP program, why are you not allowed to return to work?

    Either way, you need to explain to them what happened. You're getting help, and that's good, but don't lie. That just leads to more lies down the road if complications arise.
    obviousky diff countries have diff rules.. i have been in 2 different ones which both allow you your phone and freebwifi access...
  • faceoff4
    faceoff4 Posts: 1,599 Member
    I won't be able to go into work for in between 1-4 weeks... Do I tell them the truth and risk being judged or do I lie?

    Most others have given good advise. My only contribution is to say I hope you get good help and recover well and dont ever feel like you have to try this again. Best of luck!
  • MandiRae1005
    MandiRae1005 Posts: 9
    I agree on getting a doctor's note..there is no need for you to explain your situation to them. On another note, I wish you all the best. I've lost several loved ones to suicide and if you ever need to talk please don't hesitate to contact me. I sent you a friend request!
  • JennyLisT
    JennyLisT Posts: 402 Member
    I have actually been in this situation. I was in a facility for a little over two weeks. I obtained a letter stating that I was under the care for Dr. So-and-So from this date to that date. No one can ask you for more information than that.
  • FearAndTrembling
    FearAndTrembling Posts: 54
    It's a private health issue.
  • AprilRN10
    AprilRN10 Posts: 548 Member
    You get a doctor's note and take a medical leave of absence. They don't need to know the reason.

    This
  • Karrie262
    Karrie262 Posts: 152 Member
    It is a privacy thing. It's up to how comfortable you are with people knowing your business. They don't have to know and you not telling them ISN'T lying.
  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    Not sure if trolling, or serious.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    You get a doctor's note and take a medical leave of absence. They don't need to know the reason.

    ^^^ this

    I had time off work due to mental illness a few years back. I got a doctor's note, it simply said "stress related illness". Actually I told my employer the truth, they were very sympathetic about it. Attitudes can vary from excellent and clued up, to morons who don't have a clue... but in any case the doctor won't put all the details down on the sick note, if colleagues ask you can say you don't want to talk about it. But you're not required to give details, just a doctor's note.
  • fidelia1971
    fidelia1971 Posts: 5
    I do not know you, but you are a special and unique creation of God. Value yourself..I know it can be hard in life sometimes. Try to focus on the beauty of the world that is all around you because though hard to see at times, it indeed exists. Please take the positive that was said here leave the negative behind where it belongs :)
    and get better. You are loved!
  • TattednPierced
    TattednPierced Posts: 358
    I do not know you, but you are a special and unique creation of God. Value yourself..I know it can be hard in life sometimes. Try to focus on the beauty of the world that is all around you because though hard to see at times, it indeed exists. Please take the positive that was said here leave the negative behind where it belongs :)
    and get better. You are loved!

    Be careful.. saying the word God tends to bring out a whole new subject.
  • fidelia1971
    fidelia1971 Posts: 5
    In addition, disclose only what and to whom you are comfortable. Know you are not obligated to go into detail unless you desire. Never feel ashamed for being a real person with flaws, because no one I mean no one is immune. Hugs and kisses. :)
  • fidelia1971
    fidelia1971 Posts: 5
    I NEVER feel the need to be careful about who I am dear. But thank you for the advice.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    Not sure if trolling, or serious.

    right... because this situation is so far fetched.... :grumble:

    1 in 4 people suffer from mental illness at some point in their lives. Many will need to take time off for it. If there wasn't so much stigma attached to mental illness, that would make it a lot easier, and threads like this wouldn't need to exist, because people wouldn't fear being stigmatised or losing their job because of it.
  • fidelia1971
    fidelia1971 Posts: 5
    If someone walked into a church bleeding would you turn them away because it is not a hospital. Seriously, help or don't but never put someone down as if they are not worthy of your time. It will take nothing away from you to offer a minute to read someones problem and let them know your thoughts on it. Everything ties into life, true? We are here to help one another. :)
  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
    is this not a fitness and health site...why do you people do this, do you seriously take heavy subject advice from people you dont know...seriously people

    maybe they have no one else to confide in.
  • FlowersInTheDirt
    FlowersInTheDirt Posts: 124 Member
    It is a privacy thing. It's up to how comfortable you are with people knowing your business. They don't have to know and you not telling them ISN'T lying.

    What I was going to say.
  • kbeech06
    kbeech06 Posts: 328 Member
    It is a privacy thing. It's up to how comfortable you are with people knowing your business. They don't have to know and you not telling them ISN'T lying.

    What I was going to say.

    Me too. If you are comfortable telling them then that's up to you. I was in the same situation a few years back. I was comfortable telling my boss as he is a sweetheart and my best friend is his assistant. I've worked in places where I never would have told ANYONE though...so its up to you. Not disclosing the reason...is NOT lying. Its no one else's business.
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    Not sure if trolling, or serious.

    right... because this situation is so far fetched.... :grumble:

    If this poster is who I think it is, it may just be far fetched.

    To OP:
    Follow what everyone else said.

    If they judge or let you go because of it, you can sue them because they can't discriminate based on medical conditions.

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