Healthy eating and marriage

nicole_andan
nicole_andan Posts: 127
in Health and Weight Loss
I was going about my daily business and it suddenly hit me that health eating and a healthy marriage / relationship are very similar.

Both require dedication, vigilance and compromise. They can both make you feel like the most special and wonderful person, they can lift you up and make you feel strong, grounded but ready to take on the world! You will have disagreements, moments when you don't want to compromise but as long as you have balance the relationship stays healthy.

The flip side of that is that a bad relationship can damage you beyond belief, it is selfish and unkind, it will make you feel bad and unworthy, miserable and worthless and can take YEARS to overcome. It will make you constantly question your decisions or not think about your decisions at all.

Your relationship with food like any relationship has to be balanced and has to work for you and I think this takes time to discover... you have to feel your way in a relationship and discover what you can compromise on and what you can't. You cannot be complacent with your relationship and you need to discover what you need versus what you want but mostly you have to find your own way.

When you first get married, similar to when you first start a diet or change your eating patterns people will offer advice and you will take it, you will possibly tear yourself and your relationship apart trying to incorporate all the advice you were given but if you get past that stage (and it's a BIG if!) you will start to recognise what works for you and you will require the advice less and possibly come to resent it when it's offered without being solicited.

If you want the relationship to work you have to work hard and it has to be worth it and healthy.

I feel like a light bulb went off and I know that if I can make a marriage work with a man who I love dearly but regularly frustrates me beyond belief :laugh: then I can ROCK this healthy lifestyle and eating malarky... NO WORRIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :drinker:

Bring it on!!!!

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  • shadow2soul
    shadow2soul Posts: 7,692 Member
    I feel like a light bulb went off and I know that if I can make a marriage work with a man who I love dearly but regularly frustrates me beyond belief :laugh: then I can ROCK this healthy lifestyle and eating malarky... NO WORRIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :drinker:

    Bring it on!!!!

    So true :laugh:
  • nicole_andan
    nicole_andan Posts: 127
    I feel like a light bulb went off and I know that if I can make a marriage work with a man who I love dearly but regularly frustrates me beyond belief :laugh: then I can ROCK this healthy lifestyle and eating malarky... NO WORRIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :drinker:

    Bring it on!!!!

    So true :laugh:

    God love him, he's my hero but there are days when I want to pinch him!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I love this! It is very true and something not many people seem to understand these days. Both take an incredibly hard amount of work and time, but the results are so worth it!
  • nicole_andan
    nicole_andan Posts: 127
    Glad I'm not the only one who has to work hard!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nothing worth getting comes easy!
  • spekkio12345
    spekkio12345 Posts: 18 Member
    Eating healthy is much easier than marriage. There is little a person controls more than what they stick in their mouth and eat.
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
    Marriage is not hard at all. At least I've never found it to be hard work. Eating on the other hand, I was just lazy at what I was eating & not paying attention.
  • martintanz
    martintanz Posts: 280
    Quite an epiphany you had. All of us on this site are dealing, in one way or another, wth a flawed relationship with food. It is a thing all overweight, and recovering overweight people have in common.

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