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TeaOnTatooine
TeaOnTatooine Posts: 1
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Hullo,

Thanks for clicking, my name is Lj and I'm very overweight.

I've been putting this off for a while now, I have BPD, depression and anxiety. My weight spiraled out of control when my mental health dipped triggered by the loss of my baby during pregnancy, I put off getting help and I stopped looking after myself and started eating my feelings and avoiding going outside and socialising. I'm 23 years old and a UK size 22 (but even my current clothes are getting tight), a heavy smoker and I've spent so long trying to ignore the horrid feelings that accompany being overweight, I fill up on junk to try to give myself a false sense of contentment.

My mental health has been holding me back for a good couple of years now, I've decided that it's time to make a positive change, I don't see many people and I spend most of my time researching my disorders and fighting the daily battle of disquiet, and I really want to break out of the rut and meet other people that have been in the same situation, because it's a lonely existence.

The one gleam of happiness in my life is that my partner asked me to marry him on Christmas Day 2012, he's wonderful and he supports me in every way possible, but when he tells me that I'm beautiful I just don't believe him, my confidence has suffered due to my rapid weight gain, I don't want him to see me without any clothes on so our intimate relationship has dwindled. I want to be beautiful for him and I want to be the woman that he deserves and I do want to have children and .

I'm terrified, my mind is full of self doubt and paranoia but I've set myself a target of losing 6 stone in 2 years, putting me down to about 9 stone, my physical health is depleting I've had two organs removed this year which has really helped give me the push to move forward. I don't want to have toned abs or a tiny waist, I'm comfortable having curves but I want to be a healthy weight for my size, I don't want to tip the scales or spend another night crying because I can't fit into clothes I did a month ago.

Thank-you so much for reading, this is a huge step for me and I'm absolutely terrified so if you do have any tips, information or have been in a similar situation I would love to hear from you.

Lj xo

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  • galok
    galok Posts: 12
    You were very open and honest in your post; I think you have set yourself a great goal

    All the best and I and would be keen to follow how this goes

    galok
  • missybct
    missybct Posts: 321 Member
    Hullo,

    Thanks for clicking, my name is Lj and I'm very overweight.

    I've been putting this off for a while now, I have BPD, depression and anxiety. My weight spiraled out of control when my mental health dipped triggered by the loss of my baby during pregnancy, I put off getting help and I stopped looking after myself and started eating my feelings and avoiding going outside and socialising. I'm 23 years old and a UK size 22 (but even my current clothes are getting tight), a heavy smoker and I've spent so long trying to ignore the horrid feelings that accompany being overweight, I fill up on junk to try to give myself a false sense of contentment.

    My mental health has been holding me back for a good couple of years now, I've decided that it's time to make a positive change, I don't see many people and I spend most of my time researching my disorders and fighting the daily battle of disquiet, and I really want to break out of the rut and meet other people that have been in the same situation, because it's a lonely existence.

    The one gleam of happiness in my life is that my partner asked me to marry him on Christmas Day 2012, he's wonderful and he supports me in every way possible, but when he tells me that I'm beautiful I just don't believe him, my confidence has suffered due to my rapid weight gain, I don't want him to see me without any clothes on so our intimate relationship has dwindled. I want to be beautiful for him and I want to be the woman that he deserves and I do want to have children and .

    I'm terrified, my mind is full of self doubt and paranoia but I've set myself a target of losing 6 stone in 2 years, putting me down to about 9 stone, my physical health is depleting I've had two organs removed this year which has really helped give me the push to move forward. I don't want to have toned abs or a tiny waist, I'm comfortable having curves but I want to be a healthy weight for my size, I don't want to tip the scales or spend another night crying because I can't fit into clothes I did a month ago.

    Thank-you so much for reading, this is a huge step for me and I'm absolutely terrified so if you do have any tips, information or have been in a similar situation I would love to hear from you.

    Lj xo

    You are brilliantly brave and beautiful and thank you for speaking up and openly about how you've struggled. I too am a mental health sufferer (BPD in diagnosis, anxiety, depression, all sorts!) and have suffered for so many years - I'm sorry you've suffered too.

    I'm going to send you a friends request - I started my journey at over 21st and am nearly down to 17st 5lbs - it is possible, and can be done. I've found exercise a saving grace (I never ever thought I'd hear myself say that after years of despising it) but I know it's not always possible to bring yourself out of that "space".

    Take care and good luck, I'm always here xxx
  • ChrissyC1985
    ChrissyC1985 Posts: 405 Member
    hello, well done on making the decision to do this, i understand from personal experience of depression and a variety of other issues all leading to almost non-existant self esteem how hard it is.

    i was on anti-depressants for a long time which didn't seem to help but made me gain weight like crazy, further adding to the pre-existing issues and i finally decided middle of last year to do something about it.

    it's very slow progress and i still binge eat and feel guilty about it but i just work extra hard the next day of two.
    if you would like any support/motivation, i am more than happy to be friends, with anyone

    :flowerforyou:
  • aliencheesecake
    aliencheesecake Posts: 569 Member
    I got an e-cig and quit smoking about a month a half ago. I've been slowly upping my exercise intensity as well. If you start with some that unifies your mind and body, and that you can take at whatever level you are comfortable with, like Yoga, AND spend a week or so (at least) logging your food and beverage intake, you will be surprised at the progress you can make. Just being aware of how the calories add up can be a big help and help you make smarter food choices. I guess, without sounding preachy, what I'm trying to say is do the steps and the feeling good part will follow. Exercise makes me feel good. Maybe it can help combat some of your emotional hurts too, just to take the right steps towards being healthier. Good luck, and add me if you like!
  • Joannesmith2818
    Joannesmith2818 Posts: 438 Member
    Hi,
    I have been a sufferer of general anxiety for about 5 years now. I too spend most of my time to myself and have serious paranoia about different symptoms. I even got to the point where exercise would trigger panic attacks because it raised my heart rate. I am now terrified of the gym.
    I also suffer from chronic headaches (mostly tension type with a few migraines thrown in).
    So i know at least some of what your feeling.
    One thing is for sure...exercise and eating healthy has made a lot of difference to my mental state. I still find it hard to make it around a supermarket without abandoning the trolley in panic, but I can now do it.
    To try and get back into exercise I took it super slowly. Like literally 10 mins of biking (I purchased my own cheap exercise bike so I didn't have the added pressure of the gym).
    3 weeks in to the exercise and I can now do around 25 mins fairly comfortably.
    I also think my confidence is increasing.
    I I also have the same issue with takeaway and junk food. Too avoid having to talk to people in the kitchen I would make up an excuse and eat takeaway 4-5 times a week. And then it just became a sort of habit really. But I haven't had one for 3 weeks now (longest time in a loooong while).
    This first step has taken me months to achieve because I too was really scared. But believe me its worth it and I have only just started. I am looking forward to how I feel in a few months time. Its not an instant cure, but I can tell you it does help.

    Also congratulations on your engagement, that's super exciting and you can use it for extra motivation!!

    I will add you if you like!

    Jo
  • aliencheesecake
    aliencheesecake Posts: 569 Member
    PS, I am also on antidepressants, and understand your emotional issues and how they can effect weight gain.

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