curious about what you think :)

hellraisedfire
hellraisedfire Posts: 403 Member
edited January 23 in Chit-Chat
my boyfriend and I are looking at getting a house together... we've been really close friends for about three years now, but we just started dating six months ago. we've been looking at moving in together... he still lives with his folks and wants to move out, but he's type 1 diabetic and doesn't want to live alone. hell I'd feel better if he's with me lol. and I'm okay with us living together.

all the apartments around here are $800-$1000+... but a lot of the houses we're looking at are 600-800/month, depending on if it's a 15 or 30 year mortage. we're both engineers so I'm not worried about us being able to afford it, my apartment alone right now is $500/month + utilities.

is it too soon to be looking at a house? we're really happy together (I know that can change), but we also might be moving out of the area in the next few years. might being the keyword. I suppose that can happen at any point in life though. just wanted to see what other people thought before we ran it by our folks :)

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  • DrBentonQuest
    DrBentonQuest Posts: 151
    Congratulations on having a healthy [presumed] and successful [presumed] relationship.

    Personally, I'd say that you're at an appropriate stage to move in with a partner if that is something that you both want to do. But what is wrong with moving into the apartment that you are currently living in?

    I wouldn't consider purchasing a home with a person I was dating unless just one of you was taking on the mortgage...in the case you break up, you don't need the home to be part of the fallout.

    Of course, you two are both engineers like you've said and it seems that you should be able to afford a mortgage with little to no sacrifice. So maybe you should just go for it and he can pay 'rent' directly to you [or pay utilities, etc.] Just remember that once you purchase the home, you're kind of tied down for a while. Are you sure you want that?

    I only mention this because if you have to ask for your folks' permission to move in together, you probably aren't really that ready for commitment.
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