Eating out of grief

Beamcclure
Beamcclure Posts: 1 Member
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My husband died on July 11 last year. Since then I have put on forty pounds, and my eating is OUT OF CONTROL! I hope I can once again regain control of my eating....since I am basically dealing with my loss quite well...other than becoming a binge eater!

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  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    I am so sorry.
  • Smokey19
    Smokey19 Posts: 796 Member
    I can empathize with you. I lost my husband a few years ago and it was very hard to take. I recommend that you start journaling your emotions. Every time you want to eat something journal your feelings and thoughts and decide if you are truly hungry or just eating emotionally. I know that you can get through this and will take control of your binge eating. Another thing you might try is to go for a walk or drink water when you start reaching for food.
  • lizlovestrees
    lizlovestrees Posts: 47 Member
    Get a dog! Everytime I lose someone they seem to help. Nothing will take away your pain but food DEFINITELY WONT. They keep you active, they need your attention, love and exercise. I now have three :/ but I love them! :) And they are my world.
  • HollisGrant
    HollisGrant Posts: 2,022 Member
    Dear friend, I am so sorry. I lost my husband several years ago and was devastated. I ate comfort food and gained weight, too. Become active. Leave the house. Sign up for a class at a community college in something you are genuinely interested in, or take up a non-stressful hobby or an exercise class, something pleasant with a goal you can reach. Leaving the house is key. Do something peaceful and interesting where you go outside or to a different place.Get counseling if you need to do that. My best wishes to you.
  • Bearbrat
    Bearbrat Posts: 230
    I lost my son in April of 2007 and that was the beginning of me losing control of my life, so I understand where you're coming from. It wasn't just food for me, it was alcohol as well and those two together wreaked havoc on my body and me emotionally. The alcohol I stopped 4 years ago and it wasn't until sometime the beginning of this year that it clicked for me. I was so overweight and un-healthy, my blood glucose levels were pushing me to diabetic status and I just took a step back, and one by one I cut out the crap, no more three cups of ice cream, drowned in chocolate sauce and whipped cream every night, no more half a pizza. I've had plenty of moments of sheer panic because I don't have that food, that ability to cover my emotions anymore. There's no set time for grief EVER, and we often go back through the cycles over and over again. I'd say maybe choose one food that is a "go to" for you and cut it out. Go slowly, this isn't a race and do your best to try to accept that you're going to hurt. When I get that feeling I pick up a book or I get on my treadmill and just walk until I can't anymore. I also write. I'm so very sorry for your loss, just know you aren't alone. You can add me as a friend if you'd like. Good luck to you :flowerforyou:

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