In desperate need to fit into my wedding dress
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If you were my friend (and anyone who is friends with me knows this is the truth), I would tell you to buy a larger dress.
Honestly, it's not that buying something smaller as a motivation is a bad thing it's not. But stressing yourself out to reach a difficult goal at a time in your life when you are supposed to be working towards a celebratory occasion and life change is shooting yourself in the foot.
Why do that to yourself. Weight is easier to lose when you're not stressed. Workouts are better, sleep comes more easily, you make better food choices and decisions in general when you are relaxed and going with the grain instead of against it. Focus on what's important: being healthy and moving in to the beautiful journey of marriage. Drop anything that adds on to the stress factor.
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While the weight goal is doable, you never know WHERE the weight will come from, so whether or not you go down two dress seizes is questionable. I swear, my first 8 pounds came from my face, and my last 10-15 are ALL sitting on my midsection!
So, first, you have to get your eating in check. If you have a diagnosed disorder, schedule sessions with your therapist, got to meetings, whatever you need. Start tracking what you eat. Set up your account to get a healthy deficit going. And, add in exercise, especially lifting as it will help you retain muscle. You may not see the scale number move fast, but retaining muscle means more of your loss will be from fat, not muscle, so you'll get smaller faster (in theory).
I would definitely have a back-up dress, just in case. Not to demotivate, but so that's not one more stress if you happen to try your dress on in two weeks, and it's still 2 sizes too small. Knowing you have a back-up plan may take some stress off.0 -
I have been working out/eating healthy for like month an I've lost close to 15 lbs (I started at 252) so I don't think it's going to be hard if you commit:) I am also trying to lose weight for a wedding but mines not until next year lol add me if you would like!0
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Eat Paleo, and do 30 Day Shred EVERY day... step it up a notch and do 30 minutes of biking or walk/jogging too.0
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I'd be happy to be your friend. My situation is similar, though not as 'dire'. I'm already married but it was a courthouse ceremony with a bigger thing 'Soon'. I went dress shopping, informed the woman of my size. She then brought me a selection of dresses 2-4 sizes bigger than my size, while informing me that wedding dresses run small.
I refuse to wear a dresser 'bigger' than 'my size' (vanity is an awful thing) so I took my butt back home and decided I would readdress the dress situation later this year.
Long story aside I do understand the wedding dress woes and would be happy to motivate and keep you on track in any way I can.
Edit: Did you get that dress in your profile picture from Fredricks of Hollywood? I swear I have the same dress in blue.
Wedding dresses are sized more according to "true" sizing. It's not that THEY run small, it's that other clothes have been vanity sized ridiculously. I wear 4s & 6s in my dress pants & jeans, own dresses in size 6, but my wedding gown is an 8. And, because proportionally my waist is the biggest of the proportions., I have to have it taken out a smidge. If I had bought the 10, everything else would have needed to be taken in, so the 8 is working... I don't care that it's not the 4 or 6 I wear in other clothes. I'm just thankful to have found a beautiful gown that I love and no one is ever going to see the size tag, anyway, so why does it matter? Shrug...
ETA: OP, I wish you much success. I believe you can do it, though I doubt it will be easy.0 -
Also, I agree with this. ^^I respect trying to lose weight and set goals, but to set such expectations near your wedding, which is already a stressful time, seems unrealistic. Especially when you mentioned anxiety, depression, and binge eating.
What you could do is take it to the tailor and if the back allows, just ask them to make eyelet holes for a corset backing. That way you can adjust it to be as loose or tight as you need and it will still have a stylish, romantic look to it.
Either way, it's your wedding. Be happy and feel beautiful and please don't ruin the months leading up to it with beating yourself up or working yourself to the bone! Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
First of all the dress and you are gorgeous! I understand completely the value of getting that dress for that price. I think it is absolutely doable to get into the dress. I agree with planning your meals, but in your case you will need to plan for the week. I know I am addicted to taste and so I have to plan quite boring days or I will want to eat everything in sight. Whatever you plan you stick to that plan regardless of where you are eating. Remember if you are eating out, if the ingredients are somewhere on the menu, they can make what you want. As for exercise, if walking is what you like to do, remember to change your route. Your body gets used to things rather quickly. Maybe you might want to find some exercises that target the areas you need to slim down. I wish you the best and I know you can do this,0
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You look beautiful. I also agree with others who've emphasized doing regular workouts. Some type of resistance training, that will allow you to retain more lean body mass and lose the fat. I weigh now, what I used to weigh when I was barely in a size 8 jeans. I wear a 4 now, because much more of my weight is lean body mass than fat, as it was the last time (8 or 9 years ago) that I weighed this weight (actually less than I weigh now, by about 5 lbs).To those lecturing me about buying my dress too small, the reason being I bought it at a wedding show where I got a great deal on a dress off the rack. They probably would have ordered me a 20, but the dress was a 16 and an additional $400 off if I bought it that day. Who can say no to that! Got an amazing dress for $700.
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First off - good luck on your journey and congrats on your 30+ loss so far!!
I just got married in September and did not lose the weight I wanted to on my wedding day. Regardless, I was a beautiful bride on my wedding day and you will be too.
If there's one piece of advice I can give my friends getting married it's don't stress about losing weight or your appearance because you will look amazing regardless (though I totally understand the feeling of looking back at your wedding photos and wishing you had lost the weight sooner).
My zip-up dress didn't zip up and I had a corset/tie-up back put in to take off some of the stress of not fitting in my dress (P.S. I live in the same city as you and know a fantastic seamstress who did it for much cheaper than the bridal salons charge).
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The dress is gorgeous and so are you!!! You can do it if you really focus daily!!!! Friend me if you want!0
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That dress is awesome!
As others have said, your goal is doable but you're going to have to be very diligent over the next few months. Don't concentrate on just the number on the scale but also use measurements, how you're feeling and how your clothes feel to help gauge your progress. I "gained" 2.4# one week but the jeans that were a tad tight the week before fit perfectly the morning I logged my "gain".
Set yourself up with a decent calorie deficit. Too large of a deficit can slow/hinder progress as much as too small of one. This is a great post with resources to determine your calorie goal: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/912920-in-place-of-a-road-map-3-2013
Get on an exercise program that also has weight training which will help retain muscle as you lose weight. Be sure to drink plenty of water. If not already using one, get a food scale and weigh and measure everything. Depending on you and your personality, you may find more success to continue to eat what you normally eat, just in better portions. With the exception of cutting out soda completely and cutting way, way, way back on eating out, I still eat everything I ate before but just in better portions. I still have fast food from time to time and "indulge" my sweet/chocolate tooth daily. If I didn't, I'd end up bingeing on them (which for me would be eating 10 Oreos instead of 4 and feel guilty about it).
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Work on losing some inches rather than the scale weight... I lost inches all over when I did 30 Day Shred and now that I'm doing p90x, but I didn't lose much scale weight. Commit to a workout programme and keep yourself accountable for it and keep measuring!
This! Good luck, and feel free to add me if you'd like. :flowerforyou:0 -
Focus on inches. I did 30 day shred and lost about 6 lbs and 4.6 inches (total) in 30 days. Some people have lost more.
INCHES will get you into the dress....maybe not weight lost.
edit: to add: The dress is gorgeous and you look amazing in it. If you have to alter it, then do what makes YOU feel good for your wedding day!0 -
It will be a challenge, but buckle down and you will get to your goal! I am a Sept 7th bride 0
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I wanted that to be our wedding day, but our venue was taken. We're Sept 14th0
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I respect trying to lose weight and set goals, but to set such expectations near your wedding, which is already a stressful time, seems unrealistic. Especially when you mentioned anxiety, depression, and binge eating.
What you could do is take it to the tailor and if the back allows, just ask them to make eyelet holes for a corset backing. That way you can adjust it to be as loose or tight as you need and it will still have a stylish, romantic look to it.
Either way, it's your wedding. Be happy and feel beautiful and please don't ruin the months leading up to it with beating yourself up or working yourself to the bone! Good luck :flowerforyou:0 -
Losing that amount of weight is entirely possible if you're diligent and consistent. However, that will not mean that you will go down two sizes. Good luck!0
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Be kind to yourself, whether you lose all the weight or not, whether or not you fit in the dress as it is. You might not need to lose 20 pounds to lose 2 sizes. No matter what happens, you will be a gorgeous bride.
Congratulations on not gaining weight during what can be a very stressful time.0 -
Did you see the body revolution success story? I would recommend that or something like P90X or Insanity..
Is 2 months the absolute time you must go for a first fitting? I would contact your dress shop and find out how much further you can push it out. I mean, people get married in less time than that.. they have to make some kind of accommodation!0 -
honestly I think you can do it
If you stay super focues and motivated! And keep a happy attitude
Let me tell you what I did real quick and seemed to have helped me a whole lot
and yes its going to be very hard but Try it
No bread!!!!!!! No fried Foods!!!!!!!!!!!! No flour!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
eat a whole lot of fruit and veggies
load up on salads and protein
and yes workout
I did this and kept my calorie allowance and lost 3 pounds in 7 days
Drink a whole lotta water!!!!!
eat a lot of fish instead of red meat (I had red meat once a week and one cheat day light not crazy)
low Carbs!!!
Hope I can help
cant wait to see you in that dress :flowerforyou:0 -
That's the day we're planning on getting married, too!I wanted that to be our wedding day, but our venue was taken. We're Sept 14th0 -
I know that you can lose the pounds but the sizes? =/ There's no way of predicting how many pounds lost will equal a size lost and at your weight it may very well take more than 25 lbs. Just try to do what you can and don't stress if it doesn't work out perfectly.0
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Yeah, good luck with that.
I'm about your size and I've lost around 30 lbs since xmas. And that was only around half to a full size depending on the brand. It's possible, just not probable.
I was only trying to lose 25 lbs and lost 27 and 2 dress sizes in less time (Jan 1 - mid-April). And I didn't even really work that hard at it. Zumba for 45-60 min a day, 5-6 days a week was all it took.
I'd have had to work harder to do it in 2 months, but it's totally possible if one puts their mind to it.0 -
feel free to add me! i log in every day, i do go over sometimes but that's not the end of the world, i run, cycle and i'm getting married as well
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Lordy! all you folks that are putting this poor woman down because she bought a dress 2 sizes too small - do you not recognize that "BOUGHT" is PAST TENSE??? She already owns the dress, so back off! Jeez!
I have faith in you! You have terrific motivation (the wedding, even more than the dress!) and you're reaching out for support. Those are some of the best aids you can have.
I agree with folks who recommend trying to eliminate as much sugar as possible, and with actual sugar I also include white flour, white rice, and potatoes, which basically your body sees as sugar. It doesn't have much to do with calories - although they're all pretty calorie-dense - but with the fact that they can send you (read: me) screaming into binge mode.
Booze is also a stealth weight-loss destroyer. Not only are they empty calories, but it also affects your digestive system to the point that you basically don't burn any of the other calories that you eat along with the booze. It inhibits your weight loss.
You know what exercise works for you - if all you can do is walk, then walk. If you can do more, great.
You can do this!!! That dress is gorgeous, and you are, too!0 -
When I weighed 220lbs I lost 50lbs in 3 months lifting weights, doing pilates, & minimal cardio. You have to eat healthy though. All your workout will go down the drain if you eat crappy. I am in the same predicament, but I have more time than you do. If you need help/tips message me
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Dedication, dedication, dedication! That is the key. I bought my wedding dress several months back and had to get it in a size 14. I am now in a size 8 and am having my dress taken in. It is definitely possible if you put your mind to it!!0
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You can do that! Just keep logging, drink water, and exercise. I keep exercise as simple as walking after dinner.0
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u can do it ....a lot of cardio workouts and a lot of veggies fruits and water u can get it done.....maybe a lot of juice fasting....its not that healthy for juice fasting but ur guaranteed to lose0
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So I bought my wedding dress in January off the rack and it's 2 sizes too small. It's been such a rough go the last few months dealing with by anxiety, depression, and binge eating disorder. I'm happy to say I haven't really gained weight, but I'm still too big to fit into my dress. My fitting is in 2 months, and I think I need to lose about 20-25 pounds. I really don't want to have it taken out if I don't have to.
So I'm needing some friends to help me stay accountable, keep me motivated, and make sure I stay on track. I know this is my responsibility to do this...but sometimes that extra encouragement helps.
I know some people will say it's too much to lose in a short period of time...but i'm almost 250lbs right now...weight seems to fall off me faster the bigger I am. I would love to be 225 for my wedding.
wow i bought mine to fit had it taken int he day before my wedding to be a perfect fit 6 inches! i was 282lb when i got my dress and 224 on my wedding day x0
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