i love you but stop buying me candy!

Dancing Dreamer- My husband was the exact same way! Even before we were married he would buy me ice creams & cookies & boxes of candy "just because".. And at first I thought it was the sweetest~ until I was 2 sizes larger & counting. Eventually you will have to talk to him abt it. My husband can eat whatever he wants & doesnt get fat so he really never realized just how much of a sabotage to my diet it was! I sat down and explained that I LOVED the things he did for me.. But I just couldnt accept ANY food giftsd anymore.. I told him I wanted to grow old with him, I wanted to travel with him etc & if I continued to eat like this I would need a crane to get me outta the house.. Now (7 years later married with a one year old) he now brings me flowers, iced coffees & even sent me an edible arrangement one year.. He is much more sensitive! Just sit down & talk to him.. Openly & honestly.. If you plan on growing old with him- You have to learn to talk abt anything/everything.. This will be a lighter convo in comparison! Good luck & let me know how it works out!

My mom does the same! We live on opposite sides of the country and she likes to send me flowers and chocolate and I have to keep reminding her not to send me chocolate!! Oh, the people who love us!

I agree with Noelle, talk with him. It's the easiest way. Don't make him feel like he's doing something wrong. Just tell him that you LOVE that he wants to do something for you, how much all the little gestures mean to you and how loved you feel because he pays attention and wants to make you smile with his gifts. But tell him also that these gifts are actually not what you need right now, that they are the opposite of what you need.
Guys just try to impresse and show their feelings with things they buy. And usually candy, jewelery or flowers are the only things they can think of (yeah, my man is slow like that, so I know what I'm talking about). Take him on a shopping trip with you and show him the foods you would eat, if he would buy them for you. Tell him you like diet soda more than the normal one, because it tastes better, not so sweet. Explain SLOW why you wanna lose weight and that he is also a reason for this, because you wanna be active with him, spend time with him outdoor and just look good as his side. I'm sure he will get the message.

My mom does the same! We live on opposite sides of the country and she likes to send me flowers and chocolate and I have to keep reminding her not to send me chocolate!! Oh, the people who love us!

My mom is the same way. She will randomly bring me candy that she knows I love. Sometimes it is too hard to resist..lol

Ok so here's the deal: my boyfriend thinks I'm perfect. WHICH IS GREAT, DON'T GET ME WRONG! But because I'm not anywhere near as big as he is (he's trying to lose weight, and succeeding, too) he doesnt think that I am overweight. So he buys me non diet soda, and candy with sugar in it and other such foods I should be avoiding like the plague.

Now I know, I should just talk to him, but here's the issue: he gets upset and calls himself an "*kitten*" whenever I mention something maybe not right that he's doing. I dont think he's an "*kitten*" I just think he has "boyfriend goggles" on and sees perfection, which again is sweet but can get frustrating when he buys me things chocked full of calories and sugar, all I want is for the candy to stop and if he gets me a soda for it to be diet.

Has anyone else had this problem with a BF or whatever you may have as sensitive as this? Any advise on how to talk to him without the emotional response? Help would be SO VERY appreciated!

Well it's like this, tell him not to buy the stuff, he calls himself an *kitten*, you console him but stand your ground and he won't do it again. He will soon get over his feeling of being an *kitten* (because he isn't of course!) and you will be happier as you won't have to put up with the constant sweet stuff.

If however, he continues to buy you the stuff even after calling himself an *kitten* and you telling him, then you need to rethink your strategy

I think you should be honest. Speak the truth with love. Acknowledge his thoughtfulness and how sweet he is, but ultimately, be honest. As far as him being sensitive, just be kind. If he wants to put himself down then that may be an issue he needs to work through.

I don't know how serious you are in your relationship, but if you cannot be honest than that will be a major problem down the road.

i have the same problem with my husband...I'm chicken though...LOL I made him read this thread.....that clued him in really quickly that it was a similar situation and asked me if there were better alternatives to give me. We now have a plan that includes healthier options. He just wants to make me happy....too bad it was before the idea about the cash....LOL

Good luck with your guy He sounds sweet and loving, like mine....they can't help themselves :P

Elokyn- THATS A BRILLIANT IDEA! I think you may just be a genius. :happy:

haha I try!!