Curious: why add friends?

There are pros and cons of having friends.

I deleted all of mine.

It seemed like all they did as complain or brag. I got tired of it. Everyone expects you to respond to them too. So, every time someone said that they ate something or exercised, they expected you to say "good job" or "awesome." It also seemed like they were always prowling to delete people on their list. So, if you were struggling, you were deleted, or, if you didn't respond to their posts, you were deleted.

I got tired of the above. If you need help, I recommend that you ask for friends. But, please beware that it's time consuming. I view my time on here as a personal journey. I don't want to meet anyone else's objectives, but mine. As, this is my journey, I don't need other people using a measuring stick, always seeing if they should delete me as a friend or keep me.

WOW! I am sorry you felt that way. I don't feel as if I have to comment to everyone. I also don't just look at people who I should delete. I see my friends as people who I can learn from. People who can help me when I am struggling. People who understand the journey. I am not here to make people like me. I like me just fine. But I am human and I know that if I have support and people I can turn to when I have questions. That will make this process even more valuable to me.

Good Luck on your journey and if you ever decide you want a friend. Add me

Love

Also, for me it's embarrassing if people on my friends list see I haven't logged an exercise everyday, or I half assed logged in my food diary or haven't logged at all. So it's like I'm trying to impress them with all my hard work. I dunno... for me that's motivating.

There are pros and cons of having friends.

I deleted all of mine.

It seemed like all they did as complain or brag. I got tired of it. Everyone expects you to respond to them too. So, every time someone said that they ate something or exercised, they expected you to say "good job" or "awesome." It also seemed like they were always prowling to delete people on their list. So, if you were struggling, you were deleted, or, if you didn't respond to their posts, you were deleted.

I got tired of the above. If you need help, I recommend that you ask for friends. But, please beware that it's time consuming. I view my time on here as a personal journey. I don't want to meet anyone else's objectives, but mine. As, this is my journey, I don't need other people using a measuring stick, always seeing if they should delete me as a friend or keep me.

I think you chose the wrong friends.

My friends have stuck with me through a deactivation, several mini-meltdowns and all my b!tching, whining and crying and struggling (and I struggle a lot) and not one of them has deleted me and I have given them pleanty of reasons to do so.

As for the bragging, isn't that the point? You have an NSV you share it, you lose weight you share it you do something amazing you share it - I consistantly share my accomplishments I do not see it as bragging I see it as a way of letting people know that I am making progress - even if the scale doesn't say I am.

No one expects you to comment daily on their food, or exercise - I think I have commented on food and exercise 3 times in my entire time on MFP since 2011.

I delete people who are not active and who don't speak to me, if I have made the effort to comment on your wall I do expect my friends to take the time and do the same thing - but that doesn't mean I expect them to respond to EVERYTHING I write thats just crazy talk. But if there is no interaction what-so-ever what is the point in adding me in the first place? to just have me sit in your friends list making it look pretty? Hell even I don't comment on everything.


Sorry you had a craptacular time when you added people to your list but honestly not everyone is a judgy judy...

for support

For the sex.

This guy knows what he's talking about.

Creepily look over their pictures while you're alone in your bedroom.

I was trying to decide if I wanted to "join" the community part of MFP by reaching out and making friends. This post has convinced me that I should. It would be a source of encouragement and information.

Thank you for starting this thread.

I have been debating it too, but I think it would be nice to have others to interact with since I'm unable to do it on the other food logging site that I use.

Creepily look over their pictures while you're alone in your bedroom.

Looking? Is that what we are calling it now?

It's helped me to stick with it and keeps me accountable to "someone" other than myself....yes in the back of your mind you may question do these "friends" really care if I got in a burn today or I lost another pound...but since I'm alone in this journey and I don't get that type of support from my husband, I welcome friends and find the support more geniune because we are all on a similar journey.

I don't know either but watching other people's progress motivates me a little. Plus my timeline would be boring.

My friends help me stay accountable. I'm sure by now without my MFP pals, I would've called it quits, or have "started over" a billion times or so it seems. But I've been consistent on MFP since I began in January and it's partly attributed to my pals. My diary is open to my friends, so it makes me think twice about what I'm going to eat, because I know they're checking it to see what my day was like. All my pals are great. Some are less active than others, but I don't have one complaint about any of them.

When everyone else is bored of hearing of your weight loss/fitness the friends on here will still listen and be there for you.

Also, flirting is good

It is what you make it, really... It is social media but with mostly like minded people. Agreed, definitely not the drama you find on FB, although my FB is a drama free zone too...

I've made some awesome friends through MFP and have gained knowledge and wisdom through their shared experiences. I'm cheered on daily and it's a big motivator. Yes, sometimes it's time consuming when you want to cheer your friends on, but to me, it's so worth the time and effort spent... I read where someone posted it was a lot of whining and bragging and they didn't like feeling obligated to support others... I don't feel that way at all and I'm sorry they are missing the point to all this, perhaps there is a better site to participate on for those that feel that way.

Best of luck to you in whatever you decide to do!

WOW! Thanks for much for all your replies. I would love to add friends.

Feel free to add me