Dear Lisa, I'm sorry I asked you how much weight you lost

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  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    I can see where you're coming from. I've never particularly liked giving an exact number of how much weight I've lost, other than maybe to certain people who are close to me. For me, I think it has something to do with the fact that telling people how much I've lost is also like admitting how much I gained in the first place, which is stupid but it does make me feel a little uncomfortable.

    yes!!! that's it exactly!!!!
    I think both Lisa & now I were in denial of sorts about how large we really are/were.

    I know what you mean about being tall too. I had a friend many years ago who was a very large person. Not particularly fat, but tall and proportionately large. She was 6' to my 5'.

    She went away as teenagers sometimes do when they get in trouble with their families & when she came back she was just MODEL THIN. We all went bananas as teenage girls do and squealed with delight at how slinky she looked. I mean, really really lean & healthy, nothing jiggling or anything like that. She looked fantastic!

    She told us she was a size 7 and we weren't surprised because of how good she looked, it was what happened next that I'll never forget....she told us (proudly I might add) that she currently weighed 175#.

    We all just about fell out, lol. I had no idea, none of us did actually, (ahh, the ignorance of youth) that someone who weighed 175 could be so fit.

    I was just in awe. I totally thought I'd hear something like 130#, lol. I've often thought of her as the years went on & totally wished I was able to carry weight the way she did. The grass is always greener, isn't it? Shaking head :drinker:
  • BigDog
    BigDog Posts: 272 Member
    LOL.. I've noticed that the people that don't care if people ask are the same people that have their tickers proudly displayed in their posts.

    As you can see I am also one of the ones that doesn't mind when people ask the question. I'm happy to tell them. :-)
  • CherylAnn38
    CherylAnn38 Posts: 29 Member
    It makes me feel good when people notice I've lost weight. I'm working hard to get in shape and it's nice for that to be acknowledged. It also encourages me. I never realized it bothered some people so I'll be careful in the future about asking people about their weight loss.
  • sdurrahMpls
    sdurrahMpls Posts: 75 Member
    Wow! I love everything about this post. It was very awkward for me to give people a number at first, especially considering I had more to loose. I don't have a problem displaying it online, but saying it aloud feels like I'm shaming the fatter me, and trust me, she's just as awesome as the me I am today, she just didn't know then.
  • michellechawner
    michellechawner Posts: 892
    I go out with the girls every Monday night for dinner.

    After a recent yard sale (which is when I signed back up to do this for the second time), we went through what was left and tried some clothes on. Whatever didn't fit my two girlfriends, went to me (since I was the biggest). That's when it hit me I needed to lose more weight AGAIN.

    When we see each other Mondays, they don't ask, but the first thing I always say is how much I lost that week. They are both taller and weigh more than me, because of their height, and I have always felt like the fat short friend, up until about 2 weeks ago. Weight has always been a touch subject with all 3 of us. But I have no problem bragging when I lose. I'm working for it, they are not, but they still complain about their weight.

    Looks can be so deceiving. My yoga teacher is not the skinniest teacher, she's quite large actually, but she is a human pretzel. And she's so healthy. She's not your poster yoga instructor for sure.
  • Teddy_B
    Teddy_B Posts: 69 Member
    When in doubt, just stick with "Wow, you look great!"
  • Mareebzz
    Mareebzz Posts: 45 Member
    Wow! I love everything about this post. It was very awkward for me to give people a number at first, especially considering I had more to loose. I don't have a problem displaying it online, but saying it aloud feels like I'm shaming the fatter me, and trust me, she's just as awesome as the me I am today, she just didn't know then.

    I love this post. :heart: The fatter me really felt terrible physically - always in pain. She couldn't do nearly as much as I can do now. She was awesome in many ways, but she was really difficult to live with because she was in a constant state of pain.
  • brendaj39
    brendaj39 Posts: 375 Member
    I feel like a failure with the little weight loss I have lost, but I do know it is better than the gaining of it, but when asked sometimes how much I've lost, I tell them how many sizes I have went down instead of the pounds...that is more impressive to me any ways...
  • happywithme12
    happywithme12 Posts: 477 Member
    I have lost 50lbs to date. I don't mind at all bragging about it when asked. I already know I was fat. Why be ashamed. I would be ashamed had I conyinued to let myself go to seed. Each to their own.

    And therein lies the rub :ohwell:
    Lisa had NOT lost any weight, but inches & at the time, we didn't know that meant decrease of bodyfat = success. She thought she wasn't progressing.

    My dad, minimized what I had lost by his comment before, and comment in response. Lose-lose if you will.

    If I lost 50 pounds, I'd be proud too!!!! Congratulations on your success :drinker: i hope to join you sooon!!!!:wink:

    I agree with both of you it took me a year and a half but i recently got to my 50 goal and now i am working on strength training but i didn't measure when i first started it wasn't till later that i started to measure and i have lost a lot of inches as well, i think that knowing that you lost inches is a great way to stay positive and to keep going forward. I hope things work out for you and hopefully one day lisa won't be upset about people asking her that question but i could understand why she would get upset about it
  • bugaha1
    bugaha1 Posts: 602 Member
    Yeah i generally don't ask people about their weight loss, or if I do its a "you look great!" but when i was a kid, someone asked my mom "when's it due" honestly thinking my mom was pregnant. This was kinda of a double blow for her since she is a single mom.

    Never ask that.

    ^^----This

    When I'm asked how much I've lost I like to be cute and saying something like "hundies" When I'm asked how I did it I like to say "liposuction, I eat anything I want and I just get it sucked out" =)

    I do this because I have found some people want to pick apart what you’re doing like they’re a dietitian. I also am getting tired of the “are you still on your diet?” But if they are sincere and are really interested I do go into what I’m doing.
  • fitfreakymom
    fitfreakymom Posts: 1,400 Member
    If someone asks how much weight you lost, maybe you could reply something like:

    (example)
    Nosy person: "How much weight have you lost??"
    You: "Well, I think the most important thing is that I feel great and/or lost some inches!"

    If said nosy person persists, you could be blunt and respond, "That's a really personal question, don't you think?"

    you could just take it as a compliment and tell them how much you lost and be proud of it.
  • Koholint
    Koholint Posts: 104 Member
    If someone asks how much weight you lost, maybe you could reply something like:

    (example)
    Nosy person: "How much weight have you lost??"
    You: "Well, I think the most important thing is that I feel great and/or lost some inches!"

    If said nosy person persists, you could be blunt and respond, "That's a really personal question, don't you think?"

    you could just take it as a compliment and tell them how much you lost and be proud of it.
    Sometimes you lose more inches than pounds, so you become smaller even if the number on the scale doesn't go down.

    Me, I haven't really lost many pounds yet, but I know that inches are coming off and I feel so much better! I'd be embarrassed if someone asked me how many pounds I'd lost. It's a pressuring question. Not everyone is comfortable divulging that amount... like me.
  • TheViperMan
    TheViperMan Posts: 235 Member
    I get offended by people who get offended about stupid crap...

    An attractive female coworker asked me out of the blue just yesterday if I had lost weight... It's only been a year, I see her every few days, but whatever...

    "Yeup, 54 pounds so far..."

    Her facial expression was unmistakeable - she was surprised! I felt like a million bucks... :wink:

    But hey - if you want to be offended about people asking if you've lost weight, suit yourselves. Just don't "friend" me, please...
  • heybales
    heybales Posts: 18,842 Member
    I get offended by people who get offended about stupid crap...

    An attractive female coworker asked me out of the blue just yesterday if I had lost weight... It's only been a year, I see her every few days, but whatever...

    "Yeup, 54 pounds so far..."

    Her facial expression was unmistakeable - she was surprised! I felt like a million bucks... :wink:

    But hey - if you want to be offended about people asking if you've lost weight, suit yourselves. Just don't "friend" me, please...

    I think most of the response have been around the question being - "how much have you lost", not just a positive observation that "you've lost some weight it looks like".

    To take it one step further in the worse direction, would be if the question contained a guess - "how much have you lost, 100 lbs?" when you lost 20 and only need to lose 50, or "10 lbs" when you lost 40.

    I could see either of those messing with you if you weren't happy and confident about your progress so far and future prospects of progress.
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    I get offended by people who get offended about stupid crap...

    An attractive female coworker asked me out of the blue just yesterday if I had lost weight... It's only been a year, I see her every few days, but whatever...

    "Yeup, 54 pounds so far..."

    Her facial expression was unmistakeable - she was surprised! I felt like a million bucks... :wink:

    But hey - if you want to be offended about people asking if you've lost weight, suit yourselves. Just don't "friend" me, please...

    I think most of the response have been around the question being - "how much have you lost", not just a positive observation that "you've lost some weight it looks like".

    To take it one step further in the worse direction, would be if the question contained a guess - "how much have you lost, 100 lbs?" when you lost 20 and only need to lose 50, or "10 lbs" when you lost 40.

    I could see either of those messing with you if you weren't happy and confident about your progress so far and future prospects of progress.

    ::Swooon::
    I totally never even thought about that, lol! yes, I think that would've been terribly awkward if my dad had guessed more than the 10 actual pounds, I did lose more inches than pounds so when I said 10 pounds out loud, it indeed sounded unimpressive. I think that's why I felt badly too. Shrug.

    I guess I felt that because he knew I was dealing with a previously undiagnosed medical issue & now with the issue addressed, the weight loss was an incidental by-product of correcting my problem.

    I guess I kinda felt like being well was more than just the sum of my weight loss but he managed to reduce it to that.
    Of course I realize he didn't mean to, but remember I said he was kinda jerky? LOL, well he is, but that's another story :yawn:

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