Emotional eaters, how do you deal with stress???

Cause I have a boatload right now and need to find a way to deal effectively without falling back into bad habits.

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  • mjhedgehog
    mjhedgehog Posts: 249 Member
    exercise is good for stress. I usually go for a run or I go play some softball with friends when I feel like eating from stress. And 99% of the time I feel a lot better after I go exercise.
  • sam308lbs
    sam308lbs Posts: 1,936 Member
    Exercise regularly.
    Start writing your thoughts down.
    Seek support from your fl.
    Set short term and long term goals and reward yourself!
    Plan your day and meals ahead
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    Exercise regularly.
    Start writing your thoughts down.
    Seek support from your fl.
    Set short term and long term goals and reward yourself!
    Plan your day and meals ahead

    Good suggestions, thank you.
  • xLexa
    xLexa Posts: 482 Member
    I agree the exercise helps me a lot! Instead of running to the cookies I "run" around the neighbourhood.. or walk hehe but it works :)
  • SeaStar
    SeaStar Posts: 113
    I've been biking long distances all over San Diego.. I'm finding now when I would normally come home from school and start eating everything, I just hop on my bike to a beach.. and 20 miles later I haven't ate a bunch of food out of boredom and I have a bunch of calories extra to eat.

    I am bipolar, and get very emotional a lot, and eat a lot when I am sad. Biking has helped my happiness and control my over eating.
  • conniemaxwell5
    conniemaxwell5 Posts: 943 Member
    Find something you love to do or are passionate about that you can turn to instead of food when you're stressed. I recently took up the piano again and after work I spend at least 30 minutes playing my practice music. It takes me to a different place and when I'm done I can enjoy the rest of my evening without even thinking about work or whatever else had me stressed.
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    I think after dinner, I need to hop on my bike. I'm nursing an injury and can't really walk it out right now, way to SLOW.
  • JesterMFP
    JesterMFP Posts: 3,596 Member
    Keep reminding myself that food (or rather, over-eating) doesn't actually solve any of the problems that stress me out. Food does make me feel a bit better (I suspect it always will) but only a little bit. I've learned to make use of that and recognise the point beyond which it makes me feel worse. So, having a cup of tea and a biscuit, or a piece of chocolate may cheer me up a little, but I know that having too much chocolate, or a packet of biscuits, won't make me feel any better than that initial boost, and will actually end up making me feel worse (bloated, irritable, regretful etc).

    Additionally, I've found other ways to cope with stress such as having a bath, going for a walk, running, meditation, yoga, talking to a friend, drawing etc. Whatever. Experiment and find what works for you. None of those things have that immediate "hit" that over-eating has, they work in more subtle ways, but they do work.

    Distraction techniques also help a lot. If I'm craving something (and I know it's not real, physical hunger) I tell myself to wait ten minutes, or half an hour, and that I can eat whatever it is after that time. I go and do something else, and usually, the craving passes.

    Also, sometimes it's about allowing yourself to feel whatever negative emotion it is. Stress, anger, sadness, guilt, regret, loneliness, fear... none of those things are pleasant, but I know that feeling them won't kill me. Sometimes we overeat to stop ourselves feeling anything at all. Learning that you can feel that negative emotion, and that you'll still be ok, is quite a powerful thing. You don't have to block it out.

    A few blogs/articles I've found useful along the way:
    http://www.aliceboyes.com/urge-surfing/
    http://www.thegreatfitnessexperiment.com/2013/04/everything-you-never-wanted-to-know-about-emotional-eating-what-how-and-why-you-should.html
    http://bingeeatingtherapy.com/2010/11/08/fighting-urges-to-binge-eat/
  • Isakizza
    Isakizza Posts: 754 Member
    Workout.
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    Keep reminding myself that food (or rather, over-eating) doesn't actually solve any of the problems that stress me out. Food does make me feel a bit better (I suspect it always will) but only a little bit. I've learned to make use of that and recognise the point beyond which it makes me feel worse. So, having a cup of tea and a biscuit, or a piece of chocolate may cheer me up a little, but I know that having too much chocolate, or a packet of biscuits, won't make me feel any better than that initial boost, and will actually end up making me feel worse (bloated, irritable, regretful etc).

    Additionally, I've found other ways to cope with stress such as having a bath, going for a walk, running, meditation, yoga, talking to a friend, drawing etc. Whatever. Experiment and find what works for you. None of those things have that immediate "hit" that over-eating has, they work in more subtle ways, but they do work.

    Distraction techniques also help a lot. If I'm craving something (and I know it's not real, physical hunger) I tell myself to wait ten minutes, or half an hour, and that I can eat whatever it is after that time. I go and do something else, and usually, the craving passes.

    Also, sometimes it's about allowing yourself to feel whatever negative emotion it is. Stress, anger, sadness, guilt, regret, loneliness, fear... none of those things are pleasant, but I know that feeling them won't kill me. Sometimes we overeat to stop ourselves feeling anything at all. Learning that you can feel that negative emotion, and that you'll still be ok, is quite a powerful thing. You don't have to block it out.

    A few blogs/articles I've found useful along the way:
    http://www.aliceboyes.com/urge-surfing/
    http://www.thegreatfitnessexperiment.com/2013/04/everything-you-never-wanted-to-know-about-emotional-eating-what-how-and-why-you-should.html
    http://bingeeatingtherapy.com/2010/11/08/fighting-urges-to-binge-eat/

    I will check those out thank you.
  • SeaStar
    SeaStar Posts: 113
    I think after dinner, I need to hop on my bike. I'm nursing an injury and can't really walk it out right now, way to SLOW.

    That's the spirit!

    I myself used to run long distance for years, but then developed chronic sciatica pain from a constant inflamed psoas muscle and have turned to my bike instead. Much better on the body and you get to see so much more!

    Biking has really turned my life around and the high is even better than the runner's high I used to get.
  • brenn24179
    brenn24179 Posts: 2,144 Member
    I agree turn to exercise, take a walk. I just went thru a stressful weekend and was ordering pizza, going out to chinese, all this stuff was comforting to me. I did not even realize what I was doing but looking back I was doing it to feel better. Next time I will try to ask myself questions Is this a difficult time and write about it. Try to eat healthy or at least subway if I am eating out and tell myself to behave until lets say next week this will be over or better. I was just eating to feel better which of course didnt work and I gained 4 lbs over the weekend and have had to work like crazy to get it off! Yep, I could have had turkey burgers or chicken but No I wanted all those carbs and fats! Making a plan for next stressful time.
  • asp415
    asp415 Posts: 1,492 Member
    I find that it is only a temporary fix. I feel worse after I let myself get carried away w/food because now I also feel guilty & sluggish. The guilt will make me wallow in self-loathing for lack of control & the sluggishness makes it worse to get up and exercise. I do find that I feel more full of energy & positive thoughts after a quick work out, be it a walk, bike ride, etc. Hang in there don’t let take you off track… you WILL succeed!.
  • asp415
    asp415 Posts: 1,492 Member
    ps. also I tend to write when I am upset, it drains the negativity away.
  • Beezil
    Beezil Posts: 1,677 Member
    Exercising, going for a walk / jog, taking a hot shower / bubble bath, drinking a cup of hot tea with skim milk / honey, petting my kitties, watching a movie, listening to music, getting on MFP and talking to my friends, talking to my husband, meditation.
  • NumbrsNerd
    NumbrsNerd Posts: 202 Member
    Exercise, definitely. I walk on my lunch breaks to blow off steam. On the days where people really tweak me off at work, I tend to work out harder without trying. By the time I'm finished, the stress is gone.

    This also helps me sleep better too. Before working out, the stress would keep me up at night, but now, I'm out like a light.
  • skinnydreams19
    skinnydreams19 Posts: 282 Member
    BUMP! I have final exams right now and am a mess - been eating ~3200+ calories per day for the past week or two, since the start of 'hell week' (which is, as you can tell, actually much longer). My last final is Saturday, but I have LSATS in June. I need to get a grip!
  • Beezil
    Beezil Posts: 1,677 Member
    BUMP! I have final exams right now and am a mess - been eating ~3200+ calories per day for the past week or two, since the start of 'hell week' (which is, as you can tell, actually much longer). My last final is Saturday, but I have LSATS in June. I need to get a grip!

    *hugs* Sending calming vibes in your direction.
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    Plenty of exercise and good comfortable friends
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Yes to Debbe2's answer. I am satisfied if i get to eat fun foods in the context of friends, fun and family. I am NOT satisfied eating under stress and without joy and fun. I regularly plan fun fellowship and food times to enjoy to the full.
  • falilvx
    falilvx Posts: 52 Member
    Sometime I exercise when I'm stress.
    Sometime I binge
    Sometime when no food in the refrigerator or don't have space to exercise
    I listen to hardcore music,OH YEAH :wink:
  • meadow_sage
    meadow_sage Posts: 308 Member
    exercise is good for stress. I usually go for a run or I go play some softball with friends when I feel like eating from stress. And 99% of the time I feel a lot better after I go exercise.

    Exercise and meditation or call a friend. Munch on carrots that will help and you can't eat too many carrots, you will get tired of chewing first, lol.
  • quiltlovinlisa
    quiltlovinlisa Posts: 1,710 Member
    Music definitely helps! My bike ride is postponed until morning so I can go with a friend.

    I'm taking my frustration out in the dirt. I really need to plant my garden. Thanks again everyone.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Working out and exercise. Playing sports and competing. Complete down time like playing video games.

    Drinking...probably not the best choice. But a few beers or a glass of wine to unwind helps.
  • TXBelle1174
    TXBelle1174 Posts: 615 Member
    Exercise. Specifically - I like yoga. There are a lot of beginner videos on You Tube (Namaste by Dr. Melissa West is good) and that helps because I am a BEGINNER when it comes to yoga. I can't do any impact sports at the moment so this is a good alternative. I also like riding my horse but that isn't possible for everyone to do.

    I also like gardening or cranking up my ipod and cleaning the house or reading a really good book. Reading lets me shut off my brain and focus on something else.
  • RickyLuvsMary4ever
    RickyLuvsMary4ever Posts: 56 Member
    To curb my emotional eating, I look inside my self and check if I am stomach hungry or tastebud hungry. Then I also log the foods I want to eat in the food diary to see if my treat is going to totally ruin my day.