I feel like giving up.

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  • kellykw
    kellykw Posts: 184 Member
    Every day when you wake up, decide to do the very best that you can, and do it. That doesn't mean you can do things perfectly to your liking every day. At the end of every day, forgive yourself if you have been less than perfect and decide that tomorrow you can do a little better. I know it sounds simple, but it has helped me tremendously.

    Walking outside is GREAT exercise. If you can't get outside or don't feel like going outside, dance, move, do something, even just for a few minutes at a time. It adds up and you'll start to feel better. Making healthy choices builds your self-esteem and self-worth, and that makes it easier to keep on making healthy choices for the long run.
  • shred_me_up
    shred_me_up Posts: 267 Member
    work out at home! i dont go to the gym myself, download jillian michaels 30 day shred and start with that :) just push through, it will be hard at first but its just 25 minutes a day, force yourself to take that time for yourself. as for food, start with small changes. cut out one thing a day thats unhealthy, make small switches that wont be too noticeable but that will add up! even if you have to eat fast food, inform yourself before to make the best choices. YOU CAN DO THIS.
  • kamakazeekim
    kamakazeekim Posts: 1,183 Member
    *hugs* It's ok to get down sometimes...you just need to take a deep breath and clear your head...say alright, I messed up but that doesn't mean I failed. Go on youtube, there are some AMAZING workouts you can follow along with on there! You can add me if you like, I can help support you :)
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    I am not very good at giving advice but only can speak from my own experience. I have been trying to lose this last 10 pounds for the past 2 years but they never went away. Then I started running just because I didn't try it before. Then one day I noticed that i felt in love with running and it's no longer an effort to put myself on the treadmill. I just want to run. I stopped counting calories which was another burden on me too. All together I feel much better even my weight is still the same...

    Try to find something you really enjoy doing and just forget about the weight and calories for a while. Hopefully this wil reset your mind and your body and give you a new start...

    Good luck~
  • bhdon
    bhdon Posts: 117 Member
    One thing that helps me when I start to feel hopeless about my weight is I keep a picture of myself as a little girl handy. When I start to feel helpless - I look at that little girl ( me) and I talk to her as if she's a child that I love dearly. It's almost impossible for me to tell her that she's not worth it, that I'm just going to let her be unhealthy because I don't love her enough to take good care of her. That I'm giving up on her. That she's on her own now, and I'm not going to love her anymore. That it's okay for her to eat junk food, and that it's okay for her to not make time to love her body. Maybe because I've been a 'caregiver' all my life, it's easier for me to separate out from myself that way. For some reason, I'm willing to commit to that little girl in the picture ( me) easier than I am directly to myself. It's probably kind of a weird way to do it ...but it almost always helps me.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    From OP part way down Page 1:
    Thank you everybody for such positivity and making me feel like i'm not so alone in all this because that's one of my biggest problems. I don't have many friends and so it's nice to know I can come on here and have the support I don't really have around me. If any of you have any other tips please let me know and add me as a friend and we can both motivate each other. For some reason, I love motivating other people, even if I can't do it much myself. Thank you again. :)

    Crisis averted. Carry on.
  • albayin
    albayin Posts: 2,524 Member
    Another thing I did to motivate myself, (maybe not a healthy habit for some of you) was buying some pretty workout clothes, like LuluLemon, Lucy...I felt so pretty in them so I want to wear them and work out~
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    hard truth.

    will doing what you HAVE been doing- that GOT you to where you were make you feel better?

    will staying where you are make you feel better?

    Will getting MORE over weight make you feel better?

    No. No. No. No. the answer will always be no- you aren't happy now- doing what you did to get you to this piont won't make you happier. It's literally insane to keep doing the same thing and expect your out look to change.

    YOU MUST MOVE FORWARD. you must and YOU CAN. You will March- trudge-walk- drag your brain and body through the mud: with conviction or without- it doesn't matter if you believe it- just put one fitness/diet foot in front of the other. KEEP PRESSING FORWARD. The changes will come- it takes time and it takes a LONG TIME. That is the biggest issue- is the waiting for the results of long consistent hard work.

    There is no "should I" there is no "I guess I could" the answer is I WILL EAT... X, Y and Z. I WILL workout today. Make no room for excuses- just do the things. Regardless of if your heart is in it or not. Being healthy and getting fit is boring. That's the big secret- eat well- eat "clean" eat a deficit- work out. no big secret. YOU CAN DO IT... you just have to insist that your body and brain do it too. Regardless of if they like it or NOT!!!

    :)
  • ddky
    ddky Posts: 381 Member
    I am sorry your friends and family are not supportive. However, you can find as many supportive friends as you can handle on this website. Money is no excuse. You do not need a gym. If you have a floor you can exercise. Fill up a couple of empty milk jugs with water and you have 8 pound weights. Money is not an issue for food. You can have a ham sandwich on wheat bread, and a tossed salad for cheaper than a McDonalds combo. Bake a couple of chickens, toss the skin and you can eat on that all week. Good luck to you. Send me a friend request if you like.
  • mickey2168
    mickey2168 Posts: 20 Member
    Hang in there! You can do it. Don't give up. We all have bad days sometimes. I would agree with the person who said make small goals - even"I'll walk around the block" or whatever. If you have a smartphone - take a look at the Striiv app. It makes walking fun!
  • PhattiPhat
    PhattiPhat Posts: 349 Member
    in my opinion, fruits, veggies, chicken, oatmeal, yogurt, etc are very inexpensive at the grocery store! a lot cheaper than the fast food your buying. dont say you cant stop eating fast food, because you can, you just are choosing not to. it comes down to either you want to lose the weight ot you dont. no one here can make you eat better, force you to make better choices, and make you have self control, only you can do that for yourself. only you can take control of your life, it comes down to choices.

    This.
  • skatermom503
    skatermom503 Posts: 96
    You can do this. Baby steps, girl!! First is to try to get help with your depression. If you have insurance, check with them. If not, call your county and get their help with insurance and counseling. And find a support group like TOPS. There are a jillion groups and they only cost about $5 a month. No excuses. I spent my life making them and they finally ran out. You can do this. Get on the phone and start asking for help. Call your church. If you don't have a church, it doesn't matter. Call different ones until you find one that can help. Look at little snapshots of where you want to be, not at only the end result. It's overwhelming but you can do it. Talk to us here on MFP. We've all been there one way or another. Blessings and prayers for you. Now get moving!!
  • JennyLynn2002
    JennyLynn2002 Posts: 1
    What started this journey?
    I began my weight loss journey after seeing a photo of myself at my son's birthday party in 2011. I was discussed at what I was looking at, and I knew it was a time for a serious change.

    I did pretty good for a little while, I joined a weight loss support group (TOPS : Take Off Pounds Sensibly) My first weigh in was 258.8, thats less than what my weight was in January 2011 (300#). I was on the right track but needed support. My weight was tracked each week, and I was steadily loosing each week.
    Then something happened, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. Thats all I needed on top of all of my other medical issues and being disabled. I have a difficult time going for walks or doing simple exercises. So my weight loss plan has been changing my eating habits.

    And where I am now...
    I have begun to gain all the weight back. I had lost (since joining TOPS in June 2012) more than 25 pounds, now I am back up to 245.8 pounds. I feel like giving up... 12 pounds back on is deeply depressing to me, and living in a house of all thin people, its rather difficult to get the support I need at home.
    I seriously feel like just giving up and living life like i use to before TOPS. :noway:




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  • Mr_Excitement
    Mr_Excitement Posts: 833 Member
    Eating healthy is a lot less expensive than eating out-- even fast food. I think my standard collection of food for a week comes in around $35. Do you cook?

    You really don't need a gym membership, either. Just eat well, do some walking... you'll get there. You can do it. :)

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