Baby?please help advice

katherinelouisedoddxx
katherinelouisedoddxx Posts: 14
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Hi im only 19 nearly 20 but im living in fear every day about my future about having kids,I dont have periods the doctor said it mite be my weight im 19stone 7 every-time i loose bit weight i have normal period so this reason for me loosing weight now.but im scared i wont conceive kids been told i have pcos which means harder to conceive im so petrified im living with the pain in my heart everyday im engaged have been since 18 and im so happy with my wesley but im scared hes gonna leave me one day if i can give him kids he says he wont care he loves me but i want a proper family a child to love and care and husband please give me advice on what is best to conceive or advice i really want a child have done for a long time. xxxx

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  • DalekBrittany
    DalekBrittany Posts: 1,748 Member
    Please don't have one any time soon. That is my advice.

    There are options other than conceiving naturally. Adoption, surrogacy, IVF, fertilization drugs, etc.
  • kmm7309
    kmm7309 Posts: 802 Member
    I have PCOS and I was told I was infertile. When I lost about 40 pounds I started ovulating for the first time in my adulthood. It can certainly be reversed by taking care of yourself. However, I suggest waiting as long as possible. I'm 24, I've been married for 8 years, and I'm still planning to wait another two years before having my own kids (I have two step-sons) so I can get my bachelor's. So yes, you can have your family, but you have to take care of yourself physically (and financially) before you do so!
  • cwaters120
    cwaters120 Posts: 354 Member
    believe me when I tell you rushing will only make it more stressful on you AND Wesley. You have time to weigh your options and research your choices. Adoption and may other options are out there. take the time to set money aside if you decide to utilize one of these options. In the mean time, if it happens naturally, GREAT, but take time.:flowerforyou:
  • hkb85
    hkb85 Posts: 37
    Just keep up trying to be healthy

    for a better pregnancy it is best to try and lose some weight, it will give any baby you conceive a much better start to life, and there will be less risks for you as well

    your young, know what you want, just need to set up goals and have the tools to get there
  • hkb85
    hkb85 Posts: 37
    BEFORE anyone gives out advice about other options (like adoption, surrogacy)
    its handy to know if the person your giving that advice to is in the same country as you.
    its not the same in all countries, not always an option
  • kMcMahan2010
    kMcMahan2010 Posts: 41
    I'm 21, my husband (of almost 3 years) is 28 on Saturday. Right now we have no definite plans on baby making, but having a family is one of my major reasons for losing weight. I stopped birth control in Oct. of 2010 and haven't had a normal period since, except once or twice. I suspect it is due to my weight.
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
    Lose the weight, learn to eat right. Get healthy first and your hormones will balance themselves.
  • cristynfaye
    cristynfaye Posts: 88 Member
    I can understand your worries about this, but please don't worry. You are so young, and you have so much time to figure this out. I have a friend who is 36 and was told in her 20s that she'd never have kids- lo and behold, she recently lost some weight, and now she's due in July. You never know what will happen. Wait until you're in a situation where you are emotionally and financially stable enough to start a family. And for the love of god, don't marry someone who might leave you if you don't have kids. But trust me, I completely understand your anxiety; I've been trying to conceive for three years, and haven't been able to yet. But you are only 19. If you actively try to conceive for a few years, then I'd worry, but really you've got so much time.
  • katherinelouisedoddxx
    katherinelouisedoddxx Posts: 14
    Thank you so so so much for all your replies.
    Im not trying to have a baby just yet just wanna get healthy and fit now for my body for when i do in years to come,thank you meant alot all your replies xxx
  • abrandnewme18
    abrandnewme18 Posts: 305
    lose weight now.

    worry about having kids later.
  • Minerva624
    Minerva624 Posts: 577 Member
    Adoption is always an option.

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