My parents dont believe in me..

You don't need others to believe in you. Think about why you are making this lifestyle change and focus on those reasons. You should be doing this for yourself--not for anyone else. We all have naysayers in our lives and people who try to deter us from our goals. It's up to you to decide whether you are going to believe them or believe in yourself.

You don't need others to believe in you. Think about why you are making this lifestyle change and focus on those reasons. You should be doing this for yourself--not for anyone else. We all have naysayers in our lives and people who try to deter us from our goals. It's up to you to decide whether you are going to believe them or believe in yourself.

This! Thanks for posting. This applies to me in another area in my life - my relationship with my boyfriend and I needed to hear it! :flowerforyou:

My parents didn't believe in me either.
They probably won't believe in you until they see actual changes, so keep going, they'll realize how serious you were about your goal.

It's also been a huge motivation for me. Proving myself to them.
And when proving yourself goes along with your personal goal, it's perfect for determination.

By knowing you will prove them wrong.
If you really want this, everyone can be against it and you will still get results and push yourself.

I have a mother who is like this... I chose to rise up and say, "I'll show you" and then it helps me stay on track and do what I need to for me with the extra motivation to prove her wrong. Works for me! It's all in perspective. Turn your mindset into a positive one, determine to prove them wrong and look at their words as reverse psychology. YOU CAN DO IT! YOU WILL DO IT!

You can do this!! You have to believe you are worth the effort. Make attainable goals. I'd say promise yourself you will go at least 3 times a week. If you make unrealistic goals, like going everyday, you may give up.

By knowing you will prove them wrong.
If you really want this, everyone can be against it and you will still get results and push yourself.

I have a mother who is like this... I chose to rise up and say, "I'll show you" and then it helps me stay on track and do what I need to for me with the extra motivation to prove her wrong. Works for me! It's all in perspective. Turn your mindset into a positive one, determine to prove them wrong and look at their words as reverse psychology. YOU CAN DO IT! YOU WILL DO IT!

I knew lots of people like this when I first started, so I chose not to tell most people what I was doing.
8 months later everyone wants to know my secret and is so shocked, I kind of prefer it that way than having people setting you up for failure.
The people who did know what I was doing didn't get supportive until I was about 2 months in and had some fairly decent before & after pics to show them the inches I'd lost so far... the best way is to just prove everyone wrong.

Well done

I think my mom sometimes did this on purpose: told me I couldn't do something, because she knew it would make me mad and try harder. It hurt me at the time, and I wouldn't recommend parenting that way, but it sure did motivate me.

My daughter wants to lose too much weight too fast. I am encouraging her to increase her exercise and we worked on her MFP goals together to st them at healthier amounts. She is going out running this morning and I am so proud of her.

I am sorry your parents are not being supportive. This is something you need to do for you so you lead a happier, healthier, longer life. I am at the age where my parents and aunts and uncles are fighting various end of life ailments. For the few who worked out daily, kept in shape, even into their 80s, it has made a huge difference in ability to fight diseases and extend life and improve the quality of their life. They have been my motivation and inspiration.

Prove your parents wrong. More important - do it for you.

Go get 'em kid.

No one at my house seems to believe in me either, so I know how it is.

use their negativity as fuel. My parents are the same way, if they don't have something to argue about they are not happy. I'll go to my zumba classes and my dad will scuff and say something like, "Going to your dance class again, you can't lose wait that way". Or I'll say I've lost so and so pounds and I'll get, " Well you need to lose triple that amount, why's it taking you so long" I get so frustrated, especially since my mom loves to bake and always has cookies, brownies, cakes, candies everywhere. Very annoying!

Hang in there and prove them wrong! Keep telling yourself, your trying to get healthy, your doing this for you not them, who cares what they think I will do this, I can do this, reach for the stars baby!

Thank you , I need to stop caring about what others think! It only gets me down.

It's hard not to worry about what others think, especially when you're young, and especially when it's your parents (whether you're young or not!) You will get there though. For now, just filter out their comments. It's early days, hopefully when they see you're serious, they'll be more supportive.

Regardless, draw strength from the fact that every day, you're proving them wrong. You are stronger than they think, and you're stronger than you think. You are in control of your own destiny.

prove them wrong!

I got the same thing about 90lbs ago then once they saw that I was devoted they let up a bit. I had to basically just do my own thing and if they were in they were in, if not then I had to ignore then and prove it to myself that I could. KNOW that you are strong enough to do this even if they don't think you are right now and KNOW that you deserve to be healthy and happy. The only person that you owe any explanation or proof to is yourself. One of the easiest ways to stay motivated is to give yourself mini challenges like "if I did 5 push ups today, then I will do 8 by Wednesday" or something similar. You got this girl!

Id say prove them wrong but you already know they are wrong and don't need to prove them anything, so use their negative attitudes to empower yourself.

You are going to the gym for YOU. NOT for your parents.