Someone Please Give Me Some Advice, Help, Anything...

JadieeH
JadieeH Posts: 2
in Health and Weight Loss
Hi all....Im 20 going on 21 this year, im 175cm tall and I weigh 58.5kg on an empty stomach & when I havent had junk food or just eaten a large meal...in dec 2012 i weighed 64kg and i started exercising ALOT and by early feb i weighed 57.0kg...anyway i developed low blood pressure from not drinking enough fluids or eating enough so i stopped my crazy exercising and began to eat bread, and junk food...anyway 3 months later i am 58.8kg and have decided to eat healthy again but not exercise as much as I have a full time job where im standing/moving most the day(i work at a coffee shop) anyway i know my weight is good fory height but when i look in the mirror i see myself as huge, like massive "thunder thighs" and massive love handles but everyone tells me im stupid and that skinny as...but i honestly cannot see this...im embaressed to wear jeans, tights, shorts even some kinds of trackies because i think i look huge and that people will be grossed out by my appearance...can someone give me advice please? it depresses me and everytime i eat i feel guilty and i cant try any pair of pants on without crying because i see myself as stocky, fat, large :( please NO NASTY COMMENTS!!

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  • tanyalevan
    tanyalevan Posts: 182
    Honestly i think you need mental help not saying in a rude way but if your weight is fine for your height and everyone is telling you that you are skinny...maybe its you that is putting yourself down constantly that is what is making you think you are fat?

    Do what is good for you health wise not looks wise.
  • karensdream
    karensdream Posts: 135 Member
    I am taking a big risk here, and I am not a doctor or anything like that, but I believe you are seriously teetering on the edge of an eating disorder, and most often that begins with what is called "body dysmorphia". That's just a fancy term for not being happy with your body, and having a big disconnect between what you see and perceive yourself as, and what others see and is actually the truth. There is no quick and easy fix for it, and eating healthy is only one small piece of the picture. You need the guidance of a professional, IMHO, to help you make this connection a healthy one. I wish you the best with this dear.
  • j6o4
    j6o4 Posts: 871 Member
    think you should gain some muscle becuase muslce will give you shape and make you lean
  • MandyJokl
    MandyJokl Posts: 26 Member
    Obviously I have no idea what you look like but you are obviously very unhappy with your shape. I don't know what your financial position is either but I would recommend joining a reputable gym and paying for a personal trainer for a few weeks. My friend goes to a trainer. She is at her ideal weight but she was unhappy with her shape. Her trainer has gone through her food with her and her exercise routine with her to tone muscle. She has actually put a little bit of weight on but she has dropped a dress size. Her arms stomach and butt have all toned up. She looked great before but she was unhappy. Now she feels great and loves shopping for clothes.
  • yarwell
    yarwell Posts: 10,477 Member
    At a BMI of 19.1 weight loss doesn't sound like a priority. Have you considered measuring your thighs to get an objective view of their size. Women come in different shapes and these appeal to different people.

    I don't see how you can be as "large" as you make out while weighing what you do. You are quite tall so have more bone and muscles than a shorter woman.
  • JadieeH
    JadieeH Posts: 2
    Yarwell- my thights measure 21&1/2 inches right at the top, my hips are 33&1/2 inches and my waist is 25...Im not trying to lose weight as i do know that i am slim by adding my weight and height I just dont see it
  • SteelySunshine
    SteelySunshine Posts: 1,092 Member
    I think that there is nothing wrong with getting more toned. But, along with that there is a lot of mental work that needs to be done because I don't see how you can go about doing that without attempting to over do it, so you should be monitored while you are shaping up in a healthy way. And you would also have to eat more to do this, because extra work means extra calories so over coming that urge to keep your calories at the same level will need to be worked on. I second whoever said a personal trainer is a good idea. But, you might need more than that. And you will need more help than you can get here. Because you are at risk for developing serious issues and if you tackle them now you will avert a huge crisis.
  • mryak750
    mryak750 Posts: 198 Member
    eat at a very slight deficite -200 from TDEE and compound exercise will get you the look you want....no cardio..you should see some nice progress in about 8 weeks

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