How do I stop letting people's comments get to me?

It's hard to say without context, but I find that ignoring asshats is usually the best approach.

It's hard to say without context, but I find that ignoring asshats is usually the best approach.

^this^
dont worry bout asshats, they will sit on anything lol
your awesome!
f them!
if you werent, they would move on!!
beware of trolls, they lurk like Valentina! lol ,<3 bgc

Calmly but firmly say, "Are you trying to be hurtful, because what you said was rude and uncalled for."

They'll apologize or get all defensive and likely avoid you for a while. Win win!

The best tip I can give you is to go out and work hard on YOU and be successful in spite of their cruel comments. There will always be people who must put down others to make themselves feel good...avoid those idiots...they are small minded.

Lift others up, and be positive. Get your eyes off yourself, except to give yourself credit when it is due, because you earned it and are SO worth it. But ignore rude behavior because it can suck the energy out of you if you let it, and we all let it from time to time.

I also find going doing a video shooting range game really works to blow off steam when I can't get to the gym and use the punching bag LOL

try to value their opinions less. If you don't value someone's opinion, their insults are meaningless and sometimes even quite comical (i.e. laughing at them and the fact that they feel the need to try to insult you in the first place, i.e. what it says about them as a person).

If you care what someone thinks, then their negative comments will hurt.

With strangers as shocking it is that someone would actually put in the effort to say something nasty to someone they don't even know, you do have to turn it back on them and wonder what could be making them so miserable internally that they have to put down random strangers, and view the comment entirely as something that's wrong with them, and not a reflection of you at all.

With people you know and have to deal with regularly, i.e. the kind that are always putting others down, teaching yourself to stop caring about what they say not only helps you to stop you being hurt by their comments, it actually changes the dynamic of the relationship because you're preventing them from having any power over you. People like this get really massively hacked off when someone who used to be hurt by their snarky comments suddenly stops caring about their opinion. It can be quite comical to watch them. Instead of viewing them and their comments with being affronted or quietly upset, you start to view them and their comments with contempt and idle curiosity. They sense that, and they hate it, and they know they lost their power over you.

Some comments are totally innocent from people who lack tact, those people maybe you deal with a little differently, i.e. repeat back what they said, like "did you mean to imply that......." if they're trying to be snarky, they'll reply something like "you heard me" - at which point you stop caring for their opinion. If they're tactless they'll be quite shocked at how you took their comment and apologise and try to clarify.... just bear in mind with people like that that they mean well and stuff comes out wrong, so make an effort to take their comments in the nicest possible interpretation in the future.

Delete them Hun

We all have our flaws...

Just know that a flaw of many people is that they act out based on their own insecurities.

I love this!

Rely on your support network they are the ones that get you through

"Nobody can hurt me today without my permission"-Eleanor Roosevelt. Don't give them that power over your life. You're young, and the sooner you can master this, the better.

I've been overweight my whole life. I've had my mom on my case 4 over 25 years, watching everything I did, everything I ate, well u get the picture.
I day I got the courage 2 say "I don't care 4 what ur saying, it hurts my feelings" She was taken back & said "Oh well I'm just worried about u, & am looking out 4 ur best interest". So the next time she said something I kind of knew where she was comming from, a mom is always a mom looking out 4 her children. She would always say @ the end of what she was saying " well u know what I mean". I did, she loved me.
Now my mom is gone-5 months. I still hear her in my head when I eat...lol Moms will be moms.

As 4 ur coworkers, Tell them 2 kiss ur grits. God don't make ugly people!
Keep a chin up, alright.
Joyful

"Nobody can hurt me today without my permission"-Eleanor Roosevelt. Don't give them that power over your life. You're young, and the sooner you can master this, the better.

yes the jerks will be around for ever ! Even if you move their will be outhers , either you thank them for pointing out the obvious or tell them "I can fix fat but you can't ugly ....."

I can totally relate to what you are saying. Sometimes you have to turn the tables on them. Where I work, we have to go from one site to another and have about 30 minutes to do so. When I didn't have a car, I would walk regardless of the weather. The other members of the team rode because they had their cars. My boss asked one of them why he didn't give me a ride. The response: "I didn't want her breaking my seat." We had to go into the city for a conference. This same guy called and asked if I wanted a ride. I declined. I took the bus. People at the conference asked how I got there. I told them I took the bus. He retorted. I asked you if you wanted a rode. I looked at him and said. I didn't want you to worry about me breaking your seat.

I understand the Mom thing too and have endured a lot of people's unsavory comments. I no longer let them annoy me. I know that I can change my weight and become a healthier slimmer person. What they are dealing with, they are probably stuck with. I actually pity them.

I know when I get to my goal I will have my "How do you like me now!" moment.

Sometimes people don't realize what joke actually mean. Especially if they have never been in that situation or helped anyone through it. I dismiss it as ignorance and nothing more. I don't like to think bad of them because that makes me cynical and unpleasant to be around. Why should I be an asswipe when I don't like them myself. I am also 6'5" and 247 was 281. So when someone says something I can joke back and say you like your face the way it is right now?

I do like the idea of calling people on it. It's especially inappropriate for people at work to comment about your appearance. I have actually told people this, verbatim: "Please do not comment on my appearance again." That usually freaks them out and they keep their compliments and criticisms to themselves from then on

Mothers can be tough. Some people just aren't meant for parenthood, and with emotional sadists, you have to distance yourself from any interactions. But a lot of mothers want their children to be happy, and they will say insensitive things because they are trying to help and don't know how. You have to figure out which one you're dealing with, and if it's the latter, I would ignore or deflect it.