How do I stop letting people's comments get to me?

Keep reminding yourself of the progress you have made. Negative comments are usually inspired by that person's insecurities with themselves. Instead of taking them to heart, use them to fuel more progress. Attitude is everything. If someone says something that hurts you, take a deep breath and do some form of exercise (I favor jumping jacks or push-ups because I don't care for either and they make me focus on what I'm doing rather than the comments). It helps re-direct your thoughts and you can focus on YOU better (not to mention you burn a few calories). And YOU are what matters, not some insecure brat trying to bring you down to make themselves feel better!!!

I love when people tell me that I "can't" and **try** to bring me down. As much as it irks me and stings, it is total fuel for what I do on a daily basis.
I aim to prove people wrong :bigsmile:
You'll always have negative people around you bashing you for whatever reason.
It is YOU that has to be happy with yourself and not let the asshats get to you :drinker:

Mean comments? While you're doing a great thing for yourself? That's just so low.

Keep in mind why you're doing what you're doing and what you will look and feel like a year from now. Haters gonna hate.

I once had someone tell me that I was so ugly that I should just die. Lowest blow I've ever experienced. it really cut me down. It's been over a year and I still think about it once in a while. cut those people out of your life if you can, they aren't worth it.

Once you understand that THERE IS NONE HERE BUT YOU AND YOUR THOUGHTS....this is the secret

Surround yourself with better people and remember that the only reason people make negative comments is because their self esteem is so low they want to feel like theyre above someone. Don't let them get to you, I know its easier said than done & we all get our feelings hurt but try not to let jerks upset you. We can lose weight but they will always suck at life!

I guess it's too awkward to elaborate, especially since the issue is too redundant. It's the same old story with the overweight individual who gets picked on for having an overweight issue.

It also sucks that the people who do that are coworkers I have to see every day and my mother. I don't know how they can be so ignorant and insensitive (especially my mother since she knows how much I struggled with this in the past year and have progressed.)

Thanks

It's HARD. I've found that the best way is usually to respond as little as possible. If the comment is very rude, I usually just roll my eyes and walk away. If it's a backhanded compliment, I just smile sweetly and say "Thanks!" as if I thought they genuinely meant it as a compliment, then walk away. If they try to tell me I should be doing it differently, I say "Hmm, Interesting. I'll give that proper consideration." And then walk away.

People who make comments like these are looking for a response. If they get it, they'll continue. They want to get to you. Even if it does bother you, don't let them know it. After a while you'll find that it really doesn't bother you, at least not as much.

^exactly what I was going to say - especially smiling and saying thank you like they just said something nice or helpful

Some people feel better by making others feel worse than them, some people are just mean and like to be mean. Either way, if they don't get a negative reaction from you or you come back at them in a way that says you're not going to ruin my day, they'll find someone else to pick on and eventually the jerky co-worker won't target you to begin with. Moms are tougher, if confronting her hasn't worked, try ending the interaction when she says something mean. A simple "It's time for me to go" followed by hanging up the phone or walking away is all that's needed. Eventually she will realize you leave, end the phone call, walk away, etc, every time she makes a negative comment and will stop or won't spend as much time with you. You tell people how to treat you, don't put up with it.