secretly dieting

You can totally do this!

The biggest thing I had to face was that really ugly voice in my own head - that is what made other people's comments so painful - because I believed them too.

Change your inner voice - it is a massive process but 100% worth it.

I am on a secret diet. I eat ice cream daily in front of my family who without fail ask me everytime "How can you expect to lose weight eating that!?!?". The funny thing is... I am losing weight and inches eating ice cream and everything yummy. So technically I am not on a diet. I just eat with moderation.

I am so glad you are doing well here. I kept mine a secret for the most part because I didn't want the world to know that I failed again. When you are with 'THOSE" people just eat a little of what they are pushing and if they ask are you on a diet you say"No" just doing portion control. Most people don't give grief with that.

Congrats on your progress so far- that is really good. My family isn't quite that athletic- well some of them are. I've been trying to just make better choices this year and the last 10 weeks I've been pretty successful with that- but I'm not putting it out there like a thing you know? Like I don't want my friends and family making too big a deal about it so it can be like "remember wheny ou said you were trying to lose weight?" Or "I knew you couldn't really quit smoking." So while I'm not keeping it secret, I'm not broadcasting it either.

I did the same thing when I began here. I did not tell anyone.
By the end of April last year, people began noticing and commenting. The comments helped me continue and reinforced the habits I had begun to change. Eventually everyone will notice your efforts and that may help you as well.
Everyone who knows me now knows that I have changed my life, but I still do not bring up the facts of what I am doing. If they ask, I will tell them.
The best of luck to you! You can do this too!

I started the same way, the only person who I told was my best friend who lives in another country. After about 3 months I started telling people because people noticed the change in my body and it seemed ridiculous to not be proud of myself for sticking it out. Now, I talk about it with most people because I am seen as a "success story" to people and everyone comments on it.
My problem was before when I'd tried to discuss wanting to diet/exercise with people, they immediately went on the defensive on my behalf telling me I didn't need to - which was just completely not true!
Stick at it, you might find you succeed better this way!

I am dieting more-or-less secretly too. My husband knows, but I don't much talk it up among my real-world friends and relatives. I too find that thin peoples' comments and advice lower my motivation. I feel exposed, somehow, and painfully vulnerable, and those feelings make me feel like eating! Go figure. I prefer to have friends on this journey who are going through what I am going through. As for mess-ups and splurges, I find that I do better if I create an eating and exercise plan for myself that is sustainable. I go for small changes, one at a time, and I include treats. I don't say "no" to any food group, including carbs. I say "fewer," "smaller portions," and "harm reduction." I always include what my husband bakes, but I no longer eat bread in restaurants and have cut way back on eating between meals. I too find that it is instructive and sobering to realize how many calories I was taking in before! Just being aware makes me less likely to eat as much, but I have so many changes to make. I know that it is going to take time to settle into new healthy habits without feeling resentfull or throwing up my hands.

I am no longer hiding my dieting. I have lost 39lbs 1/2 way to my goal and am so glad I decided to keep in quiet at first. I did have a few people try to sabotage but I was far enough in that I was fine. I am looking forward to getting the 2nd half of the weight off!!

Congratulations! Did you mom say anything!? Your amazing