I love food...how do I stop?

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Okay that's not exactly right. I LOVE LOVE LOVE food. Really. I don't like NOT eating. I don't have a problem exercising to compensate, but I just don't think that I can exercise enough to compensate for the amount of food that I love to eat. Visually, I'm not a small person, but don't THINK I look overweight (others might disagree). But under my clothes, there are definately jiggles and bumps that really shouldn't be there. Mainly from 10 years of marriage (to an absolutely AMAZING cook...) and 2 kids and not focusing on ME for a while...

How do I change my mindset to "I love food but need to eat it moderately" to match up with my mindset of exercising??
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  • rowanwood
    rowanwood Posts: 510 Member
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    I don't know...I still love food intensely, I've just switched to lower calories foods instead. Sure, chips are tasty, but so are cucumber slices. I go with the latter now and I can eat all the time.
  • Ashleyxjamie
    Ashleyxjamie Posts: 223 Member
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    Hi!

    I will admit that I LOVE food as well. It's horrible to eat a huge meal then an hour later be looking in the fridge for something else to snack on..I was like this all the time! Maybe you can try to eat very frequently (every two hours) but have small meals? eat a lot of protein and filler foods. Oatmeal is great. Carrots, boiled eggs, whole grains. Lots of fruit! And when you feel an urge coming on, drink a bottle of water! I usually drink water before my meals to help fill me up!
  • rachellosesitall85
    rachellosesitall85 Posts: 497 Member
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    If you have a passion for something, I don't think you should stop, just incorporate more healthy foods in your lifestyle and eat less of what you love(portion control). They do say too much of a good thing can be bad (obviously as I have 116lbs to lose myself) so don't eat to just eat because you love it, eat when you're hungry. There's nothing wrong with doing small meals and snacking throughout the day, it's actually a preferred method. I don't believe in giving something up entirely if you really enjoy it, just give yourself less of it to keep yourself happy.
  • JessHealthKick
    JessHealthKick Posts: 800 Member
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    I am much like you (just 21 years old). I love to eat, cook and socialise with food. This is to the point that being violently ill from migraines has made me excited (after the event) because it meant I was really hungry and ready to eat more!

    Anyway to the point, you need to just give it time. Make having the high calorie meals a special occasion, learn how to reduce the calories in your snacks, aim for smaller servings. Talk to your partner about how the food can be tweaked to reduce calories such as less oil. You can find healthy, low calorie foods that are very delicious and satisfying, if you don't already. My thing at the moment is plain/low fat yoghurt (watch there is no added sugar!) with half an apple and lots of cinnamon. About 80 calories and super delicious!

    What is your vice? Mine is Japanese sticky rice. I could eat 1000 bowls of that stuff plain, I just love it! Instead, I have made it a special thing I have on the weekends in moderation. But things like chocolate? Well, no one can go without chocolate! Just make sure it's 1 piece and you STOP after that, which is much easier said than done.

    Give it time, you'll get there.
  • lcvaughn520
    lcvaughn520 Posts: 219 Member
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    I am the SAME way!! For me, the trick has been changing how I think about food. I try not to see healthier options as inferior. Instead of thinking "ugh I'm going to order a salad even though I really want that alfredo!" I think, "look at these delicious salad options with so many fresh and delicious ingredients!" You probably have to fake it until you make it, but I do think that trying to change my mentality about this has helped a great deal. I still eat some rather indulgent food, but just not as frequently.
  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
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    I am the SAME way!! For me, the trick has been changing how I think about food. I try not to see healthier options as inferior. Instead of thinking "ugh I'm going to order a salad even though I really want that alfredo!" I think, "look at these delicious salad options with so many fresh and delicious ingredients!" You probably have to fake it until you make it, but I do think that trying to change my mentality about this has helped a great deal. I still eat some rather indulgent food, but just not as frequently.

    I think this is exactly the type of mindset I need!!! Unfortunately we eat out quite often (because of busy kid schedules) so if I could get myself to order salads, etc I think I'd do a whole lot better!!
  • lavieboheme1229
    lavieboheme1229 Posts: 448 Member
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    This is how I did it. That doesn't mean it will work for everyone, but this is how I did it.

    Step 1- shrink stomach
    This step sucks. no way around it. There is no getting around eating less than you used to. You need to shrink your stomach so you know when you are full.This should take approximately a week- a week and a half. Try using smaller plates, and know what a portion size is. Only take that. A lot of overeating is psychological.

    Step 2- find substitutes
    I started with low fat mayo instead of "high test", greek yogurt instead of sour cream. Carrots and cherry tomatoes instead of chips. String cheese instead of chips. If I was having mayo on a sandwich, I wouldn't have cheese, or vice versa. Wraps instead of bread.

    Around now you will realize that a cookie after lunch isn't worth it every day, because that means you can't have something else, and you are sick of being hungry. You will also learn which foods are keeping you fuller longer, and you will love them.

    Step 3- Start learning your triggers.
    Mine was simply being bored. If I'm bored I eat. So every time I thought I was "hungry" I would have a bottle of water and take a walk around the office. If I was still hungry, I would have a healthy alternative. If I didn't want baby carrots or string cheese, it was proof I wanted to eat, not that I needed to eat. I also do this with dinner. If I eat my serving, I wait 20 minutes. If I'm still hungry, I'll have more.

    Step 4- Incorporate some of those foods you cut out
    This is when you've learned enough about food and substitutes that you can have a cookie every once and a while, and make it fit, make it work. You can't refuse those foods forever, but I personally believe kick starting the system is a good idea.

    Message me if you need any more help. Good luck! :flowerforyou:
  • xxDearyen
    xxDearyen Posts: 20
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    I used to feel the same way. I had a crazy infatuation with food that had me running a food blog for a good two years.

    I always enjoyed food, but I think I developed a bit too much of an obsession when I started to restrict myself. It was always on my mind because I was always thinking about what I wanted next. And eating out was one of the few ways I would be able to socialize when I was being so strict with my "weight-loss journey".

    I think the key is to not necessarily stop, but to re-prioritize what you want. You're interested in looking better? Start studying on how to do that; types of exercises, types of foods, macro-nutrients, fitness recipes, lifting more, running faster, etcetc. I still love to cook, look at recipes, eat out and drink, but now the interest is more balanced. I'm not constantly thinking about what I can and cannot eat, especially now that I have developed a genuine interest in fitness (not just weight loss). My studying of fitness has reshaped my interest in food to complement my exercise, not threaten it.

    Figure out what you want and let yourself have it! Let yourself look better. "How do I stop" is a good start for failure, in my opinion.
  • lcvaughn520
    lcvaughn520 Posts: 219 Member
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    I am the SAME way!! For me, the trick has been changing how I think about food. I try not to see healthier options as inferior. Instead of thinking "ugh I'm going to order a salad even though I really want that alfredo!" I think, "look at these delicious salad options with so many fresh and delicious ingredients!" You probably have to fake it until you make it, but I do think that trying to change my mentality about this has helped a great deal. I still eat some rather indulgent food, but just not as frequently.

    I think this is exactly the type of mindset I need!!! Unfortunately we eat out quite often (because of busy kid schedules) so if I could get myself to order salads, etc I think I'd do a whole lot better!!

    I eat out a lot too...it's pretty easy to eat healthy when I cook because I am not faced with endless fatty and calorific alternatives that sound AMAZING, but eating out is definitely a challenge!

    I also think that learning how to not eat the whole thing can help. I have this like compulsion to finish everything on my plate, but I've learned that I normally feel kind of gross after eating that much. Reminding myself of that feeling is also another way I help myself not eat so much.
  • Mama_Jag
    Mama_Jag Posts: 474 Member
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    Hi, Friend! :smile:

    I LOVE the fake-it-till-you-make-it advice. I needed that when I quit smoking. I had to look at myself as a non smoker right away. Non smokers don't buy or need cigarettes, right? That subtle switch was my saving grace.

    Right now I have started to think about what I want to be, and that is a fit and healthy person. I need to do what fit and healthy people do, and eat what fit and healthy people eat. Decide who YOU are, and act accordingly. :wink:
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
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    You have to want to do it, first of all. Nobody can do it except you. If you are ready to make the commitment, then eat a MODERATE amount of what you like, then shut the mouth, put the fork down. YOU are in control.
    And if you can't do that, then you aren't ready to lose weight yet.
  • RllyGudTweetr
    RllyGudTweetr Posts: 2,019 Member
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    Enjoy your food. No, I mean, really enjoy and savor each bite of it. I haven't researched its veracity, but I've been told "only the first three bites of a particular food taste good before your taste buds get desensitized to it" enough that - for me at least - it holds a grain of truth. This means that smaller portions of several different foods may well bring greater satisfaction and general satiety if you're eating while paying attention to the food, rather than the presentation, the company, the TV/computer/etc.

    Good luck.
  • shellir05
    shellir05 Posts: 16 Member
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    I love food as well, I've upped my intake of water to make it where I get full on less food. I've noticed that my portions are getting smaller, and I can't eat as much as I used to. The downside is the number of times I have to jet to the restroom during the day, but I feel great & more energized when I drink tons of water.
    I also replace certain foods with a lower-fat substitute, such as I'll have a whole cup full of steamed veggies with dinner. I'll get full eating more vegetables and eat less of the unhealthy junk.
    Feel free to add me for more motivation! :)
  • TLow97
    TLow97 Posts: 55
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    Okay that's not exactly right. I LOVE LOVE LOVE food. Really. I don't like NOT eating. I don't have a problem exercising to compensate, but I just don't think that I can exercise enough to compensate for the amount of food that I love to eat. Visually, I'm not a small person, but don't THINK I look overweight (others might disagree). But under my clothes, there are definately jiggles and bumps that really shouldn't be there. Mainly from 10 years of marriage (to an absolutely AMAZING cook...) and 2 kids and not focusing on ME for a while...

    How do I change my mindset to "I love food but need to eat it moderately" to match up with my mindset of exercising??

    I also LOVE LOVE LOVE food. :-) I also LOVE my own cooking.

    This is why the app is here--so that you see exactly what you're putting in yourself.

    I've said this a whole bunch of times, and I'll keep saying it--I use my calories like currency, and literally have to budget them out. To some extent, I work out so that I can eat more too. But I have days where I don't work out and have to choose wisely.

    Might mean if you go to Jimmy John's, you get the unwich sometimes. Or if you gotta take your kids for fast food, skip the fries. I don't know, just throwing out theoretical situations.

    With whatever you do, be consistent!
  • 1princesswarrior
    1princesswarrior Posts: 1,242 Member
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    I started by making small healthy choices each day and getting the junk out of my house. For example, I'd substitute yogurt for a cookie once a day, then eventually it became twice and grew into more and more. If it's not there I can't eat it. I also eat 6-7 times a day, I always know the next time I'm going to eat so I don't think about being hungry, if I do get hungry, I eat my next small meal or snack early. Usually by dinner time I'm not that hungry. You can never go wrong with fruits and vegetables either. Veggies are great fillers and very low in calories so you can indulge, also eating them raw can satisfy your need to crunch if you have one like I do. I also eat out a lot because of a busy lifestyle but I eat at Chipotle, Applebee's, or other places that have healthier choices and awesome salads. When I do eat out I only eat 1/2 and save the other half for later in the week. I'm not only full but it also saves money.

    Finally, like others have mentioned, sit down and enjoy eating. Make eating your 'me' time. That way you're satifying two needs at once.

    Good luck and keep us posted!
  • Lizzy622
    Lizzy622 Posts: 3,705 Member
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    You shouldn't stop loving food. Watch your portions. I have become a food snob. I taste something and if I don't like it I don't finish it. It was hard coming from a home where finishing your plate was expected. As you go on this journey, you will figure out your correct portion sizes and ask yourself are the calories for that really worth it or maybe I would rather have the other thing I really really love. You also learn to have a small piece of the steak you love and fill the rest of your plate with salad and steamed veggies.
  • joanthemom8
    joanthemom8 Posts: 375 Member
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    I know, it's hard - especially because we can't NOT eat... it's not like giving up drinking or smoking - we still gotta eat and face all of the temptations....
    I try to tell myself that food is just fuel for me - I do want it to taste good, but I want it to be healthy, too. Just like I wouldn't put crappy gasoline in my car. (You know what I mean, I hope :)
    Also, don't deprive yourself too much - my biggest problem was portion control (or, more precisely, not paying attention to the amount in a serving) I always underestimated.

    Good luck - I myself have had to clamp down (I had become kind of complacent - see my blog) and I've been seeing results.
  • Djdallen
    Djdallen Posts: 4
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    You are preaching to the choir here sister! I am a self confessed recovering food addict that loved food so much so that I ate myself to 390 pounds before I finally said, Enough! I also happen to own a catering company, so I really had to re-evaluate my food situation, and that meant learning nutrition and exactly what I was consuming, and what the proper portion size was. Sure, some chips say 130 calories per serving, but have you ever measured that out?? Its not even a handful, so when you actually add up the true amount you are consuming, its shocking. So I had to start measuring out my food, and I use the "Get the most bang for my caloric buck" situation.. Like, 90 calories for a slim jim, or 75 calories for 3 servings of egg whites? Hmm.. a LOT of food versus a mouthful.. I also measured out proper portions of healthy snacks, like almonds, low fat cheese, plain nonfat greek yogurt that I put fresh fruit and sliced almonds into for a "parfait" and began planning my meals on a weekly basis so I knew how many calories I would roughly consume in a day. Now that doesnt mean I still dont love food - I just set a goal - stick to my food plan for 10 days, and then treat myself to an ice cream sundae, or a regular hot dog, or whatever my craving at that point may be, and limit it to ONE treat on that one day. Not every method works for everybody but thats what has worked for me and I'm happily maintaining around 160 now. Let me just say, food addiction is the hardest addiction to overcome, because it is the ONLY addiction you have to still consume to live, so just take it daily :)
  • Suffer4beauty
    Suffer4beauty Posts: 44 Member
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    I have a food addiction too. I try the following:
    - Drink a glass of water when craving foods
    - Chew mint or cinnamon gum
    - Brush your teeth - the taste of toothpaste often kills some food cravings
    - Cucumbers with a great seasoning (like Mrs. Dash or a a garlic, pepper spice blend)
    - Exercise first - even if I am in my calorie range, I will tell myself that if I really want that "not-as-healthy" item (not necessarily junk food), I must walk a mile first. Sometimes this kills the urge to eat more because I don't want to walk OR, I do the walk, but something about exercise sometimes makes me NOT crave or want food right away - other times I still want to eat and since I "earned" it, I do.
    - Because I love to eat and portion control is difficult, at dinner I keep all "extra" food that hasn't been served over by the oven - NOT on the table where it looks so easy to get more. My first plate I carefully weigh/measure before sitting down and then I don't get up for more.
    - Lastly, as long as I am doing great the rest of the days, I have one "cheat" day a week where I eat my entire calories allotment for the day (the maintenance level) AND all the exercise ones and sometimes up to 1,000 more calories than that.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
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    If you are not overweight, and just unhappy with the jiggle and bumps, you might not need to eat less, or at least not a whole lot less.
    I recommend working on lowering your body fat instead, start strength training if you are not doing that already. Eat your TDEE or slightly under.