What's my motivation?

mlbazemore
mlbazemore Posts: 252 Member
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So I haven't been doing very well for almost a week now, it has partly to do with a cash flow problem (foods good for you are not too good on the wallet) ya'll know what I mean...and partly to do with a stand still between me and my scale (it's easy to be motivated when the results are consistant).

Anyway, this morning my husband made this half assed comment about me not being on "my diet *kitten*", all stemming from me asking him why he thawed out my bag of chicken breast for dinner. This made me angry, a little. He says things sometimes that I guess are supposed to motivate me but all it does is make me angry. Which in turn makes me get on my grind, and "show him something" so I guess in a way it does motivate. But I wish he would let me worry about my weight, he's says he loves me at any size then "why are you so concerned about my diet."

I guess it's one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't moments for men. I guess I really just needed to get that off my chest. Am I being silly?

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  • servalan
    servalan Posts: 22 Member
    I think he could have handled it better, but I'm sure you're right when you say men can't win sometimes. Losing weight is such a highly emotional topic for many women (including me), and we go from "I can do this" to "this is impossible and I feel like a failure" very easily sometimes.

    I understand stress (financial, etc.) doesn't help the situation either. Feel free to friend request me if you're looking for more MFP friends. :)

    Budget friendly healthy eating is possible, but it is much more time consuming. How do you feel about beans? Dried beans are very cheap and go a long way. How about brown rice? Depending on your "diet plan" that could be a good thing. It's also very cheap. I just do the MFP default plan, and I've never gone over on my carbs with brown rice. (I don't often eat bread though.) If you have a bread maker, you can use that to make very nice, inexpensive bread that can be healthy depending on what you put into it. (We're talking like 15 cents a loaf, depending on what you put into it.) Fruit and veg - I buy what's on sale. Green beans are quite cheap now in my area, as well as strawberries and peaches. Chicken is usually cheap, either fresh or frozen. I don't know if you have an Aldi's grocery store near you, but they have great deals on produce and some basics. It's not the largest selection, but it seems to be good quality for a good price. (You must bring your own bags, you have to "pay" a quarter for a cart if you want it, but you get it back when it's returned. Also, you must pay cash. This is how they keep the prices down.)

    I don't know if any of that helps, but I wish you the best, and I know you can do it!
  • katkins3
    katkins3 Posts: 1,359 Member
    Yes, I agree. Comments from others can rub me raw.
    So, I don't ever tell anyone I'm dieting or restricting my food.
    If asked why I'm eating something different, I just say I'm in the mood for something different today or just now. I'm not "dieting", I'm widening my food choices or testing out some new recipes. I tell others that my motivation is to get out of a food rut, then its harder for them to comment on my progress.

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