Mommy problems!

Fabulous_Fit
Fabulous_Fit Posts: 25
in Health and Weight Loss
Hi! So... I am not a mom, but I am a full time nanny (which sure makes me feel like a mom). So, in short these are the kids...
-- twin boys (2 years old)
-- one five year old boy
-- one seven year old girl
-- triplets (one with special needs) at 9 years old.(2 girls and boy).

I nanny pretty much every day of the week and times differ! Anyway, today was a rough day for me. The twin boys were screaming and crying and the other kids were starting to get uptight. I found myself reaching for food... I do not normally do this as I try to play with all the kids and clean up constantly, but somehow today it got the best of me... 3 bowls of cereal, candy, and oreos later I was feeling a little ill. I guess my question is...

How do you handle it when a baby or children are crying? I tried to soothe the 2 year olds but it was tough and naps were not going as I had planned. How do you cope in a healthy way? I guess when I get overwhelmed I turn to food... what is a way to distract myself from this?
Please help :)

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  • BflSaberfan
    BflSaberfan Posts: 1,272
    It takes a lot of patience, but mostly I learned to tune it out for the most part. At 2, distracting them is probably the best option. I would take them all for a walk if things start getting stressful, sometimes even just changing the scenery can make everyone feel better.

    ETA when my girls were little and things got stressful we use to do some of these

    Freeze dance
    Go for a walk
    do bath time - just to pass the time and calm them down
    get out a "new" toy - usually just one they haven't seen or played with in a while
    Bake something together and let them help wash the dishes afterwards

    thats all I can think of for now - some days it was just a matter of telling myself "this too shall pass" and count the hours until bedtime.
  • SakuraRose13
    SakuraRose13 Posts: 621 Member
    Well I have 2 daughters 15 months and turning 3 in aug crying is a daily occurrence ,first I make sure why the child is crying if they are not hurt, cold, hungry, wet or tired than crying for a few seconds wont kill them sometimes children just need to cry toddlers seem to be more prone to it along with tantrums, when my day has been rough and one is crying I fix them first and if Im lucky I get to eat.

    I turn on music and dance with them or turn on their favorite shows children are easily distracted, I understand the food its comforting ,but I found that it only comforts you for as long as it takes to eat it and afterwards you feel worse.

    Sounds like you need a break go to the bathroom for like 10 minutes just make sure the kids are safe and something to play with they will survive for 10 mins and make sure you can hear them still, breathe and break it makes a world of diiference..
  • Fabulous_Fit
    Fabulous_Fit Posts: 25
    I love these ideas! Any others? Thanks for your responses!
  • torymichaels
    torymichaels Posts: 79
    I have twin 2 y/o girls that I go home to every night plus a 7 y/o. Strangely, kids don't make me want to snack much. I think, though, that's partially because if they see me with food when they don't have food...yeah. Somehow I become a child magnet and can't detach them until the food is gone (usually at least partially into them).

    Now ALCOHOL, on the other hand......
  • pittbullgirl
    pittbullgirl Posts: 341 Member
    We go for walks. Sometimes we pick a place to walk to, keep occupied counting cars or people passing by, only counting people wearing red, etc etc.
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    How do you handle it when a baby or children are crying? I tried to soothe the 2 year olds but it was tough and naps were not going as I had planned. How do you cope in a healthy way? I guess when I get overwhelmed I turn to food... what is a way to distract myself from this?
    Please help :)

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  • karl39x
    karl39x Posts: 586 Member
    I heard shaking them helps.
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    MUSIC!!!!!! classical is always good but sounds of children singing get my 2 year old girl totally involved with the lyrics. make a play list for the toddlers. here are a few favs. Mozart lullabies, head shoulders knees and toes, Baa Baa Bamba, pop goes the weasel, The green grass grows all around, C is for Cookie, Apples and Bananas, twinkle little star and of course the ABC song. Good Luck!
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    I heard shaking them helps.
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    I heard shaking them helps.
    this is so wrong!!!!!
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    xanax
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Oh wow. I can't even handle my 5yo twins most days. You're a hero, lol. Sorry, no advice here!
  • AnninStPaul
    AnninStPaul Posts: 1,372 Member
    Do the kids have a consistent schedule? Does it include "quiet time" for everyone -- say an hour or two after lunch in their rooms quietly reading, doing a puzzle, etc? YOU NEED THAT BREAK. Every caregiver does.

    Do their meals each include protein (my kids behavior tanks if they don't have protein in each meal)?

    My kids are older and fewer, but we learned to use the consistent schedules of daycare to make life easier.
  • ddky
    ddky Posts: 381 Member
    spongebob square pants videos. Works like a charm, whether they are 2 or 12, they love it.
  • thenextstep
    thenextstep Posts: 54
    Don't reach for the snacks, grab Water! Drink a nice cold glass. And like others said quiet time. It's super important for everyone's sanity. I used it work at a daycare where I watched ten 3 year olds at a time. QUIET TIME :) haha

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