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Lots to Lose and looking for support and accountability.

harelle
harelle Posts: 3
edited January 26 in Introduce Yourself
I started but didn't make it a week. I keep starting every diet but I can't stay focused. I want to start a new but I need someone to lean on. Everytime I start walking I try to encourage my neighbors to go with me, and I lose interest when I have to do this alone.

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  • dlangley255
    dlangley255 Posts: 2
    I totally understand. I need to lose 50 lbs by September and I am just not making it happen. I have always been thin, even to the point of my hip bones sticking out. At the time I thought I still had weight to lose. when I hit 50 years I went back to college for my graduate degree. Between the stress of college producing cortisol (the stress hormone) , the lower metabolism, and eating food I should not eat, I ended up 8 years later 60 lbs heavier.

    I am allergic to wheat and I find I am eating more instead of avoiding it.
    I have a damaged pancreas due to a congenital anomaly and can not digest fats yet I am eating fats.

    My 40 th High school reunion is September and no one will recognize me!

    Starting tomorrow I am going to start eating better and use portion control. I want to stop drinking diet coke but I don't think I am ready for that.

    I hope you can join me. If anyone else wants to start "again" just comment.

    We are given this body while we are hear on Earth. We need to be good tenants!

    I am not going by weight as this site wants, rather I am going to judge my success by how healthy I feel and how I fit into my clothes.

    I am sorry you are also having trouble but rest assured you are not alone. My daughter and her husband had the gastric bypass surgery but that does not stop psychological poor and over eating. They still eat many "empty" calories- and risk gaining their weight back.

    I too need to be responsible for my eating and have accountability. No one at home wants to stop eating carbs and I keep blaming them when I eat the forbidden food (they buy cakes, breads I love, candy, make pasta dishes..). I need to find my will power and conviction. I once had iron clad willpower!

    Lets be in control of our bodies and eat healthy!::flowerforyou:
  • mizzcookiebee
    mizzcookiebee Posts: 10
    Hunny buny, you can't rely on someone else to keep you on track and accountable. Ultimately, that is your job. We can offer you all the advice, love, compassion, and advice in the world, but we can't do it for you. MFP makes tracking and learning about nutrition so easy and the internet is full or recipes and tips to help you find new ways to eat, ways to sneak in exercise, and ways to alter old favorites to make them more healthy. My suggestion if you need the extra motivation to work out is to join a dance class or aerobics class. You make friends you want to see, you're doing something so fun you don't realize you're working out, and it's all working toward your goal. I know this is difficult, trust me, this is round two for me. But we all can do it. :) Best of luck.
  • AdriSaysRelax
    AdriSaysRelax Posts: 110
    I think we've all fallen off the wagon a time or three (hundred). Only thing to do is to keep trying! Feel free to add me as a friend. We Texas folk need to stick together. :)
  • harelle
    harelle Posts: 3
    you're right, and this is my second time around too (I lost a lot of weight after my second, I was focused, worked out twice a day, ate lean, and had the eye of a tiger), but there's something there (in my head) thats preventing me from sticking it out, all I know is when I don't have the support of someone that is with me and can relate I loose it.
    It IS psychological!
    I guess I'm not ready, but I'm with dlangley, tomorrow, I will begin again with my best effort.

    Get back up, dust off and try again.
  • mizzcookiebee
    mizzcookiebee Posts: 10
    Lordy, lordy, friend. If that's anything like what was in my head when I began this mega merry-go-round again I know what it is. The fear of failing. The fear of doing all this work and it not working or sticking. That thought gets me down in the bone marrow. But, that's why you can't think of it as a "diet" you really do have to commit to it as a life style change. Somewhere along the way, I've had to accept that no matter what the scales say eating a tub of cookie dough is ALWAYS a no-go lol. You can do it. And look in to that class stuff. Super fun.
  • Aviendha_RJ
    Aviendha_RJ Posts: 600 Member
    I had the same problem when I first started running. There was NO way I could manage to run for any measureable amount of time because it was BORING AS HELL....

    Then I got an iPod.... and uploaded a bunch of my CDs. I downloaded comedy tapes. Books on Tape.

    Sometimes that makes it easier.
  • harelle
    harelle Posts: 3
    You're right! LOL
    I surely will, thank you all, I'm going to figure out how to add you all onto my app.
    I will look into the zumba class offered at my town rec center.
    :happy:
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