This made me cry

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  • jmwolffyy
    jmwolffyy Posts: 212 Member
    Such an amazing letter, and a great inspiration to write something similar to my own mother. My mom wasn't the one who taught me that "fat is ugly;" that was done much better by my grandmother and aunts on my dad's side. My mom made sure I knew I was loved at any size and that has helped me with my journey, so I owe her tons of thanks for giving me the right mindset. Now apparently would be the time to let her know that!

    Thanks for sharing! :)
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    beyond lovely. thank you. we should all be reminded of this sentiment. love ourselves for who we are; what we can do; what we contribute to family, friends, others; not what we look like. i needed this. <3.
  • RivenV
    RivenV Posts: 1,667 Member
    Pow--right in the feels on a Monday morning.
  • hegster23
    hegster23 Posts: 36 Member
    BUMP! Because every woman in the world needs to know that she's beautiful.

    Agreed!
  • glassgallm
    glassgallm Posts: 276 Member
    Wow!
  • laughingdani
    laughingdani Posts: 2,275 Member
    I love this so much. Thanks for sharing.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    not many things make my cry on here, but this did. This is the message i needed if im fortunate enough to carry this baby to term. Well timed thank you!
  • Miss_Meliss86
    Miss_Meliss86 Posts: 372 Member
    This is amazing, I love it. Thank you for sharing!
  • Sedna_51
    Sedna_51 Posts: 277 Member
    This is amazing and perfect and is making me choke up a little. Thank you for sharing it.

    I have the following bookmarked (from the National Eating Disorders Association, neda.org). It's a little sanity check that keeps me from tailspinning back into the self-hate.

    http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/10-steps-positive-body-image
  • Laneybug081012
    Laneybug081012 Posts: 22
    This is exactly why I want to get healthy so I can be a good role model for my daughter I want her to always know she is strong and beautiful person and to be HEALTHY...and not to focus so much on image...thank you for sharing!
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,078 Member
    Bump.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    beyond lovely. thank you. we should all be reminded of this sentiment. love ourselves for who we are; what we can do; what we contribute to family, friends, others; not what we look like. i needed this. <3.

    ^^^ totally this!
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    this is exactly why i'm emphasizing to my daughter what we can do with our bodies.
    when you realize what you can do, and how much fun eating kiwi and dancing and all the
    other stuff really is, she doesn't want it any other way.
  • andersonjo0306
    andersonjo0306 Posts: 304 Member
    OMG so true. I catch myself doing it too in front of my daughters and I know they do it to themselves. Wow, so engrained. I now say thank you when someone compliments me. I know longer look in the mirror and stick out my tongue (yes I actually did that). I compliment my daughters and focus on the positive. I am hoping that with these little changes in my own attitude my granddaughter Lily wont go through what we have up until now.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    this is exactly why i'm emphasizing to my daughter what we can do with our bodies.
    when you realize what you can do, and how much fun eating kiwi and dancing and all the
    other stuff really is, she doesn't want it any other way.

    my girls asked me to teach them how to lift weights, they're 6 and 3.... I'm teaching them form using a broomstick as a barbell lol, my 3 yr old has perfect form on squats with no instruction

    also my 6 yr old flexes her biceps at me - probably because she sees me flexing mine LOL

    I've taught them about how they need protein to grow and carbohydrate for energy and vitamins and minerals to stay healthy.

    I want them to grow up hearing the language of being strong and healthy, not the language of body shaming (of anyone, least of all them or anyone else in the family). They're probably going to hear a lot of negative messages as they're growing up, so I want to be prepared and help them to understand things like how magazine images are photoshopped, and things like that, so they grow up appreciating themselves for who they are, and having the knowledge of how to stay healthy, and that healthy looks good on every body type.

    That's what I'm aiming for....
  • Meloonie
    Meloonie Posts: 144 Member
    Thank you for posting this. It made me cry, but helped me to put a few things straight in my own mind.
  • nope31
    nope31 Posts: 174
    That's exactly why I don't put myself down in front of my child.
    My mother used to say all kinds of negative things about herself.
    It left a lasting impression. She did turn out to be all the horrible things she called herself tho.
    Luckily I walked away b4 it was..... I too that adopted that way of thinking and behaving.
    Smart woman learn from dumb womans mistakes. I was the smart one in this story.
  • alglenn2013
    alglenn2013 Posts: 97 Member
    Powerful article, thank you for posting.

    My son is 5, and about a week ago he was looking at me and then he looked at himself. He patted my belly and said "Mommy, you have a big belly. That's nice! I want a big belly too!" My instinct was terror! Oh No! My little boy thinks it's O.K to be fat because I am! I curbed those feelings and we had a talk about what it means to be healthy and that mommy's big belly wasn't healthy, and about the things I do every day, and the foods I prepare for us to eat, that will help me become more healthy. It was a good talk.

    This story helped me see that conversation from a new perspective. In his innocent, loving way he was saying, "Mommy is beautiful, mommy has a big belly, so big bellies must be beautiful." In short, this story made me cry . . . a lot. :cry:
  • DeeDel32
    DeeDel32 Posts: 542 Member
    You must be a fellow kiwi deedel32, I read this on stuff too the other day.

    Very true isn't it? I grew up with a mum who didn't like her body much. It is not something I want to pass onto my daughters.

    Nope, Canadian. :smile:
  • Southern_Belle_LA
    Southern_Belle_LA Posts: 931 Member
    bump

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