How often do you

When we were in a long distance relationship it was every weekend, we lived an hour and half apart. When we were 6 hrs apart it was several times a month to once a month or less.

Once in 18 months, then after that 5 months. Long distance was rough!!

Ours is skewered massively. We've been together 18 months. First six months we saw each other about 3 times a week (lived 40 miles apart).

After about six/seven months we moved in together (quickly, I know, but we'd known each other for a while prior) and were happy and nesting and all really sappy stuff. I moved 40 miles away from my hometown.

Just before Xmas, I had a massive mental relapse. I elected to move back in with my Mum to take the pressure off my other half (who didn't really understand mental illness, but is much more understanding now) for a couple of months, except four months later I'm still here with a new diagnosis, new therapy stuff ongoing and other rubbish.

Now we see each other once a week. It's okay because a) I need my space and b) He works really hard and is tired, so I don't want him ferrying around 3 times a week to see me (petrol costs, not to mention the fact we wouldn't have much quality time together). It's not easy - but we talk a lot, and we're pretty secure.

too often.

How many is too often & do you tell them if that's how you feel?

OP, if you are feeling like you are spending too much time together - that should be a huge red flag to you. Just tell him; and then seriously think about why you feel that way.

Neediness from a significant other can lead to controlling behavior.

too often.

How many is too often & do you tell them if that's how you feel?

Oh, I screwed up and didn't read the stipulations. I'm married and work at a job where I don't travel. She'd laugh at me if I told her that (as she should).

She doesn't visit me anymore.

Before we moved in with each other, we'd see each other 3-4 times a week, but we moved in together after four months of dating, so... yeah.