This is driving me NUTS not losing and i have a LOT to lose

This is really starting to get at me, for the last 3 weeks ive been stuck at 350 and i cannot get passed it. Ive only lost 18 pounds so far of which who knows how much of that was just water weight. Im torn on how much i should be eating ! MFP says i should eat 2400 calories, but i cant get close to that eating at home without help from Mcdonalds. I don't feel hungry even eating only 1600 calories which leads me to believe im still eating to much. At 6 foot 3 and 350 pounds 1600 calories is to much !? It just makes no sense to me and every day i step on this damn scale and see 350 i want to go out and see how well it could fly if i threw it. Ive opened up my diary if anyone wants to take a look, i know it's definitely not perfect, but you should have seen it before i started MFP. Ive managed to ditch all soda for the last 3 months and i drink only water, I guess im just looking at calories right now and i try to keep my sodium low (sometimes i blow it lol) I am extremely sedentary and not by choice, i have a rare skin condition which prevents me from moving much, even with this i still walk for an hour at planet fitness everyday making sure my heart rate is about 150 and im in pain the whole time so you could imagine what it feels like to not see anything motivational on the scale. Im starting to measure now so we will see how that goes. I honestly think im just going to try eat 1200 calories for a week, see if i lose anything. If i do i know i was eating to much and i can start increasing from their. Any thoughts are much appreciated. thanks !

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  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    It's really not necessary to feel hungry while losing weight, I promise you. I know that's what we all think, what we've been taught by the diet industry and fitness infomercials to believe. But it's just not true.

    At your weight, you can stand to run a larger deficit than most of us. Such a low calorie level probably won't do you much harm. But if you're worried about it, there are tons of calorie-dense foods you can incorporate in your diet to boost your levels.

    Sometimes bodies get weird like this. Even when you're doing everything right they'll hold onto the weight. It could be water weight masking the fat loss or your body could just be stalled for a few weeks. I would give it another week or two and see if your body doesn't catch up.
  • jrbb03092
    jrbb03092 Posts: 198 Member
    You seem to be over on sodium most days and it also looks like a lot of what you're eating is junk. You might even be undereating for your size and weight and considering you're a male.

    My advice (and only my advice, based on your diary and what you've told us):

    1. Measure your food to make sure you're logging accurately.

    2. Try and switch your choices to healthier ones. Choose leaner meats, wholegrains, fruits and vegetables. If you can't handle changing everything at once, switch one thing, then switch another. I'm not telling you to give up all the junky choices but wean yourself off slowly and decide which ones you want to keep as occasional things.

    3. Reduce your sodium.

    4. Try eating 2000 calories for a good solid month.
  • coco3382458
    coco3382458 Posts: 296 Member
    yes I agree. I think you are not losing because of what you are eating. I would change that and then see what happens. maybe try cutting out all the fast food and pizza 1st and then go from there
  • astrampe
    astrampe Posts: 2,169 Member
    Do not eat 1600 - I am 5'8 and 176 and eat more than that...

    Stop eating so much junk and start eating real food - you will not get healthy on a diet of king size reeces and Burger King!

    For 2400 cal (btw - that's my TDEE, so still a huge deficit for you - you can eat eggs and bacon and avo with whole wheat bread for breakfast, a LOT of roasted chicken you can buy at a supermarket all done, and loads of veggies - easy to microwave frozen veggies and pack it for lunch.
    Steak and veggies with a potato for dinner - easy to prepare and a lot less calories and more nutrition than urger king....
  • Lauren344
    Lauren344 Posts: 50 Member
    Iv looked at your diary, looks like you need to change the foods you eat
    do you eat breakfast?
  • sarah___
    sarah___ Posts: 5
    You might be eating under the amount of calories you need and you might not feel hungry, but the fact that you're craving the same old foods could be your body trying to tell you something. Try to just eat healthy for a few days and see if you get your appetite back. Quality is more important than quantity or number of calories. The sodium could also be causing you to retain water. When you start to eat better you might also feel a little better when it comes to exercise.
  • mwiechel
    mwiechel Posts: 77 Member
    Cut out the fast food and pizza as much as you can! All that is is junk and not helping your body.

    Start meal planning, and try to prep all your food ahead of time. Take 2-3 hours one day a week and get all your food ready for the week. If you have it all prepped and ready to go, it will be faster and healthier (and cheaper) to grab that instead of waiting in line at BK or McDonalds.

    I would also start eatting breakfast too (from the days I looked at on your diary, it doesn't look like you are getting that in) get some whole grain bread, and have Peanut Butter Toast, or eggs on toast, But get something with protien you you to get you going on your day!

    Hope that helps, start making the changes a little at a time and before you know it, you'll be a whole new person!
  • newjourney2015
    newjourney2015 Posts: 216 Member
    You seem to be over on sodium most days and it also looks like a lot of what you're eating is junk. You might even be undereating for your size and weight and considering you're a male.

    My advice (and only my advice, based on your diary and what you've told us):

    1. Measure your food to make sure you're logging accurately.

    2. Try and switch your choices to healthier ones. Choose leaner meats, wholegrains, fruits and vegetables. If you can't handle changing everything at once, switch one thing, then switch another. I'm not telling you to give up all the junky choices but wean yourself off slowly and decide which ones you want to keep as occasional things.

    3. Reduce your sodium.

    4. Try eating 2000 calories for a good solid month.

    This is exactly what I was getting ready to suggest (and yes based on your diary.) If you can [do the above] and keep your sodium down there should no doubt you will see results in a months time. Also remember, juice has lots of added sugar. Maybe eat a real orange which is natural sugar and drink more water. I believe you're biggest set back (besides the junk food choices) is the sodium. And really log everything you eat. You can make your diary private again so you can be completely honest with yourself without anyone else judging you. That and weighing and measuring everything you eat. Honestly, you didn't get to be your size by eating 1600 calories a day or even 2000 calories a day. There is no need to starve yourself by lowering to 1200 calories a day. Take it nice and slow and change WHAT you're eating first.

    Does your fitness facility have free weights? Maybe you could do free weights instead of that never ending walk to nowhere?! Lifting weights helps keep muscle mass and burns fat so that when you do start shedding fat, it might help tighten the loose skin in the process.

    Good luck! I hope you can find a plan and a path that is sustainable and works for you!
  • diamondcricket
    diamondcricket Posts: 21 Member
    I looked at your diary, and I didn't see any vegetables? Everyone's advice is good advice, try to make some of your own food and cut the fast food. It's good that you cut the soda.

    I had (still have sometimes) a hard time with the fast food, so when I get in my car, I put my purse in my trunk that way I'm not tempted to just "swing by" a fast food place. You could try doing that with your wallet.
  • OtiWanKenobi
    OtiWanKenobi Posts: 340 Member
    Try to eat the 2400 that's recommended but it should be HEALTHY foods like fish and lean meats, grains, healthy fats etc.

    My husband was in the same boat where he was barely netting 1600 on some days and was gaining weight. Once he started MFP and eating 2000 the weight started to drop.

    He was lost as well when he couldn't figure out how to fill up those calories. I advised him the same foods I mentioned above as well as peanut butter, nuts, beans and lots of veggies. After about a week his metabolism got used to eating that much food because once his body realized he was getting regular feedings it started to let go.

    So yes, eat more, eat clean, plan your meals ahead of time and the weight should start to come off.

    Best of luck!

    Here's a sample of what he eats for breakfast.... cinnamon oatmeal with a whole banana and peanut butter. that's about 400 cals right there. (**Eventually, I'm going to trying to wean him off the sugary instant oatmeal...but for now progress is progress!)

    For dinner we may eat a large mahi mahi steak (about 8oz) with grilled asparagus and a large baked potato.
  • nave002
    nave002 Posts: 211 Member
    You seem to be over on sodium most days and it also looks like a lot of what you're eating is junk. You might even be undereating for your size and weight and considering you're a male.

    My advice (and only my advice, based on your diary and what you've told us):

    1. Measure your food to make sure you're logging accurately.

    2. Try and switch your choices to healthier ones. Choose leaner meats, wholegrains, fruits and vegetables. If you can't handle changing everything at once, switch one thing, then switch another. I'm not telling you to give up all the junky choices but wean yourself off slowly and decide which ones you want to keep as occasional things.

    3. Reduce your sodium.

    4. Try eating 2000 calories for a good solid month.

    I totally agree with this.... [I noted that there doesn't seem to be much fruit or veggies of any kind in your diet at all]
  • bcf7683
    bcf7683 Posts: 1,653 Member
    Agree with all about the quality of your food choices...

    But beyond that is there a reason that your carbs are so high and your protein so low? I'm 5'4" 135lbs and I eat a minimum of 120g protein/day. I understand that I have different goals than yourself, but if you're trying to lose a large amount of weight, I would suggest more proteins to help with muscle retention (not to mention they're yummyyy!)
  • bcf7683
    bcf7683 Posts: 1,653 Member
    Try to eat the 2400 that's recommended but it should be HEALTHY foods like fish and lean meats, grains, healthy fats etc.

    My husband was in the same boat where he was barely netting 1600 on some days and was gaining weight. Once he started MFP and eating 2000 the weight started to drop.

    He was lost as well when he couldn't figure out how to fill up those calories. I advised him the same foods I mentioned above as well as peanut butter, nuts, beans and lots of veggies. After about a week his metabolism got used to eating that much food because once his body realized he was getting regular feedings it started to let go.

    So yes, eat more, eat clean, plan your meals ahead of time and the weight should start to come off.

    Best of luck!

    Here's a sample of what he eats for breakfast.... cinnamon oatmeal with a whole banana and peanut butter. that's about 400 cals right there. (**Eventually, I'm going to trying to wean him off the sugary instant oatmeal...but for now progress is progress!)

    For dinner we may eat a large mahi mahi steak (about 8oz) with grilled asparagus and a large baked potato.

    Suggestion for your husband about the oatmeal- I eat mine with cinnamon & no sugar added applesauce. Tastes like the packet type of apple cinnamon, but wayyyyyyy less sugar. It's also really good if you get the little cups of the flavored apple sauces (my favorite is Mott's no sugar added Summer Strawberry) and mix in to plain oatmeal. Yummo!
  • MissIlochi
    MissIlochi Posts: 7 Member
    I'm sorry your losing your motivation. I know it can be very difficult at times. I did look at your diary and I'm no nutritionist but it seems as though you are often under your calorie goal but it's not with the right kind of calories. I would certainly cut back on the fast food. These foods are likely processed and they do nothing good for your body or the goal you have in mind. Try and start your day with a whole grain food (oatmeal for example) and you can add fruit to that. Eggs and bacon with white bread is not the kind of breakfast you want to have often. The cholesterol and fat can be very high.

    Also, I notice some days you aren't eating breakfast. Are you a breakfast skipper? I know its cliche to hear that breakfast is one of the most important meals of the day but that is very true. You have to jump start your metabolism and how you start your day often determines how you will finish your day. Try and make it a habit to eat breakfast and make sure you are drinking a lot of water. Orange juice is good but has a lot of sugar in it.

    Good Luck!
  • OtiWanKenobi
    OtiWanKenobi Posts: 340 Member
    Try to eat the 2400 that's recommended but it should be HEALTHY foods like fish and lean meats, grains, healthy fats etc.

    My husband was in the same boat where he was barely netting 1600 on some days and was gaining weight. Once he started MFP and eating 2000 the weight started to drop.

    He was lost as well when he couldn't figure out how to fill up those calories. I advised him the same foods I mentioned above as well as peanut butter, nuts, beans and lots of veggies. After about a week his metabolism got used to eating that much food because once his body realized he was getting regular feedings it started to let go.

    So yes, eat more, eat clean, plan your meals ahead of time and the weight should start to come off.

    Best of luck!

    Here's a sample of what he eats for breakfast.... cinnamon oatmeal with a whole banana and peanut butter. that's about 400 cals right there. (**Eventually, I'm going to trying to wean him off the sugary instant oatmeal...but for now progress is progress!)

    For dinner we may eat a large mahi mahi steak (about 8oz) with grilled asparagus and a large baked potato.

    Suggestion for your husband about the oatmeal- I eat mine with cinnamon & no sugar added applesauce. Tastes like the packet type of apple cinnamon, but wayyyyyyy less sugar. It's also really good if you get the little cups of the flavored apple sauces (my favorite is Mott's no sugar added Summer Strawberry) and mix in to plain oatmeal. Yummo!

    Thanks! That's good to know! He loves motts apples sauce I will definitely be trying this. :bigsmile:
  • newjourney2015
    newjourney2015 Posts: 216 Member
    Check out this success story for a little motivation maybe? Proves it absolutely can be done!

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1017387-2-yrs-of-mfp-130-lost-9-months-maintaining-with-pics
  • joleenl
    joleenl Posts: 739 Member
    You seem to be over on sodium most days and it also looks like a lot of what you're eating is junk. You might even be undereating for your size and weight and considering you're a male.

    My advice (and only my advice, based on your diary and what you've told us):

    1. Measure your food to make sure you're logging accurately.

    2. Try and switch your choices to healthier ones. Choose leaner meats, wholegrains, fruits and vegetables. If you can't handle changing everything at once, switch one thing, then switch another. I'm not telling you to give up all the junky choices but wean yourself off slowly and decide which ones you want to keep as occasional things.

    3. Reduce your sodium.

    4. Try eating 2000 calories for a good solid month.
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    ^^ this is good advice.
  • blondageh
    blondageh Posts: 923 Member
    Stop eating so much fast food. I know you might be within your calorie goals, but if you want to start losing weight again, cut it out completely for a week and I bet those #'s will drop! If you can't get up to your calories without eating it, try some nuts, peanut butter, cheese. I wouldn't worry too much about cutting calories too low. I would make it a goal to get to 2000 each day. You will lose then. Slowly, but you will lose.

    I am not saying never have Pizza or McDonalds again, maybe just not when you are stuck in your weight loss.
  • literatelier
    literatelier Posts: 209 Member
    I have a hard time trusting nutrition from fast food restaurants, or really anywhere food is prepared for me. It all depends on preparation - if the food they tested calories at had exactly one tbsp of mayo, but the 16 year old kid in the kitchen is slathering on a bucket load, the actual calories you're eating are going to be very different from what is published on their public website.

    Just a thought to consider.
  • RonnieLodge
    RonnieLodge Posts: 665 Member
    Have you taken a note of your measurements? Chest, waist, hip, arms, thighs etc? And used an online calculator and tape measure to figure out your body fat %?

    I find that they are better markers of change and a often a good back up for when the scales aren't shifting.
  • groundhawg
    groundhawg Posts: 121 Member
    First of all, its important to not become demotivated. Your choice to become healthier is an excellent choice, but it does take work, dedication, and time. I've foudn through experience and friends' experience that the slowest the weight loss, the more sustainable. You've lost 20 pounds already, and that is excellent. Thats no small feat. Its a fantastic start, so don't be too hard on yourself.

    That said, I dont want to repeat everynoe by telling you to make better food choices. I agree, that you should. You need to be feeding yourself real fuel. Its the different between putting gas and rubbing alcohol into your car, whole, real foods are real gas, fast food being the rubbing alcohol. If you find that your schedule prevents you from preparing food I suggest websites like onceamonthmom.com it really revolutionized my ability to cook for myself and diet.

    And measure, measure,measure. Measure yourself, you are probably building some muscle from all the walking, and probably losing fat, but you wont know if you dont measure. Measure you food to ensure you are being honest with yourself.

    And finally I would NOT suggest eating only 1200 calories a day. Or 1600. You may have plateau'd because your body is literally shocked by whats happening. This will pass. For someone your height and current weight I think MFP has you set correctly, though I wouldnt eat an exercise calories back because MFP usually over estimates those.

    I ran your numbers through a TDEE calculator and it gave me the following:

    Step 4: View Your Results(assuming an age of 35)
    CARBS PROTEIN FAT FIBER CALORIES
    GRAMS per day -4.4 350 157.5 70 - 88 2800
    GRAMS per meal -1.5 116.7 52.5 23 - 29 933

    You need to drastically inctrease your protein and healthy fats, and stay away from sugar-laden thigns to reduce carbs.

    Your body will get used to the changes. You will see improvement again.
  • maegmez
    maegmez Posts: 341 Member
    Honestly, if I ate like that, I would not expect a weight loss. I know it's down to the calories in but eating junk and fast food is not the way to get healthy. As mentioned above, you don't have to do away with pizza and mcdonalds but everything in moderation.

    I went back to beginning of June and didn't see a single fruit or veg. I saw no breakfast foods, skipping meals is not good for your metabolism. Get rid of your "I shouldn't have ate that" category and list it as snacks. You want your diary to feel good, that does not.

    Eating vegetables is very filling and great for your body! If you want pizza, make it yourself. You can make the dough up the night before or in the morning and then all you have to do is roll it out. You normally get to large crusts from a recipe but you can get 3 by making it super thin. Go easy on the cheese and sause but do add grilled chicken or some protein. If you go for pepperoni, slice them in half and spread them out. They are so high in sodium. Only eat half the pizza and then load half your plate with veggies. As you can see, loaded the right way, you can have more pizza than your takeaway pizza.

    Bottom line, you should load every dinner plate with veggies.
  • Sunshine2plus2
    Sunshine2plus2 Posts: 1,492 Member
    I started at 330pds myself. Just watch your food and continue with the walking! I must say when you finally get in a pattern of losing weight make sure you have a cheat meal once a week. Its helps you continue losing and "shocks" the body to keep burning fat! Good luck dont give it! It will be worth it!
  • lrnlvr
    lrnlvr Posts: 11 Member
    Great information everyone, everyone is so supportive on this forum and it helps so much. Alot of people asked about skipping breakfast, I have insomnia and typically wake about 12 every day. My breakfast is usually my lunch i just had not gotten around the time to change it. My sleep habits are part of the reason why im doing so much exercise because im trying to wear myself out so i can actually sleep. As to those who found my "unspeakable s" in the diary and yes their are alot of them i can definitely see how thats affecting me. Im going to hide the diary again and come back in a month with better eating habits more vegetables/fruits and hopefully be a little less ashamed of it. Im determined to get this number down ! thanks a ton guys its much appreciated ! Feel free to follow me and kick me in the *kitten* as well :)
  • maegmez
    maegmez Posts: 341 Member
    Hiding your diary to hide your unmentionables isn't going to help you because they will still be visible to you! It doesn't matter what we think of your foods, you have to be happy with your choices. This is a lifelong journey and how you eat while losing weight MUST be the way you eat for life.

    You really need to have 3 good healthy meals a day.

    You got some great advice here, now it's down to you on what you do with that.
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    Great information everyone, everyone is so supportive on this forum and it helps so much. Alot of people asked about skipping breakfast, I have insomnia and typically wake about 12 every day. My breakfast is usually my lunch i just had not gotten around the time to change it. My sleep habits are part of the reason why im doing so much exercise because im trying to wear myself out so i can actually sleep. As to those who found my "unspeakable s" in the diary and yes their are alot of them i can definitely see how thats affecting me. Im going to hide the diary again and come back in a month with better eating habits more vegetables/fruits and hopefully be a little less ashamed of it. Im determined to get this number down ! thanks a ton guys its much appreciated ! Feel free to follow me and kick me in the *kitten* as well :)

    I don't think there's anything to feel ashamed about. I didn't look at your diary, but I read other people's advice/posts. So you eat fast food. So did most of us, at some point. That's how and why we ended up here. Just too much of the wrong stuff, and in the wrong amounts. The first step was asking for help from others. There's nothing to feel ashamed about. At least you're making an attempt to better yourself. The next step is to slowly follow the excellent advice other posters have given you.

    For example, say you eat McDonald's 5 times a week (one meal, each day). This week, only eat 4 meals at McDonald's, and replace one of the meals with a healthier meal. And then the following week, drop it to 3 meals at McDonalds, and so on, until eating at McDonald's is a thing of the past and something you really do on the rare occasion.

    Eat more veggies. This one can be hard for some. Like for me, I only have 2-3 vegetables that I actually like/tolerate. So, I rotate the ones I like everyday in my meals. Green beans one day, broccoli the next, then peas, rinse and repeat.

    Portion control. I've really struggled with this in the past. I've only recently started my new diet, so I'm still working on it. But, I've been picking foods that I can easily stick to the actual serving sizes, or get the right proportion. For example, Perdue Perfect Portion Chicken Breast. Comes in individually wrapped packages, and is 1 serving. 140 calories. I combine that with some Uncle Ben Ready Brown Rice, and half a bag of Steamables green beans. Total calories is 390. If you really needed more, you could bump it to 2 pieces of chicken, for a total of 530 calories. It's a good, balanced meal, it's filling, and it's tasty.

    Snack, snack, snack. Keep you metabolism going with lots of healthy snacks. An apple in the morning (or in your cast, an hour or 2 after lunch). After lunch, have 2 more snacks before dinner. Fruit, veggies, 100 calorie snacks (which are still yummy, imo), yogurt, etc. Have a balanced dinner. After dinner, if you're still feeling hungry, have another snack. The snacking will help with your portion control too.

    Drink LOTS of water. I struggled with this one too. At the beginning of the week, I had to really force myself to drink water. I went from drinking no water a day (I'd have 1-2 cans of soda a day previously), to drinking 4 cups of water (a bottle of water has 2 cups, and a little extra). Each day this week, I slowly upped my water. Finally, yesterday on my 4th day of diet, I hit 8 cups of water. I don't drink anymore soda. So go me! Haha. I feel like I'm swimming, and I have to go to the little girl's room ALOT, but it helps me feel full between snacks/meals, plus it's recommended to have that 8 cups.

    I think you're definitely on the right path. You don't need to feel ashamed about your eating habits. Just slowly make changes here and there until you're eating well balance, healthier meals and snacks. I'm still new to dieting too, so I get it. It's hard to cut out that stuff. I don't think it has to be cut out 100%. Just cut out 95%, and have an occasional 5% :)

    Good Luck!
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    LyndaKLove Posts: 1 Member
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  • groundhawg
    groundhawg Posts: 121 Member
    Don't be ashamed! This is a learning process for all of us. Honestly half of having a good and healthy lifestyle is just starting to get informed. I cant believe how much Ive learned since starting this whole process. And you'll learn a lot to. There is so much information out there, and we have to wade through it, and descide what works for each of us. Just try and stay positive towards your own body and your food.
  • stealthq
    stealthq Posts: 4,298 Member
    Keep in mind that sleep is a component of weight loss as well. If you have insomnia, you may have a more difficult time losing, so concentrating on getting as much quality sleep as you can is important as well.

    I think you're setting yourself on the right track and will see the weight resume coming off soon. Good luck and eat well :)