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  • abheshek
    abheshek Posts: 525 Member
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    move on from what ? :bigsmile:
  • theCarlton
    theCarlton Posts: 1,344 Member
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    Any or all of these answers:
    - when you feel it has cost you too much of yourself or your dreams to maintain this relationship.
    - when you get more trouble than enjoyment from the relationship
    - when you are standing in someone else's way of happiness (whether they realize it or not)
    - when someone else is standing in your way of happiness
    - when you realize you have very mismatched goals for life
    - when you no longer love this person the way they should be loved
    - when you don't feel you're being loved the way you should be loved
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
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    At what point do you stop trying, and move on?

    When you've licked the last bit of icing from the fork, when the plate is so clean that the dog won't even lick it, then it's time to move on.... to the next cake!


    Oh, for people? When you don't value the relationship. It's worth fixing when you value the other person still.
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
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    the point where it doesn't flow and it seems like work
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
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    I knew I was ready for a divorce when I would start fantasizing about my husband dying in a car accident. He's a real friggin' jerk.
  • Kpablo
    Kpablo Posts: 355 Member
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    You never stop trying. You don't ever completely move on.

    At some point though, you break up.

    wrong. you stop trying, and you move on emotionally then break up.
  • butterflyluv1218
    butterflyluv1218 Posts: 430
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    When we've had more than two serious conversations about whatever the issue is and still nothing has changed. At that point, it's never gonna.

    People stay in relationships that make them unhappy because they fear change. Life is too short for that, it really is.

    This is so true and is my relationship right now. Oh and "for the kids".
  • CountingCaloriesSuxass
    CountingCaloriesSuxass Posts: 387 Member
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    when the other person gets fat.
  • ReNewYou
    ReNewYou Posts: 49
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    Some people say “Oh a relationship should be so easy" this is crap. For any relationship to work (marriage, friend, parent/child) it requires work. You must be validating, trusting, open, and honest. You must work to find common ground but never give until you are angry. Your anger should be your guide as to how far and what you will comprise on. You must always maintain your autonomy (sense of self) for once you lose that you start to build bitterness. As for those who say once you lose the "butterflies in your stomach” That is a very poor judge of a relationship, for who wants to be always nervous around their partner. But in the end it comes down to you, you are the only one who can make that call. Good luck and I hope you find the answers you are looking for.
  • WhyeatKachra
    WhyeatKachra Posts: 404 Member
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    When you know what bound you two at first place isn't there anymore. When you are by his/her side and all you do is go back on how things were... you miss them despite being with them. It's time to move out.
  • pobalita
    pobalita Posts: 741 Member
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    Immediately if there is lying, drugs, abuse, or cheating.

    When you determine that you are not compatible in what you want in life - for example one wants marriage or kids and the other doesn't.

    I knew for sure when I would pull up to the house in my car and see he was home and not even want to go inside.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
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    i need more answers people. LOL

    the level of crap that people will put up with varies from individual to individual.

    we need some info too...
    how long have you been dealing with this?
    what exactly are you dealing with?

    details yo!
  • CountingCaloriesSuxass
    CountingCaloriesSuxass Posts: 387 Member
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    i need more answers people. LOL

    the level of crap that people will put up with varies from individual to individual.

    we need some info too...
    how long have you been dealing with this?
    what exactly are you dealing with?

    details yo!

    excatly..like you put up with alot of my crap
  • MaydayParadeGirl
    MaydayParadeGirl Posts: 190 Member
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    When you have to ask perfect strangers advice on it on the internet is probably a pretty good indicator. You should always try adn talk it out with them first, unless the desire to make it work really isn't there, then you usually look for other people to tell you what to do.
  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
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    When you realize there is not point in continuing to try.
    When you are happier not spending time with that person.
  • SStruthers13
    SStruthers13 Posts: 150 Member
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    When you have done all you can, it still isn't working and your miserable.
    When they aren't trying.
    When abuse is involved. (physical, mental or emotional. lying and cheating is abuse)
    When it is emotionally painful.
    When they are an unrepentant loser or living off of you.
    When you no longer love the person.
  • Hexahedra
    Hexahedra Posts: 894 Member
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    Relationship is work. There's no point of continuing if the other person refuses to put effort into it anymore.
  • Bettysnyder75
    Bettysnyder75 Posts: 2
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    I just wonder if people really put the amount of work/effort/dedication/determination into their relationships/marriages as they do their workouts(pertaining to this site)---would even be having this conversation.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
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    Are you talking about friends, co-workers, or romantic/lovers/spouses relationships? Huge difference.
  • tryp66
    tryp66 Posts: 2
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