If you could go back 10 years

imagymrat
imagymrat Posts: 862 Member
edited September 2024 in Chit-Chat
If you could go back 10 years and give your present day self a word of advice, what would it be?


Mine would be, "Why the heck did you waste so much time on a crappy man, why couldn't you figure out that you can make your own happiness"...grrrr.....wasted time!:smile:
and
I wish I knew how hard it would be to lose the pregnancy weight (baby number 1 and 2) before I went and gained an entire small toddler, I'd go back and tell myself, you're pregnant, not a someone in a starving country in which you need to eat every morsel of food to pass you by. I justified eating it just because I was pregnant...if I only knew!

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  • jessebreanne
    jessebreanne Posts: 46
    I would have to say.......exactly what you would have. I would also have drilled the message home that "you don't have to be what you came from, you have the power to choose who you want to be".
  • recipe4success
    recipe4success Posts: 469 Member
    Lets see..

    10 years ago I was 18.

    I would say, travel more! I missed out on so many trips because I was so focused on school work and it was never a good time to go, or it was too expensive, or whatever. I wish I had gone on some of those trips now looking back.

    I would also say, go to the free gym at the university! Start going to fitness classes! I never went to the gym once in 4 years during my first degree.

    And lastly I would say don't be so shy (I eventually grew out of this but keep the name out of habit) because the world is alot more fun when you participate in it.
  • annaedbisous
    annaedbisous Posts: 1
    Find something active you love to do! Become a hiker or a biker or social softball player! Cause the gym sucks *kitten*. :)
  • princessorchid
    princessorchid Posts: 198 Member
    10 years ago I was 21.

    I would probably tell myself to take a good hard look at who my friends are, and not to trust some people just because we had mates in common. I'm still friends with maybe 5 people I went to uni with, and they're GOOD friends. Over the past 10 years I have been friends with some people I look back on and think WTF?

    I'd also tell myself to have another look at my friend C's best mate (who I met 10 years ago) because 10 years later we're together (and have been for a year and a half) - I never noticed him because he was pretty quiet, but he was always nice to me and stuck up for me a few times, even though we didn't know each other that well.

    I would tell myself not to leave my cat with certain people - I left her with some "friends" to catsit when I went to visit my mum and dad, and they basically traumatised the poor thing (not abused her or anything, but set her on high things for a laugh and stuff when she was a kitten and couldn't get down).

    I used to be very athletic in high school, but stopped when i went to uni. I would definitely tell myself to stick with the sports and do some activity, instead of just becoming a total student slob!

    Oh, and I would tell myself to put more effort into my studies, and then I would now have a better degree! I've done ok for myself despite the crappy degree, but I probably would ave gotten here sooner!
  • sassiebritches
    sassiebritches Posts: 1,861 Member
    Lets see 10 years ago I was 27 years old, I woulda dumped the 43 year old guy I ended up spending 7 wasted years with and would have focused on saving money instead of spending it. I would have spent more time with my pop....never thought he woulda died 7 years later......but alas....I cannot go back.....and well all that brought me to today....................I love my Rockin 33 year old husband and my killer house in the country.....................not the 135 pounds extra I am tryin to lose, but love all the rest...........
  • anu_6986
    anu_6986 Posts: 702 Member
    I was 14 ten years back! Hmmm.... I would tell myself to concentrate on studies more (I did OK, but could have done better).
    And be not so shy and to participate in sports a lot more! To develop a hobby, studying is not everything... So at the end of the day I did neither this nor that :noway:

    I would have also told myself about this site :bigsmile: Ok I don't know if it existed then, but If only had I known about it atleast 5 years earlier! :(

    Anyway I am happy I know it now :flowerforyou:
  • Vanessa1977
    Vanessa1977 Posts: 101
    10yrs ago I was 23, I would have encouraged myself to Let Go, enjoy more, life is fragile. Spend less time worrying and more time enjoying. And stay away from charming men.
  • lulabellewoowoo
    lulabellewoowoo Posts: 3,125 Member
    ten years ago I was 25 years old and pregnant with my first child and about to have the absolutely BEST year of my life (literally, it lasted 365 from the day she was born to her first Bday when my at-the-time hubby said he had an affair with my friend). So 9 years ago, I would tell myself that I am stronger than I ever imagined and love my children more than my own insecurities.

    But I can't complain too much about woulda, coulda, shoulda. Because at least I FINALLY did learn it and now have a wonderful husband and two beautiful babies and am stronger physically, mentally, and spiritually than ever. Lovin' my 30s.
  • XFitMojoMom
    XFitMojoMom Posts: 3,255 Member
    10 Years ago I was 28 - I had a HUGE career and traveling around the world.
    I can't say I have any regrets... but:

    :heart: I would tell myself not to drink too much, my metabolism doesn't like it!
    :heart: to continue with an active workout schedule, it's one of those things that brings me inner peace and happiness
    :heart: to quit smoking (I did anyway, 5 years ago!)
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    I'd have to go back 30 years to make any significant changes. Met my wife 22 years ago and have been very happy ever since. Guess I should have started this diet sooner, though.
  • JStarnes
    JStarnes Posts: 5,576 Member
    10 years ago I was 15. I would tell myself not to be so shy & I'd probably slap myself for thinking (back then) that I was fat. 10 years later I'm trying to get back to that size, now it seems TINY but back then I thought I was a cow. Wasted a lot of time stressing over what I desire now. And I probably would tell myself to talk to the guy dressed as superman at the star wars premier instead of making such loud obnoxious fun of him....because I'd end up marrying him :love:
  • RoadDog
    RoadDog Posts: 2,946 Member
    10 years ago I was 15.

    15? Holy *kitten*! I am old. I have levis older than you. Wish I could fit in them.
  • m2kjenn
    m2kjenn Posts: 1,671 Member
    Isn't hindsight great!

    I was 33 10 years ago. I would tell myself to more quickly get out of the marriage that wasn't making me happy. I would tell myself to immediately look up my birth mother and enjoy every day with her, she passed away 5 years ago only 11 months after I met her. I would tell myself to enjoy my single 30's to concentrate on making myself happy and find someone to compliment me rather then wasting years on a worthless man who would never make me happy.
  • blakejohn
    blakejohn Posts: 1,129 Member
    I would go back and tell myself to move to Toronto ON :flowerforyou: :tongue:
  • AprilVal
    AprilVal Posts: 940 Member
    I would tell myself to embrace the time I have left with my Dad.. He passed way from Bone Marrow cancer in 2005. I would tell myself to spend as my time with him as possible, and to not leave his side while in the hospital. I would try to embrace myself for the broken heart that Id have ahead.. AS well as not allow myself to fall for the losers I dated before my husband.. :) But then again, I don't think I would want to go back 10 years.. Only if I could see my Dad again, I would do it. I miss him..
  • patsy5
    patsy5 Posts: 2
    ten years ago i was 52 and only yesterday i was 16,28,43 and anywheres in between. I would have ran and not walked and i would have taken better care of my vessel that is God given and most of all i would have been a better stewart of all things important to me and those around me. however, yesterday is spent and tomorrow is too far away, so in this day i am glad and appreciate the opprotunity to do one thing today that will improve who I am and be a strength and encouragement to the closest person to me in the world around me. it is a good day!!!
  • gnastro
    gnastro Posts: 239 Member
    ten years ago I was 33 years old. My kids were 9, 6, 4 and 3 years old. I was so care free back then. My life changed that year when I joined my first gym. I finally realized I shouldn't weigh as much as I did. Yes I was 152 at 4'10". Slowly but surely I made great friends. I started to become more confident in myself. My body image started to change for the better. No real regrets just wish I was more outgoing back then. I look at photos and realized I dresses like I was a much older mom. Would I change things maybe a few. No regrets though. I was married for 10 years , now it has been 20. I am really lucky that I have such a wonderful man in my life.
  • weaklink109
    weaklink109 Posts: 2,831 Member
    Ten years ago, I would have been 46. At that time I was still married and living in another town near where I am now. If I knew then what I know now, I would have confronted some issues in my marriage that eventually resulted in its demise. We may or may not have stayed married, but if we hadn't, I could have gotten on with my life that much sooner.

    I definitely wish I had gotten my hysterectomy sooner than I did, and found MFP earlier than I did.:ohwell:
  • baker_c
    baker_c Posts: 251 Member
    10 years ago, I would be 35 and I would tell myself to start saving for plastic surgery and I would tell myself to focus on my weight - I am worth it afterall. I think I would focus more on my career so that now, I can focus less on my career. I would tell myself how much I matter and how great my family is. oh, if only I could go back 10 years......
  • islandnutshel
    islandnutshel Posts: 1,143 Member
    Keep your gallbladder. Without it you will gain weight. And that thing when you eat wheat, you feel sick- your celiac, that means all glutens.
  • abyt42
    abyt42 Posts: 1,358 Member
    10 years ago I was 15.

    15? Holy *kitten*! I am old. I have levis older than you. Wish I could fit in them.

    This just made me laugh.... I definitely have T-shirts that are older, but I've gotten rid of the pants slightly behind the changes in style!
  • HotMommy0609
    HotMommy0609 Posts: 224
    10 years ago I was 23 and had just met my now husband.

    I would tell myself to RELAX, everything will be fine! Stop drinking so much soda and eating fast food. Start working out. Oh, and you look great! :wink:
  • MzBug
    MzBug Posts: 2,173 Member
    Let's see 10 years ago...

    1. File sexual harassment charges on the azzwipe boss in OK
    2. Take the second job offered, not the first in MD
    3. Shoulda bought the Toyota instead of the Pontiac
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