What NOT to say to someone who's trying to lost weight?

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  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
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  • bregalad5
    bregalad5 Posts: 3,965 Member
    "I'm jealous. I wish I could lose weight" (I've told this person about MFP several times, but she insists she's "not ready yet")

    "Are you sure you wanna eat that? I thought you were dieting" (hearing that over and over led me to eat a few too many cookies and put weight back on)
  • mfpseven
    mfpseven Posts: 421 Member
    "Well I think you look great just the way you are"
    Married, I don't need your flirting. I'm not trying to impress you.

    "What does your husband think about you losing weight?"
    About my getting healthy? Why wouldn't he think it's great? Oh because I've lost 3 inches from my hips? He's a boob man.

    "I don't like skinny chicks"
    I do.

    "Omg, you are so skinny!"
    Skinnier that before, not skinny. I have 30lbs to lose before I hit too skinny, don't worry, you just aren't used to seeing me 60lbs down.

    "How did you lose so much?"
    Tell them diet and exercise, get this totally hideous face of disgust. Well if you didn't wanna know you shouldn't have asked.

    I also try to buy clothes for the size I will be if I see something I love or something on sale and people look me up and down like that won't fit you, I'm losing weight, not just talking about it. It just gets annoying.
  • mikee007
    mikee007 Posts: 94 Member
    Don't ever say " you don't sweat much for a fat person" :D
  • marsellient
    marsellient Posts: 591 Member
    Wow! I don't think anyone has said any of these things to me, although I still want to get off at least another 25 lb and have been asked if I'm sure I need to lose that much. Yes, as it will barely put me into the "healthy" range. Pretty mild stuff.
  • BIGGGMOMMMA
    BIGGGMOMMMA Posts: 190
    " Your starting to look better, but still have a long way to go huh?"


    My 75 year old auntie....
  • LonLB
    LonLB Posts: 1,126 Member
    I just simply hate it when people around you are suddenly the expert and start telling you what you should do. Especially when those people should probably worry about their own weight.
  • bio01979
    bio01979 Posts: 313
    or my mom telling me not to throw out my fat clothes because I may need them later.

    Mine said the same thing to me!! :explode:

    my mom just glares at me if I eat anything, and also says things like "well you looked better when you were thinner"

    REALLY!? Because I might be delusional and think I look better now?

    coming from the woman who has been overweight my entire life, overeats like crazy but because a lot of it is low fat (but has HFCS for taste) or veggies (seriously a mixing bowl sized salad for lunch and as a side dish for dinner) and no carbs and very little protein and goes on about portion size :P
  • admegamo
    admegamo Posts: 175 Member
    Most people in my family: "You should eat healthier and lose weight...Then you'd probably get man."

    me: "Not that it's your business, but I am losing weight."

    Them: "Well you should try harder."
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
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  • tlangenfeld
    tlangenfeld Posts: 2,330 Member
    telling me my nutrionist don't know what they are talking about. I should not eat so much carbs
    first carbs is what gives you energy second if you don't over eat it is not bad for you (portion control)
    Under his diet plan I have lost 24lbs with modest exercise
  • Maribel_1986
    Maribel_1986 Posts: 457 Member
    I had one of my friends comment on a motivational quote picture I put up on instagram (something like, you can either have results or excuses, not both", telling me that 'there's more to life and you could just read them to yourself instead of posting so F***ing many!" For reference, I'd posted maybe 4 or so in the last week, interspersed with other pictures.

    It just really irritated me that it annoyed her so much she felt the need to comment, rather than just keep scrolling :/

    That's just not nice :( Ignore her
  • runner2runner
    runner2runner Posts: 1,937 Member
    Asking them if they're not on one of those starvation diets!! Even if that was said jokingly, it would still be mean and nasty and certainly wouldn't be funny!!
  • jonjhayden
    jonjhayden Posts: 165 Member
    "Have a slice of pizza"

    What's wrong with pizza?

    For me one slice of pizza becomes an entire pizza plus some...I find it better to not eat any pizza at all (unless I am willing to live with eating that much pizza).
  • go19792013
    go19792013 Posts: 1
    Don't lose too much, you are looking too skinny.
  • jonjhayden
    jonjhayden Posts: 165 Member
    "How did you lose so much?"
    Tell them diet and exercise, get this totally hideous face of disgust. Well if you didn't wanna know you shouldn't have asked.

    I love it when people do this. I just want to say..."just kidding, the fat fairy came by last night and poofed it away...dumb***!"
  • BobOki
    BobOki Posts: 245 Member
    Won't "make a difference" would be a good one not to say ;P
  • jeffrodgers1
    jeffrodgers1 Posts: 991 Member
    Said to my daughter who is working on self esteem issues and losing weight... "When are you due?"

    Ouch.

    Said to me on a few occasions... "You will never keep it off". Gawd!!! how I love to prove people wrong!
  • sullus
    sullus Posts: 2,839 Member
    "How did you lose so much?"
    Tell them diet and exercise, get this totally hideous face of disgust. Well if you didn't wanna know you shouldn't have asked.

    I love it when people do this. I just want to say..."just kidding, the fat fairy came by last night and poofed it away...dumb***!"

    I tell them diet and exercise .. they get "that look" .. then I say "naaaah, just kidding. Raspberry Ketones and shakeology, baby!"
  • megsi474
    megsi474 Posts: 370 Member
    I really dislike "I'd be happy to look like you do" coupled with "you look fine". If *I* thought I looked fine and felt good, I wouldn't be working to make improvements. I keep my workouts and eating habits to myself and MFP because I don't want to have to explain that for me, it's not about weight, it's about being stronger and healthier. I may not be significantly overweight, but I haven't been healthy and the notion that I should stop what I'm doing and settle because someone else is worse off (and often not doing anything about it) bothers me.
  • DesDawn24
    DesDawn24 Posts: 147 Member
    The thing that I find most annoying is when someone knows that you're trying to lose weight, and the second you decide to have a cheat food they give you this look like "are you sure you want to eat that?".
  • ArieMc88
    ArieMc88 Posts: 18
    I get this alot- "does your husband like you skinny?" wth is that? or "wow-look at you..maybe you should eat more so you can gain a little back.." um noo
  • amybrownpatterson
    amybrownpatterson Posts: 6 Member
    I told a "friend" that I wanted to get back down to 135 because that is how much I weighted when I went to Cancun in 2001 and felt like I looked good at that weight. She replied with "You shouldn't try to get down that low because You are much older now. That was over 10 years ago."
  • agdyl
    agdyl Posts: 246 Member
    "Have a slice of pizza"

    What's wrong with pizza?

    For me one slice of pizza becomes an entire pizza plus some...I find it better to not eat any pizza at all (unless I am willing to live with eating that much pizza).

    Same for me - bread, pizza, sugar... If I eat none at all, I don't miss it, don't want it, it's no big deal. I feel happy and fulfilled without it and I truly enjoy the fruit/veggies/meat/fish that I eat. If I eat a little pizza/cake/ice cream, I'm like a crazy person that wants more and more until I quit again and get it out of my system. Is moderation possible? Sure, but for me it sucks a lot more than none at all. If eating "treats" in moderation works for you, that's great! But stop arguing with me about what works for me.
  • asp415
    asp415 Posts: 1,492 Member
    "Did you really go to gym last night” Uh yeah!

    I’m not trying to impress anyone either here or in my personal life and I don’t post anything on my diary including exercises that aren’t true. I think it would be pretty pathetic if I was lying on my MFP diary, isn’t the whole point of logging, etc. to be honest w/yourself about your food and exercise in order to make a positive change.
  • OwneyB
    OwneyB Posts: 7
    What diet are you on this time? OR Your always on a diet! OR Your trying to lose weight again?!

    I hate it when my near and dear say these things. It just reminds me of my past failures. What really gets me is that the ones who say these things are usually my saboteurs. Just be supportive people!
  • JRSchumaker
    JRSchumaker Posts: 93 Member
    Asking me when I'm going to stop. Why the hell would I stop challenging myself physically? WTH? Also telling me I should just accept my mom belly for what it is. Apparently, me trying to have the best, fittest body I can is offensive to some people.

    Telling me I shouldn't lose any more weight, or that I'm getting too skinny. "You're not still trying to lose, are you??" I am NO WHERE NEAR an unhealthy weight, and it's no body's business but mine whether I feel like I've lost enough yet (aside from all you folks who can see my ticker). I also just hate the word "skinny." I've worked hard for the muscle I have.

    Telling me to indulge in crap food like donuts. I tried a donut weeks ago and I thought it was going to kill me. Please, more for you if I don't have one!

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