Struggling to remain focused when I have so far to go still

When you have that much to lose, it will take a long time for your mind to catch up. I had lost about 85 lbs before I was finally able to look in the mirror and not think I was fat. The best advice I have on that issue is to take progress pictures. This is something I didn't do (not intentionally, anyway ... of course there are photos of me at various stages of weight-loss, but not half-naked, legit progress photos), and I think I would have been able to see and accept it mentally and emotionally if I had evidence of the changes.

As for losing your motivation, I just think that comes from losing sight of your goal. One thing that may help you get refocused is to change up your routine. Maybe pick a specific, short-term thing to train for, whether it's a race or a certain performance goal, like being able to run a 5k in under 25 minutes or being able to deadlift your body weight. This will give you a specific reason for working out, as opposed to the very vague goal of trying to lose weight.

Try not to look at the end result... you can make yourself crazy that way ( from one who knows) LOL. What I do no is focus on my daily routine only.. NOT the end result. That way I can make every day a victory instead of seeing my "lack of progress" as a failure. One day at a time.. one meal at a time...one exercise routine at a time.... finsihs them and claim victory for that day...

You may be obese, but you are far far from ugly. You are quite lovely!
What helped me stay focused during my plateaus (which happens, they just do) is I began taking measurements. Even if the scale wasn't moving I could still see inch loss each month. It really helps psychologically to see that.
I swear by mini goals. I am all about beating this 10 lbs. I'm getting thru the 90s right now!

I'll be frank, old destructive eating habits are STILL with me. For all I know they always will. I still turn to food for comfort and in times of stress. I just try to do better. I return to healthy eating asap after a 'bad' phase. I plan events I know will trigger. For ex, on Sats I have a writing deadline by midnight. I'm not as likely to stress eat if I don't wait to the last minute to get it done. Of course, I am quite prone to waiting until the last minute. If Sat rolls around and I haven't written a thing I plan my meals to be low calorie-wise so there is room for munching while I'm writing. I try really hard to not look at 'mess ups' as "well I blew it of course yada yada", but think what can I learn from this? What could I have done diffly? What will I do the next time this situation arises?

You can do this. You are beautiful

I have been losing weight very well. Recently it has slowed down..... well stopped actually. I am eating about 1500 calories a day and try to move at least 4 times a week burning about 500 calories each workout. I still have 100 pounds to be at my ultimate goal weight. I am struggling with emotions. I keep thinking that I have so far to go and that I will never get there. I can't see where I have lost the weight and still hate to stare at myself in the mirror, all I see is a very obese ugly woman.
I don't want to give up on myself anymore. I feel the old destructive eating habits rearing its head. Has anyone ever felt like this? If so, how have you been able to deal with it and move past your emotions and lose the weight?

Hey, we all pout and get down for a day or two. But, the last thing you want to do is ruin the progress you've made by feeling sorry for yourself. Really...we all understand and have been there. I say keep on track.. maybe quit weighing yourself for a while. Man, when the scale doesn't move it ruins my motitvation and is the perfect excuse to go off plan.

Keep with it... logic dictates that you'll break through your plateau..which is just part of the body catching up with the process...and you will start losing again.

REad the success stories everyday...those help too. you can do this!!

I am feeling much the same as you at the moment, I have been doing so well, but the last few days have been very hard and I have been wanting to eat 'comfort' food and I don't know why. Although I have lost 2 stone I don't see any difference and am still wearing the same clothes.
I know its not a good idea to think I have so much weight to loose yet and try to aim for one pound a week weight loss.

I am going to take some of the advice that people have been giving you and concentrate on just one day at a time and get back to increasing my activity and hopefully will get the enthusiasm back as well.

Focus less on that end result and the numbers on the scale. Focus on the process and becoming a healthier and more fit individual. Focus on learning how to eat properly and get your nutrition. Focus on your fitness. When you focus on these things, everything else falls into place...plus, when you focus on these things you actively learn how to feed yourself properly, so when you do get to maintenance, it's no biggie and you don't have to worry so much about the yo-yo effect.

Focus on the results and you rarely see the change; focus on change and you'll always see the results.

A couple of things:

1 - mini goals (and rewards) are a great idea. I used 5 lbs a month even though my overall goal is 100 lb.
2 - take a look at your BMR; you have to be eating above that to lose weight.
3 - if you need to try eating more, add 100 caloroes per day and see what happens. You can't get too far off track that way.

Try breaking your goals down. Im in Australia so I use kg. But I have broken mine down into 5kg block with a few extra added ones here and there. It makes it a lot easier and it doesn't seem so full on.

Also always remember how far you have come not how far you have to go. You are in a much better position then you were how ever many months ago!!