I don't know what to do... :/

I doubt 1450 is enough food for you. You don't have to give up any of those "bad" foods, just limit your intake. If you need support please add me.

I can't seem to stick to any diet or lifestyle change ..
I can't seem to just eat 1450.
I can't seem to stay away from the chocolate, cookies, burgers, fatty foods, trail mixes, ect.

Well, you can start by rewriting those three sentences by saying "I CAN" instead of 'I CAN'T" .....

Make the healthiest choices possible at each meal/snack ...... one meal/snack at a time ......

Baby steps, honey :drinker:

Have you set a long term goal?

When I started my fitness transition it took like three months to commit to just working out.
The first week I tried to just change everything ie. stop eating junk food, just eating "healthy" (fruits,veggies, low fat foods)
I even bought P90X.

So for the fist few days I felt great, then something very unexpected happened. I started getting grumpy, i wasn't sleeping right and i couldn't focus on anything. so without sleep and being grumpy I stopped working out. I was so disappointed in my self that I had given up on P90x That I gave up on eating healthy next thing I knew I was at a fast food joint ordering a number 1 super sized with 2 deserts.

A few weeks went by and a few dozen doughnuts and a lot of fast food. I found myself again ready to try a change this time I would try just p90x. I figured all that jumping around would be enough to get me in shape and I would just try to cut back on the junk food a little. This time I made it about a month I was feeling great working out eating what I wanted. Day 30 hit and I stepped on the scale and I had not lost any weight. I was devastated. I quit working out and was eating the same junk again by the end of the week.

Two weeks later I was ready to try again and this time I was determined. I found myfitnesspal I downloaded the app to my phone. I started learning about food' not just what is bad for you but what exactly each food group does for you. In my first week I learned that I was addicted to salt and sugar, so I cut it out of my diet. It was hard because salt and sugar are in almost everything we eat. After two weeks of limiting my sugar and salt I wanted to quit again. So i did, for a day I ate what ever I wanted and most of the junk food didn't taste the way I remembered from the weeks before. At this point I realized I had eaten the bad food for so long that I had become addicted to salt and sugar. I got right back on my new diet and slowly introduced good sugars back into my diet with fruits. I cooked all my meats with Mrs. dash seasoning. My first weigh in I lost 15 pounds and I hadn't done one work out in 30 days.

The change I had made wasn't to my life style it was how I viewed my life. I now have a 4 year goal. I strength train three days a week because I want to. I cater to my body's needs on a weekly basis and I don't beat myself up if I eat something unhealthy once in awhile. In the year I have been doing this I have lost 35 pounds and I am now working on fitness goals.

Keep thinking about what you want
Set a long term goal
Try cutting salt and sugar just for a week or two
If you cheat on your plan don't stress it just try again tomorrow

You have to tell yourself, "I WILL do this". I was another sweet and salty addict. At the end of May I decided, enough! So, I've only been at this a little over a month. I've lost 10 lbs. It was hard at first but, you have to be committed. I chose to exercise 3-4 times a week (hope to build up to more). It takes determination to do it. Every morning I just want to stay in bed when I think of getting up and doing aerobics. But, I make myself get up and do it.

The cravings will get better. After only 6 weeks I don't hunger for the goodies very often. If I cave and have something "bad" I don't get all upset, I just write it in my food diary and try to balance it out somewhere else. I occasionally allow myself something I crave but, plan it, I limit the quantity and don't make it a regular thing. I need this perk less and less. It's all psychological.

The biggest help, for me, is to plan my meals ahead of time (sometimes 2-3 days). This way I know what I can have, I have time to balance my calories and, if I know I'm going out for dinner, I can eat my other meals accordingly. I hate getting caught in a food rush (when I'm hungry, don't know what to eat and just start grabbing anything/everything that I see).

Stick with this. Be determined and committed. Tell yourself you CAN do this and you will.

Start slow. Don't try to change everything all at once, that is what leads to the yo-yo effect (I know this because I'm guilty of it). Start by cutting out soda (or some other junk food), then cut out something else, and keep going from there. Keep healthy snacks around the house for when you are really craving something. I like to keep portioned out pieces of Ghirardelli 86% cacao chocolate in my pantry, and a small baggie of almonds in my car. Plan, plan, plan, a lot of foods can be made ahead of time and used when needed (quinoa is my favorite).

This is from NPR: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=102728123
Strategies that help 4 year olds not eat marshmallows can help me, too!

In my first week I learned that I was addicted to salt and sugar, so I cut it out of my diet. It was hard because salt and sugar are in almost everything we eat. After two weeks of limiting my sugar and salt I wanted to quit again. So i did, for a day I ate what ever I wanted and most of the junk food didn't taste the way I remembered from the weeks before. At this point I realized I had eaten the bad food for so long that I had become addicted to salt and sugar. I got right back on my new diet and slowly introduced good sugars back into my diet with fruits. I cooked all my meats with Mrs. dash seasoning. My first weigh in I lost 15 pounds and I hadn't done one work out in 30 days.

The change I had made wasn't to my life style it was how I viewed my life. I now have a 4 year goal. I strength train three days a week because I want to. I cater to my body's needs on a weekly basis and I don't beat myself up if I eat something unhealthy once in awhile. In the year I have been doing this I have lost 35 pounds and I am now working on fitness goals.

Keep thinking about what you want
Set a long term goal
Try cutting salt and sugar just for a week or two
If you cheat on your plan don't stress it just try again tomorrow

This is what I found too. I cut out extra salt and sugar (cakes, cookies, crackers, candies, etc...) for almost a month and then when I went to eat it again I found that it just didn't taste as good as I remembered. It tasted 'over' sweet and 'over' salty. It made my fingers and feet swell and it just over all made me feel physically bad. The next day I did not even feel the urge to eat the junk and I have just recently gone through my daughter's birthday and had only one slice of cake and was content. In the past I would have had two slices at the party with ice cream and then if there was any left I would have eaten it for breakfast, lunch and dinner until the cake was gone. But not this time. This time I got home with half the cake left and I cut it up in to pieces and had my daughters deliver it to the neighbors and there is now one slide left that I am saving for the birthday girl for when she get's back from her sleep over with her friend. That slice is sitting in there and I have no urge to go eat it.

u don't get the will power
you eat all that s tuff and exercise it off and stay under calories