Does my wife really, really love me?

TheRoadDog
TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
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I lost something, I'm not quite sure what it is or where it's gone off to. I've been trying to find out what it was for quite some while now, as that would make it easier for me to find where it went. It's been quite the rough few months, I've only just made it through thanks to the tons of love from family and friends. I'll have to figure this out on my own, but for now all hugs appreciated.Also, lately the materialistic aspects of my life have become rather repulsive to me. The more my clothes are worth, the less I feel I'm worth. That would possibly be my main issue with diminishing hairline as well. Which clashes with my instinct to never look dishevelled, thus creating a very confusing aspect of my current state of existence.In addition, my sociophobia is to be commended as it has reached an all time high. It's even starting to seem like agoraphobia, which isn't too pleasant. In addition to all this, I'm not sure my wife really really really loves me. I've been drinking a lot lately and she doesn't even warn me that it could be bad for my liver. I've been putting a lot of money in the household account every month, but she never even calls to thank me when it posts to her account. I mean if it was truly "true Love" then why did she get married once before she met me. I mean, she had two kids even. I probably wasn''t her first. These small indicators add up and cause doubt and increase my self-loathing. I feel fat and dumb. Then, I have to consider the fact that I might need some bolstering. The other day my wife and saughter went out shopping. All day. Stopped and got Red Robin for lunch. Did they bring me a doggie bag? Nope. Just ate and didn't even consider my nutritional needs. I'm almost out of cigars too. Everyoneknows I like my cigars, but no one picked me up any. Would it hurt them to check my Humidor once in a while. Honestly, I'm down to my last 24 La Gloria Cubanas. Do they even take into consideration that it takes 5 to 7 days to ship out once ordered? Apparently not. I don't know if I can go on in this kind of loveless relationship.

What are your thoughts? Does my wife really, really love me?

I look foreward to your observations. I can't figure this out on my own.
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  • Rompers616
    Rompers616 Posts: 307
    Sounds like she's trying to cause you stress, thus causing your early demise. She will then give your cigars to another man. Sorry.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Don't worry about your wife. You sound unsure and unhappy with yourself.
  • CountingCaloriesSuxass
    CountingCaloriesSuxass Posts: 387 Member
    I didnt read it...can you please divide into smaller paragraphs, so I can read it. Thanks.
  • xvxCelticWandererxvx
    xvxCelticWandererxvx Posts: 2,890 Member
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  • AmyP619
    AmyP619 Posts: 1,137 Member
    I didnt read it...can you please divide into smaller paragraphs, so I can read it. Thanks.

    This. I stopped at "I lost something." Sorry I can't help.
  • fannyfrost
    fannyfrost Posts: 756 Member
    Well most of the things I am hearing sound like you feel neglected. That doesn't mean your wife doesn't love you. You may be looking for things your wife in her daily life is not thinking of. What you probably need to do is talk to your wife and tell her. I know that my husband gets on my case about not buying him food. So I ask before I go food shopping what he wants from the store, the answer is "nothing" then the next day, "you didn't buy me anything" to which I usually answer "I bought.... ,but you didn't tell me what you wanted".

    My other question is:

    Are you going for therapy for your issues? If the answer is no, well your wife may be like "he isn't doing anything to help himself, I give up" maybe she is frustrated with the situation. Maybe your wife also needs to know what you are thinking. If your not talking or saying anything she doesn't know. Get your butt to therapy and maybe even couples or family therapy. Your drinking to me is an indication that you are self medicating.
  • holeshottdr
    holeshottdr Posts: 364 Member
    If she actually reads what you posted then yes she does. If not, just break up.
  • HappyNinjaStar
    HappyNinjaStar Posts: 353 Member
    tough love moment:

    1) cliche though it may be, who will love you if you do not first love yourself?
    2) have you thought about your wife lately? Have you both gotten into a rut where you're kind of living your own lives in parallel without really including each other? You complain that she hasn't considered you or done for you, but have you considered her and done for her with out being asked?
    3) do for others what you would have them do for you. If you want to see if your wife really really loves you, show her how much you really really love her. I'm pretty sure she will reciprocate and then some.
  • AmyP619
    AmyP619 Posts: 1,137 Member
    and here come the sincere, helpful, thought-provoking posts. *giggling uncontrollably*.
    Just get a divorce. Works every time! ;)
  • CountingCaloriesSuxass
    CountingCaloriesSuxass Posts: 387 Member
    If she actually reads what you posted then yes she does. If not, just break up.

    If she can read this, she is my hero
  • Kindone
    Kindone Posts: 138 Member
    The true key is if she gives you long gazes while you cook. Have you tried bringing her candy and texting her incessantly?
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    You want her to tell you drinking is bad for you, but you also want her to buy you cigars?
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    She doesnt buy you cigars because she doesnt want you to kill yourself, and doesnt feed you greasy red robin to keep you alive. Sounds like love to me.
  • Kalee34
    Kalee34 Posts: 674 Member
    You totally crack me up!! Sounds like you are too focused on yourself. Cut your wife some slack.
  • Krizzo87
    Krizzo87 Posts: 14,186 Member
    :laugh:

    As always, your posts entertain the hell out of me. :flowerforyou:
  • bookworm_847
    bookworm_847 Posts: 1,903 Member
    The true key is if she gives you long gazes while you cook. Have you tried bringing her candy and texting her incessantly?

    Top notch advice right here :wink:
  • DorothyR87
    DorothyR87 Posts: 113
    First, I hope this post is totally a joke, and if not read below.

    Well I am just gonna go out and give my totally honest, brutal opinion. I read this post to my husband and he agreed with me that you are just being ridiculous.

    1) So you drink more, but expect your wife to make a comment about your liver? You are a grown man that can drink as much or little as you want. It almost seems like you are drinking more to try to get her to make a comment.

    2) You said she went to Red Robin for lunch while she was shopping all day and didn't bring you anything home. If she was shopping all day like you said, chances are she went shopping after lunch to so did you want her to leave the food in the car the whole time? And you complained that no one cares about your nutritional needs. Red Robin is really not healthy at all, so it would seem like she was actually doing you a favor by not bringing you home any.

    3) Why can't you order your own cigars? Why should someone have to do it for you? Order the damn things yourself!

    It sounds like you have super low self esteem and you expect someone to wait on you and hand and foot. Your perceptions of you wife's actions don't mean she doesn't love you, it means you sound a bit self absorbed.

    And end *****y rant!
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Well I am just gonna go out and give my totally honest, brutal opinion. I read this post to my husband and he agreed with me that you are just being ridiculous.

    1) So you drink more, but expect your wife to make a comment about your liver? You are a grown man that can drink as much or little as you want. It almost seems like you are drinking more to try to get her to make a comment.

    2) You said she went to Red Robin for lunch while she was shopping all day and didn't bring you anything home. If she was shopping all day like you said, chances are she went shopping after lunch to so did you want her to leave the food in the car the whole time? And you complained that no one cares about your nutritional needs. Red Robin is really not healthy at all, so it would seem like she was actually doing you a favor by not bringing you home any.

    3) Why can't you order your own cigars? Why should someone have to do it for you? Order the damn things yourself!

    It sounds like you have super low self esteem and you expect someone to wait on you and hand and foot. Your perceptions of you wife's actions don't mean she doesn't love you, it means you sound a bit self absorbed.

    And end *****y rant!

    That's exactly what I was looking for. Total honesty. Now I can move ahead. I see that I might be the real issue here. Thank you so much.
  • VAFJCruiser
    VAFJCruiser Posts: 31
    Hah! Funny damn post! Hopefully i took it the right, as a joke.
  • DorothyR87
    DorothyR87 Posts: 113
    Hah! Funny damn post! Hopefully i took it the right, as a joke.

    I was hoping it was a joke! I couldn't imagine someone really thinking that way, but you never know.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Hah! Funny damn post! Hopefully i took it the right, as a joke.

    Thank you. You don't know how many private messages I have received. On one hand, I don't understand how people can;t see this post as a joke. On the other hand, I appreiciate that some people were truly concerned and wanting to help.

    For the record, my wife is the best thing that ever happened to me and we are very happy.
  • Kimdbro
    Kimdbro Posts: 922 Member
    The true key is if she gives you long gazes while you cook. Have you tried bringing her candy and texting her incessantly?

    OMG, I just spit on the screen. lmao. Great satire OP
  • kckBxer396
    kckBxer396 Posts: 460 Member
    Hah! Funny damn post! Hopefully i took it the right, as a joke.

    That's how I took it...
  • allisonrinkel
    allisonrinkel Posts: 224 Member
    tough love moment:

    1) cliche though it may be, who will love you if you do not first love yourself?
    2) have you thought about your wife lately? Have you both gotten into a rut where you're kind of living your own lives in parallel without really including each other? You complain that she hasn't considered you or done for you, but have you considered her and done for her with out being asked?
    3) do for others what you would have them do for you. If you want to see if your wife really really loves you, show her how much you really really love her. I'm pretty sure she will reciprocate and then some.
    This is a good point!
    She probably really does love you, but might not be sure how to help you. I found I had to learn to like myself before I could expect others to love me. It wasn't easy, but once I realized I had to be ok with me, I actually met someone who like me for who I really was, not who I was trying to be before him.
    I wish you the best :)
  • allisonrinkel
    allisonrinkel Posts: 224 Member
    Oh it was a joke. Not a very funny one!! I felt really concerned and sad for you. Im glad you're ok, but jokes like that aren't always very obvious to us people who want to help others feel better!
  • snoopycool
    snoopycool Posts: 37
    For the record, my wife is the best thing that ever happened to me and we are very happy.

    And after this thread? :laugh:
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    For the record, my wife is the best thing that ever happened to me and we are very happy.

    And after this thread? :laugh:

    No problem. She's not allowed to use the computer. I don't like outside influences in the home. She might start thinking for herself.
  • Krizzo87
    Krizzo87 Posts: 14,186 Member
    I'm thoroughly entertained by the responses on this thread. Never a dull moment with you, OP. :drinker:
  • ruth3698
    ruth3698 Posts: 305 Member
    PARAGRAPHS!!!!!!!! Ok,enough yelling.I can't decide what is funnier.....the original post or the people taking original post seriously
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    lol kind of a funny joke. I didn't really feel sorry for this person; I just thought he was crazy as a soup sandwich. lol good one.

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